Well i saw my dad on monday, and after an argument totally unwedding related we ended up falling out big time.
He told me he didnt agree with my life and hated the way i was living it, and would never come to terms with it. (That i am marrying a girl and not a boy!)
I have told my mum he isnt welcome at the wedding, which he isnt, i want people there who are happy for us! But it hurts soooo much, my whole life i have been a daddys girl, and to now know he wont be walking me down the aisle is crushing me.
I've told the W2B that i dont want a big wedding anymore, i think it will hurt more if there are loads of people there that he isnt. She wont have any of it, and says we are doing it the way we want to... but how do i make it not hurt that my dad isnt there?
The tears have stopped now, after 2 full days of crying, but i just think that is because there are none left.
My own dad told me he would love me more if i was straight :(
Sorry for ranting... just hate that the stupid old man is trying to ruin the best day of my life!!!
Frankie xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
oh bless you sorry to hear he was so insensitive to you. but you do have some time for him to get his act together and apologize maybe even see that the way you live you life is not bad or wrong. many hugs coming your way don't make any be decisions while your upset though honey
Dyslexic
its spelt wrong
I No! I Now! I Know!!!!!
I am NOW MRS LONSDALE!!
CommentAuthorKaya
Aw hun, that's horrid. Up until I met my h2b I'd only ever had serious relationships with women, so I know how families can be!! You're wedding is still 20 months away, so your dad may change his tune. I'm sure he was just saying a lot of the stuff in the heat of the argument, and doesn't really love you any less. Chin up sweetie.... hopefully it'll all get better soon. Big hugs xxx
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorKerrylou
HUGS!! My brother's gay and I know how much it crushed him when his dad told him he'd love him more if he was straight so I really feel for you. You can't help who you fall in love with and it doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman that you want to be with, the fact you can make that commitment out of love is way more important than s exuality (look at all the straight couples who can't do it!!)
I'm sorry your dad is being like this and I wish I could wave a magic wand for you and make it all alright. Some parents never come to terms with their kid's way of life, that's not your fault, it's sad attitude on their part. Don't let him ruin this for you, I know it's tough but you need to live your life for you and not him!
Could you talk to him and tell him how rotten this is making you feel? I hope with all my heart you sort this out xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorFHP2B
Thanks for replying... i wish that could happen. Unfortunately it wont. He has had the same opinion for the last 4 years and has told me he will love me more if iturn straight numerous times. He has said he won't change his mind, and when i said he won't see me again then he said good.
Just hard because of how close we used to be... and im scared that my mum will feel she cant come because he isnt.
I would so just run away and get married, but she is right, we need to do it how we wanted, and how we have planned, and paid for!
Your day will still be amazing with out him there hun, you don't need him there with his negativity, and I'm sure you're mum will still definitely come... she wouldn't wanna miss her little girls big day cos of some stupid man's small mindedness!!
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorKerrylou
What Kaya said :)
Anyone that makes you cry isn't worth your tears, anyone who is worth your tears will never make you cry! (cliche but very true!!) xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorFHP2B
Thank you :)
Well at least i'll get cheered up this weekend, off to Rome, woo woo xx
CommentAuthorKaya
Ooooh very nice.... :-) xxx
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
Oh very gelous I really want to go to Rome
Dyslexic
its spelt wrong
I No! I Now! I Know!!!!!
I am NOW MRS LONSDALE!!
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I'm told Rome is divine and it sounds like just the tonic you need! You don't have room in your luggage for a stowaway do you? :D xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorHalloween_Bride
Huge hugs hun, i can only reiterate what kerry & kaya have said
As i was just saying to my mate at the end of the day your born gay and as long as you 2 love each other thats the main thing, i know it hurts that your dad isnt happy hopefully he will come round one day, & i really hope your mum still comes to the wedding.
If one of my 2 boys turned around and told me they were gay SO WHAT? they arent hurting anyone & i wouldnt love them any less
chin up hunnie xxx
Little Miss StressHead
I speak my mind if ya dont like it then tough
Men cant live with them, cant legally kill them
I'm like Marmite you either love me or hate me!!
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Weve had something similar in our family recent with my cousin getting married to her long term girlfriend and her parents not turning up. Its crazy. If your dad wont walk you down the aisle its his loss hun. I think attitudes of some of our parents generation are unlikey to change which is really sad. Dont let it ruin your big day. xx
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2 brilliant wonderful boys, a wonderful life
in Cornwall. Happiest woman ever!
Now making our house a home. Blessing 2014.
CommentAuthorChrissy
Just wanted to say that I agree with everything the other girls have said and that I am sure you will have a wonderful wedding once you come to terms with the fact that your Dad is just living in the dark ages. I guess he is who he is but, you are who you are and although I don't know you I can feel you are a warm, sensitive, caring woman and I pray that one day he will come to his senses and realise that his amazing daughter is just that, amazing, regardless of her sexuality. Big hugs and much love hun. Hope you feel better soon and have fun at the weekend xxx
JD is taken so I'll settle for being Mrs Marge :o)
CommentAuthorelsie
Shed a tear for you when reading that. :*( What a shame your dad is going to miss out on such an important day. Shame on him!! He's being a prat, and has found something he knows really, really hurts you & just keeps using it. I could slap him!! *long arm cosh from Worcester to your dad*. You're going to have a beautiful day marrying your gorgeous wife. I know it will hurt not to have your dad there but IMO he really doesn't deserve the honour. Big hugs. xxx Rome sounds amazing!
