Basically, my aunt has paid for my wedding dress for me, which I absolutely love. But as its stored at her house (I have a dog that moults like crazy and an extremely nosy mother) I've only tried it on once, so I asked her to send me some pics of it. The first one she sent was of her best mate wearing it, which was taken before I had the chance to try it on myself. I dont think she meant to send me that one. I'm really upset by this, but my aunt cant see the problem, as it was preloved and "people would have tried it on in the shop anyway". She says she only put it on her so she could see the way it falls and to check the condition of it, but why would she have taken a photo with her mate grinning like a goon?!

Am I overreacting ladies??

I think that is a bit off as someone else trying it on may damage or mark it. I wouldn't be happy. xx

that is so wrong! can you keep it somewhere else like a bm house or in laws so no one else can try it on? x

it will get dirty if people keep trying it on! ask her if she will pay for it to be cleaned and i bet she wont! even at a friends would be better wouldnt it?

I have asked her if she can pack it away and put it in the attic until further notice, but who knows whether she actually will! I'm going to ask a few of my friends if they can take it but most are still living with parents and dont have much room. I think she will be quite offended if I store it somewhere else so that might be a kick up the bum for her. I'm glad I'm not making a mountain out of a molehill here though :) thanks everyone

get a dress cover and have it in your house .....i have 2 dogs so i know the covers work , how dare she let someone else put it on ...it may be preloved but it is now YOUR DRESS

Im gobsmacked! I would be furious if i found out someone else i knew had tried my dress on, your are completely within your rights to be cross!

lala.. the dog isnt too bad but the other problem is the other DOG known as my mother, who is a total cow and would first give me her scathing opinion of it and exactly how massive it will make my backside look and how someone with a kid shouldnt wear white, then probably put it on while I am out, parade around in front of her mates in it and post the pictures on FB, before "accidentally" damaging it

I'd be peed off if I let someone look after anything and found they'd been trying it on/letting friends try it on; I mean, if you were at a friend's house and they were like 'Ooh, look at this wedding dress I'm looking after, want to try it on?' most normal people would surely be like 'Err, no?'... If it was just a regular dress I'd be annoyed, but a wedding dress?! It could easily get marked or damaged, you just don't do that.

I also think it's irrelevant if other people have tried it on, because the difference is you don't know those people and they don't know you; whereas you hardly want people you know trying it on, it makes it less special >-(

I hope you get it sorted. sit down with her and just tell her what the dress means to you - if she has never been married and never will like you say - then maybe she just doesnt understand how it feels.

I have to admit, Before I got engaged i probably would have tried someone elses wedding dress on (after asking them of course) but now I have a dress of my own, i know how personal it is and how hurtful it would be for someone else to wear it.

Dont get angry with her, just explain to her that you appreciate everything she'd done, but you would love to make sure that that dress is yours and yours alone.

I have just noticed something on your signature!! you say you are 143.6 lbs!!
you dont look near it in that photo of you!!!!!

Oh and thanks haha x

Aww thank you, thats so nice of you! :) x

its not her dress.....its still yours! i would be totally upset too x

I have asked a few people but they are all being quite evasive.. if she keeps it in the attic like shes said then I would be ok with that, as she lives closer than any of my friends and is always available when I want to go and try it on. Thanks everyone, I feel better now after my rant and a little "discussion" with my auntie :)

I have two dogs - and the reason i woudlnt want to keep my dress at my house is not because of the hair, but because i am soooo clumsy that I will be stupid enough to leave the dress out and they will start chewing away!!

I havent told my h2b this - but when he was an usher to his friend i layed out the suit on the sofa to take a look, I thought it was lovely and he was going to look so smart so i ran over to him in the other room to give him a hug - I came back to the living room and the dog was sitting on the suit!! LUCKELY they didnt pee on it or anything - they were only about 12 weeks old at this point and not totally trained yet!! eeeek!
so that gives you an idea of the type of person i am - clumsy!!! i dont think my mum would trust me to keep the dress safe - and when I told her my shoes arrived the other day she practically screamed at me to keep them away from the dogs!! hehehe!

Hey Millwalljayne,

I'm normally quite laid back about this wedding planning milarky and all the finishing 'touches' that seem to stress some people out very much. However this is on another level for me I havn't even thought about dresses yet but I would HATE that. To think people are parading about in your dress, your very special, very expensive- one day in a lifetime dress. Well.... I think it's flaming awful of them....

If you were to have it at your house how would your mum know, do you live together?

:-)

Oh god Luce haha now I'm getting visions of her pushing round the Dyson in it, and washing up with pink Marigolds and all sorts! Amy - yeah I have recently moved back in with my mum to save for the wedding, its a strained relationship at the best of times lol! I would trust my other half 100% not to peek but I trust my mum about as far as I could throw her!

I would have gone mad. I would put it in storage at a friends house that I could trust not to get it out if shes going to let ppl try it on, especially before you do. I would be so miffed. She had no right to do that.

I have just told my other half about your situation and even he just sat there with his mouth wide open! If he knows it's a no no, then surely your Aunt must!

lol i just said the senario to my h2b he is laid back too, and he said he wud be fumin 2!

I would not be very happy, you have every right to feel the way you do. Thats not on at all. I would have it moved if you have any other options to store it? Friends house?

Thats good, she better not! or she will have us girls to answer to haha!

I know I'm in the minority here but I don't think it would bother me that much - unless anything happened to it and then I would be absolutely furious and demanding a new one! x

Haha yeah actually thinking about it, I am the same with a lot of things. Newspapers are a particularly bad one lol if my other half buys one for me then dares to open the pages before me I have a tantrum. I thought I was just strange ;) x