very **** off here with a now distant friend.... my friend has been engaged for just over 4 years and the past two weeks has annouced they have set a date october 2014.. every min was putting status on fb about the wedding .. "omg im so excited, head is brimming with colour schemes and ideas, booking the venue, venue booked ,800..+ days till the big day "..so she asked me on one status when my wedding was booked for .. so thought nothing of and told her the 2nd nov2013 and and on the countdown post she put .. for a laugh i put 507 which was how many days was left till mine ...the very next day she put bought it forward only 499 days left... which is one week before mine.....so its been bugging me a bit as my concern ios yeah maybe we dont move in the same circle of friends any more ( her not me she has distanced herself from our group over time) we would still have a few guests that would be the same.. do i have a point???

so cause it was bugging me this morningi decide to express my concerns to her and she acted like she never had a clue (might be the truth.. no idea) but when me and my h2b booked ours first we wanted this yea r6th oct our anniversary turned out another friend had decided on that date so with everything going on this year with 30ths and weddings we decided to do it next year .. family and friends been there are very important, h2b cus is getting married towards the end of sept so we have booked a good month away from that so taken into consideration that weddings are costly .. even for a guest and especialy for my guests as its not in my home town .. so its traveling and stop overs.. all mounts up... but with our weddings now been a week apart, and hers first ... i dont want any of my guests not coming cause they cant afford both and my been the more costly option...

am i really wrong to feel a bit put out and a little deflated???

How many of your guests would it be about? if its only a few i wouldnt worry about it & to be honest the people that matter the most will be there no matter what, i do see were your coming from tho x

its not many at all but there is one in particular thats very close to both of us and she knows it, ive known her and her family all my life they count me as family in a way.. and her neices are going to be flower girls at mine but at one point they were bestfriends not so much now as the friend in question lives in bristol so for her its going to be very costly... and if she has to decide between the two i'll be devostated.. xx

in the 3 weeks they have decided on the date twice , shes told everyone the venues booked , invites, cars and photographer are free?? not sure how ...shes worked out here favours, wedding dress is chosen as are the bridesmaid dresses and tiaras are even bought she has thrown herself in to this and is telling everyone every detail... so think my chances may be slim.. :( xx

she may just be bluffing hun x

mmm .. doubt it .. she works at the racecourse in the organising team of the race meetings...so think it maybe the truth .. xx

Sorry to sound harsh but does it matter if shes getting married before you!! Getting married shouldnt be about whos getting married first or if someone has choose the same colour or anything else and who is going to a wedding and who isnt....It should be about two people coming together and being happy for the rest of your lives! Thats just my option x

i dont mean to sound harsh either but if you read you might realise it wasnt about who is getting married first it was mainly about us sharring a number of guests one been quite important to me and i know shes quite important to her along with a few others ... just think its inconsiderate of especialy as she was getting married late oct, then when she new my date she moved her wedding forward a year to one week before mine.. you can see how it comes across .. having my close friends at my wedding is important to me and h2b as he gets on really well with that group of friends ... i would hate for them to be put on the spot as to which wedding they can afford to go to ... and hate the fact that this might happen due to her moving her wedding.. xx

was stressing cause my friend lives in bristol.. cost alot to get up to york .. so having two close mates weddings a week apart one in york and with mine been in middlesbrough would also be more expensive due to more traveling and staying over so like i said i would hate for her to have choose down to money.. if it was me been that guest not sure id be able to do both cost wise... so hence i was stressing a bit .. xx

im not now safe in the comfort that one of my oldest and deaest friends has said she is defo coming to mine no matter what just hope the other few feel the same.. like my friend said dont she isnt worth it .. which is right she isn't but my few friends are xx

i would feel the same hun try not to let it get to you xx