Im getting so bloody fed up with one of my 'so called friends' I have a group of best friends..and there is 4 of them...3 of them are great and atleast get back to me asap when I ask them things about the wedding..I've got 1 of them..who in 20months has never even come to see my child once, ignores every text I send, every book of face message... and I had told the other girls that Im not inviting her to the wedding for them reasons.... I then upped my guest list to 50...and provisionally put her on the list as I had room..but Im starting to have second thoughts again...I've set up my hen night, and everyone has paid their deposit but her!! I havnt heard a peep from her at all....but apparently shes mentioned it to one of my other friends..saying she doesnt understand what it is im doing... its getting ridiculous.. Im not turning in to a bridezilla am I?

Its just fustrating, because even though she ignores me....shes quite pally with the rest of the girls..we're all meant to be 'good friends' but I cant understand why she would ignore me, I've never done anything to her!!!

Rant over...

The issue is...when I see her..shes all larrdy dahh..and everythings rosey, and she does the whole ''ill have to pop over and see you next week sometime'' and it just never happens... I can take the fact shes not the most fabulous friend...but i cant stand being ignored... Thing is... my other friends were subtley always asking if id decided if she was coming or not yet...they never told me I should invite her, they kind of know the line....but I know they want her there so we're a group...but I just feel really uneasy inviting someone who is so crappy and ignorant.. lol

It's your guest list and not their's. Can they not function w without her? Will they not show without her?
I know that it is easier said then done but I wouldn't worry too much about this. She obviously can't and won't make the effort. It isn't worth giving her free rent in your head.

She sounds like a "good time" friend rather than a good friend. I'd only invite her to the full do if there is no one better to invite. You could extend an evening invite to her in compromise. If you have talked about the wedding a lot in front of her it would be rude not to. I just wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't show.

It's annoying me more because I spoke to one of the girls last night about it, and they don't understand how bad it is... I don't get any agreement from them...they just say hardly anything about the whole situation which annoys me. We are all supposed to be going out tonight and I've found out the girl I'm annoyed about has invited my best mate over to get ready at hers..so it just irritates me because she's obviously got time to arrange things, and it annoys me that my best mate doesn't even nudge her in e back about my wedding etc.... It's making me feel like I don't even want to go out later with them all

I guess to sum it up, I don't know what to do as my numbers have to be 50 for the day....and I know that this girl even tho she's getting n my nerves ATM and perhaps doesn't deserve a place at my wedding...well I know she will turn up... And we haven't really got anyone to put in her place....so don't now whether to just leave it and invite her as it won't make much difference to the financial side...