Hey girls I only intended on having one flower girl and one page boy (my neice and nephew) anyway after huge arguments I agreed to have H2B neice. She is 11 and I picked the dresses and stuff which was fine. I was out shopping with my sister the other day and seen gorgeous little shrugs for them incase its bit cold. They are ivory with little diamonte button I took them home and showed H2B sister who said she is to old for that just take it back she does not need a shrug! Im raging and I bet she is freezing on the day and it will ruin it for her to! I am not buying a different one for her as it defo was not to young for her she is still a kid for goodness sake she is only 11 but her mum treats her more like a grown up. xx
CommentAuthormrsmada
i hav little boleros 4 my 2 flowegirls one will be 11 and one will b 3. they both the same and definately not too young for my oldest. i got them cos my oldests dress has shoestring straps and i wanted her shoulders covered a bit more so i think im the opposite to ur hubbys sister. i think kids need to be kids and not treated like mini adults. tel her its ur weddin so its ur way xx
CommentAuthorohfiddles
i would tell the mum she either wears it or the daughter doesnt be a flower girl. it may sound harsh but you have a point about the cold thing, at least that way you wont get blamed for inapropriate outfits if she does get chilly. stick to your guns hun xxxx
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
i wud show it to ur niece without her there.... see what she ses lol xx
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CommentAuthorkatrinatudor
Wow.. i would just say to her that its your wedding day and you choose what happens etc. if you want your niece wearing the shrug for good reasons then i would tell her.. Take control and dont let anyone spoil it for you =]
I would definitely just say that they all have to look the same and that is what they are wearing and if she won't wear it she cna't be flower girl. It is your day after all x
CommentAuthorginge23
mrsmanda I agree and again her dress has little thin straps I sooo dont kno what to do in a way I think F**K u I will take it back and let her freeze although its not the kids fault. xx
CommentAuthorginge23
Oh I dont know If I have the guts to say that to her. xx
CommentAuthormrsmada
yea i no. i'm owt for a quiet life and dont like upsettin ppl. and u are thinkin of her in case its cold. i wud do wot nicola says and show it to the niece. if she is anything like my daughter she wil luv it xx gud luck xx
CommentAuthorJoolsy
OMG thats shocking can't believe she told you to take it back thats awful!! I'm going to get wee bolero cardigans for my 2 flowergirls just incase they get cold I would just say to her you don't want the girls to freeze and thats why you have them and she doesn't need to wear it the full day xx
Officially Mrs Julie-Anne Muir
CommentAuthorginge23
I have spoken to my sister who is my BM and her daughter is my youngest flowergirl she said to me what is the point in keeping it I would just be wasting money. H2B sis is a bit akward she asked me 1st where i got it I said Matalan she said Oh no that is to young for her!!! She likes to shop in Frasers and that is it (well so would we all if we had the money I felt like saying) Think the shrug will be going back for the older flowergirl but will keep it for my wee neice its so cute on her xx
CommentAuthorJoolsy
Aw she sounds like a right yin!! Well if the older girl freezes she has her mum to blame!!xx
Officially Mrs Julie-Anne Muir
CommentAuthorloopylou
I know exactly how you feel hun, i was only going to have my kids as flowergirls and page boy but my h2b's neice threw a right fit and she's 12!! Her mum didn't help either! I eventually gave in and bought her a dress exacly the same as the other girls and she said it's too kiddie for her!!! Cheeky little madam, i've told her she either wears that or isn't a flower girl! Harsh i know but at the end of the day it's my wedding! Likewise it's your wedding and you should have everything the way you want it, hope all works out for you hun xx
CommentAuthorginge23
Lol a right yin I like that Joolsy. xx
CommentAuthorJoolsy
Lol thats the glaswegian in me coming out ha ha xx
Officially Mrs Julie-Anne Muir
CommentAuthorginge23
Loopylou why do people feel they can have a say in what we want!!! I would never ask someone to wear anything hideous or that did not suit them. We have spent a fortune on her daugter and she has not offered one penny (not that I would take it) but she just assumes we buy everything where as my sister is the exact opposite would do anything and everything to help me and has went with everything I like (I guess we have similar tastes.) When we got asked if H2B neice could be a flowergirl it was infront of the whole family I was put in a total situation so I said we had not decided as yet but again a hissy fit was to be had from her. xx
CommentAuthorginge23
Totally Joolsy xx
CommentAuthorloopylou
Exactly The shrugs you got sound lovely! It's the same here my Hb2 sister is a nightmare, she's annoyed she's not a bridesmaid but you got to draw the line somewhere lol. I can just imagine how you felt being asked infront of the whole family, what a dilema. Must be their age!! xx
CommentAuthorCarolanneJune
i would keep it and still make her wearit it is your day and they should be wearing what you want them to x
CommentAuthorCupCake
Let her freeze I say lol I just think people poking their nose in is a right cheek, but they always seem to think it's their right for some strange reason!! I didn't even ask my h2b's neice to be bridesmaid it was an unwritten rule!! to be honest I think I'm going to be ripping my hair out nearer the time with her outfit too as she's a right spoiled madam and has already told me her dress better be pink!! :0 Tough tits! My dress is pink so she'll be wearing ivory with pink sash ... I just know it's going to cause trouble! I feel your pain x
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CommentAuthorginge23
Lol cupcake tough tits i like it. Iv decided the shrug is going back why should i waste my money for her not to wear it. xx
CommentAuthorwelshcerys
Agreeing with Nicola - show the niece and see how she likes it lol
CommentAuthorCupCake
ginge I agree don't waste your money ... if she's cold you can just sarcastically blame her mother in ear shot of her on the day... you're allowed you will be the bride lol xxx ha ha ha
