i dont know what to do!!!!! my mum and dad divorced when i was 7, i have an older brother and an older sister......im the baby of the 3! i left home at 16 because i didnt get on with my mum. my dad was always in other countries with the army although he is no longer in the forces anymore, i still never hear from them! my dad is moving to New York to be with his new woman, my mum lives 10 miles down the road and I have not seen her since summer last year! i always offer to pick her up and take her home......its not a problem! but she never comes. she has 2 days off a week, but she always goes to my sisters. my sister has never done anything with her life, she does not work, she has 4 kids, and she has everything!!! ( courtesy of the tax payer) and my mum thinks thwe sun shines out of her ****! if i messga emy mum on facebook, she never messages back but she posts things about playing games on it so i know she has been online she cant be bothered to message back! i have talked to her about it, i have even fallen out with her about it.......but im always the bad one! she has my sisters kids and goes there every week without fail......i have lived in my house for nearly 4 years and she has been round twice with my sister! my dad has only been up once!!! my sister was married last year and my dad gave my sister away and my mum sat on the top table (my dad didnt, he sat with his partner instead) but i dont think my dad has earnt the right to give me away, and i dont particularly want my mum to sit by me on the to table! they have always told my sister how proud they are of her etc etc blardy blah.......i run my own business, i am area manager for a company and i have 2 children of whok they dont know. infact.....me and craig went to morisons weeks ago, and my mum was standing outside waiting for a taxi. she didnt speak to craig much, didnt make a fuss of the girls who she she never sees.....and what reallly got to me, was when we went in, Leah tugged on her dads sleeve and asked "who was that lady dad?" - how awful is that???? i dont know what to do. i want a nice wedding but im fussed about it being big.....i would like it to be quite private and small, but i have nobody to give me away, so im going to have to walk down the aisle on my own and we cant have a top table as such! it will only be me, craig and our 2 girls, but is that fair on craigs parents? what would you do??????
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Ooooo I know all about this one. My brother could never do anything wrong while I was always in trouble. Its amazing just how spiteful and horrid a two year old can be by all accounts. You know you are better off without them. You don't need them there on your big day and there are ways around it. I'm not even having a top table. Its not because of the family issues its just because I hate being center of attention and would hate to be sat on it so we are going on a round table with the rest of Kev's family. The bridesmaids are then going to sit on tables around the room with the other guests and their own friends and family. I'm having my MOH walk me down the aisle as she is deserving enough to do so. Who gives a crap what other people think? If they play no part in your life normally then they shouldn't get the credit for you on your big day. x x
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I agree with Jo - if they're so absent from your life that one of your kids has to ask who her grandmother is then I wouldn't bother with them xxx
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CommentAuthorAvril
thats exactly what i was thinking!!! the hard thing is, when i DO see my mum, she is lovely. but other times she makes us feel really unwelcome! i hate it! i dont want a top table either really, i hate being centre of attention too. my sisters wedding last year was not in the best of places but it was great day all the same and she looked lovely. it went really well! but i no that it dont matter what dress i have, they wont like it because i wont look my sister in it.....they wont like the meal, they wont like the cake.....all because it wont be like my sisters wedding! im not competitive in any way and imnot trying to out do her......but i just know that thats what they will all think :-(
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
avril u can hav a top tabl change ur eparents wiv u 2 girls! avril just ignore them! ure weddin will be the best 4 u! dont care what they think! i wud hav ure MOH like jo walk u down aisle!!
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
I think if I was in that situation I would have given up by now, planned a wedding abroad and invited H2Bs parents over to be witnesses and just said blow it. Its not as if you havent tried.
CommentAuthorGriff
We had that I think you should tell her exactly all of this and really emphasise how it made you feel when your child asked who she was. That'll give her a reality check hun xxx
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
my mum and dad r not invited 2 my wedding. they've had no input in my life (except misery), so they r not welcome. Its sad but I'm a much better person without them. Do what u feel is right 4u and ur kids. They're what is more important.
Met 18/09/03
Engaged 06/09/08
Getting married 05/09/17
