Ladies, I need to vent so here goes..... Just had a phone call from my dad. Me and your mom have been talking and we want to invite some more people to the day. Right ok, and who are they. Nikki, right the woman who nicks things and has never even stepped foot in my house. Secondly a couple that they met on holiday!!!!!! Are u kidding me this is OUR wedding not a bloody BBQ! Then they started saying that they feel left out and should have more of an input on the day, I have told them everything that I'm doing, shown them thr budget everything!!! I'm so angry, I never thought I would be in this situation as my parents have always been pretty laid back but now I don't know what to do. They want to come over this weekend and look at my plans but it's making me not want to show them as I think there going to pull apart my ideas!
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
Oh no,how utterly annoying and sorry to say it, selfish of them. Its UR day hun, and its up 2 u and ur H2B who comes surely? Ask them if they had any tom, Dick or Harry come 2 their wedding? As 4 them feeling left out, u cud show them stuff at the wekend, and if they start 2 change things just remind them again its UR day!
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CommentAuthorSam
Are they paying? Maybe you could just give them evening invites. However it's early days, maybe they'll forget by the time invites come out. Hopeful thinking but you never know :)
CommentAuthortrikstaniksta
Oh dear, I agree with NicholaP44-show them some bits on the weekend and if they don't like it tell them it your day! x
CommentAuthorMrsNoz2b
Exactly Nicola! Bloody parents! I can see me going bridezilla on them if they keep it up. Lol. Xx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
That would annoy me too, and I completely see why you're peed off.
However, a lot of the older generation seem to see weddings as reunions, particularly if they are footing the bill. You just need to be firm but fair. Just say that you cannot invite everybody, and let them come to the evening do.
If they arent contributing financially, I'd just not invite them to either if I didn't particularly want them there xx
My Beating Heart Belongs To You
30 August 2013
The First Day Of My Happily Ever After
CommentAuthorShazk
Don't blame you being annoyed at all how rude its ur day!!
I think U should show them some plans at weekend and see how things go from there but think U need to put foot down and like suggested if they really kick off is it possible to invite them to the evening? Xx
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Someone has already asked but are you parents paying for the wedding? If they are then you're in a difficult position as they can dictate more what and in this case who they want. If they aren't paying - it's totally up to you who comes. Trying and explain to them that you're happy for them to come to the evening but you'd rather the day was a bit more personal with just family and close friends. About them feeling involved could you decide on a couple of jobs for them ?
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorMrsNoz2b
Thanks ladies, having a nice glass of wine to calm myself down. They are contributing, and so they have already had there in put but have just decided they want more. I agree with the reunion thing tho, I think that what it's all about but the cost will just end up spiralling! Xxx
CommentAuthorAmyP7
How annoying, yes I would invite them over to have a look at plans to but if they start being to demanding you will have to remind them it's your day, and inviting them to the evening sounds like a good idea x x
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I suspect it comes from the tradition of parents 'hosting' the wedding and dates back to the olden days when marriages where much more about the marrying of two families etc....in victorian times the wedding was pretty much arranged by the brides mother, including the guest list!
Still a pain in the ar5e though...
Xx
My Beating Heart Belongs To You
30 August 2013
The First Day Of My Happily Ever After
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
id b annoyed n all just explain like other posts hav put hav at the evening doo n keep an eye on the woman that nicks things x
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CommentAuthorTamster
Might be controversial but just because their paying that doesn't mean they dictate they are paying for you to have the wedding of your dreams not for them to hold you to conditions it's just out of respect that your showing them the plans ask them why their paying if they say to help you out financially then plans are left to you I agree with letting them have their closest friends there but not to dictate the list so stay calm be honest and stay firm to the things that mean the most to you and bend at the things that don't talk to your other half and make a list one no compromise the second will listen and decide if ya get me good luck x
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