I was off finishing my invites but forgot to sign out of facebook, when I had finished and looked at my laptop I noticed a message on the chat pop up from a friend of mine. She's been a great friend and supporting me through all this not being able to conceive malarky.. well anyway I'm in tears. Basically the message was saying how she's pregnant and she is so sorry and she doesn't want to hurt me and then it goes on to say how she is blocking me on facebook so that she doesn't feel guilty for being happy and I won't be able to get hurt by reading about the pregnancy on her status's.. I then went to check her facebook and she has gone, shes blocked me. I can't believe it! I'm over the moon for her, well I would be if it didn't come out like this. I'd never ever make her feel guilty and I'd never walk away from her, just because I can't get pregnant doesn't mean everyone elses lives have to stop. I can't stop crying :-( Everything has gone wrong lately. I've lost like 4 friends in a week!!
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
oh gosh, poor you!!
Cant you call her?
im sure she had the best intentions at heart and she probably just felt awkward. But if you spoke with her she might understand - its a bit unfair to facebook dump you like that!!
Hope you can get in touch with her and talk.
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
She doesn't have a mobile phone, her son was playing with it and chucked it! And she no house phone. She lives literally the other side of the country to me so not like I can pop and see her. I'm so gutted she thinks I'd be like that :-(
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
oh im really sorry.
Can you contact a mutual friend of yours via facebook and ask them to ask her if she will at least talk to you.
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
oh hun it sounds like she really didnt want to upset you and thought this was best. cant you log on as your partner and send her an inbox? xxx
Aw, i know the feeling. We cant have children and my auntie is pregnant, my maid of honour is pregnant and my daughters dad is having another baby too! all due in May, I'm over the moon for them but nobody knows we cant have children cos we are worried people wont want us near their children or something in case we get too upset!!
Soon to be Mrs Laura Naylor !!
24th June 2011
CommentAuthorClarabella
Try and find her on fb and ask to be friends again and tell her that your happy for her and just tell her how you feel or if you have any mutual friends maybe get them to tell her?
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Lost this week 2lbs ;0)
Weighs as of 29/9/12 10 stone 12 lbs
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I just got my sister to send her a message and basically told her that I'd never make her feel guilty and I'm really happy for her but the response my sister just got back was "I'm not going to keep it hush hush on facebook and I don't want her being upset reading it, its for the best" :-(
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorKaya
They're making more of an issue of it behaving like this!! I can't belive your friend would do this! Big hugs hun x
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorClarabella
Well if she feels like that and wont talk to you is she doesnt sound like a good friend. Friends are there for you through thick and thin
Started losing weight last year 22/1/11 - 13 Stone 12 pounds
Lost this week 2lbs ;0)
Weighs as of 29/9/12 10 stone 12 lbs
CommentAuthorCharlie
What about sending her an email? I agree with Rhiannonollie that she maybe had your best intersts at heart. Try to be positive
CommentAuthoralimarie05
oh hun, i'm sure her intentions wernt to upset you. she probably felt awkward because she is so happy and didnt want to upset you. she maybe felt like she would be rubbing your nose in it a little. i would try and contact her explaining that you are happy for her, but upset she felt she had to resort to blocking you on fb. **hugs**
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I know she's only doing it because she knows I will find it quite upsetting but to just do it and not actually speak to me about it is a bit harsh. Its really upset me :-(
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
I can understand that she doesnt want to upset you - but you dont want to lose a friend either!
That;s really sad.
Maybe you write a message on your sister account and say 'i will not bother you again if this is really what you want, but i dont want to lose a friend especially at such a special time in their life, I'd love to be there for you and meet little one when he or she comes. Don't let my 'issue' get in the way of our relationship - but if this is really what you want, then so be it I wont bother you again. Good luck' (or soemthing like that - and sorry for the word issue - didnt know what to say)
and leave it at that. if she still doesnt want to know then maybe youre better off without her.
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
huge hugs seems to have been made an issue out of it for nothing really ppl get pregnant all the time and ppl struggle to as well hopefully she will maybe see sense? xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I can't even find her on facebook now and when I go on mutual friends facebook pages she's not on showing up as she's completely blocked me, not just removed me as a friend
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
wow! This is way over reacting (on her part I mean)
Give her a few days then maybe try contacting her someway just one more time - then walk away if she still doesnt want to know.
You dont need people around you that think that telling you on facebook is cool, and then just blocking you completely. thats worse than being dumped by your boyfriend via text!!
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorboo
Oh No! I hope she rethinks what she did soon and you get to talk to her at least xx
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I'll be 9 when I get married....
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
If she'd actually speak to me then I could tell her how happy I am for her, I'm really pleased. Ok I agree that it gets a bit much when all you ever see is baby this baby that and bump talk but I just get on with it, I can't let it hurt me and she knows that, I told her exactly how I felt when I found out my sister was pregnant so she knows full well I'd be ok with her pregnancy. This is her 4th baby too and I've been ok with the other 2 kids she's had in the space of me finding out I cant have kids! grrrrrr
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
this is just weird behaviour - try not to let it get to you.
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
She's making more of an issue out of it than it really would be. I'm really happy for her :-( Now all I keep thinking is everyone that is pregnant at the moment feeling the same way as her, a few of my friends are pregnant and they've kinda vanished, maybe thats why :-(
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i would just leave it for a while hun, maybe she likes the attention she is getting right now and you doing the chasing, she'l soon come back if she is a real friend.
CommentAuthorJilly17
wow now that is harsh! If she was a true friend she could have at least given you the opportunity to respond and like you said you have gone through 2 other pregnancies with her. To be honest it sounds like she does not deserve you as a friend at all. It is different of course but when I became ill I lost alot of so called friends but the ones I have are fantastic and they made room for new, real friends to come into my life. Try not to take it too much to heart, you are better off without her x
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Jesh I can understand her not wanting to hurt you but I would say her deleting and blocking you is more hurtful than you seeing her statuses. That should have been your choice to make not hers.
