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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    Hi all I was just sat here wondering how I would feel if someone proposed to their other half at our wedding. I've come to the conclusion that I'd be mega pizzled, disppointed and feel disrespected...
    I asked my h2b this same question and I said he wouldn't be massively bothered but he would feel like the shine would be taken away from us...
    I'm wondering how anyone else would feel if this happened at their wedding.....

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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
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    This hasn't happened to me but I'd be really annoyed. Although it would be nice to think that maybe my wedding had inspired someone else to make that commitment I'd be annoyed that they may take the shine off my big day. As a bride I want to be focus of the attention and don't want to be the side show at my own wedding while people fuss around the newly engaged couple. I may sound like a b...h but I only intend on getting married once and want the celebrations to be about me and the hubby! X
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    • Whovianbride
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    depends on when on the day? I would be happy for someone If they propsed towards the end of the day during the evening doo, but before that would be a no no, Its my day! my ceremony, my pictures , my weddign breakfast with, speeches about me and hubby.

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    • LauraM9144
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    me and hubby2b had a conversation about this and we came to the conclusion if its the evening do and the couple had been together a while it would feel good if it was in the middle of our wedding breakfast then we would be seriously p"*S!D off .

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    • MelissaLarner2b
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    Oh no deffo wouldn't want this to happen on my wedding day!
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    • ShannonK05
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    Nay nay nay nay nay!! Nay way!

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    • sarah
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    What a rubbish idea... I'd feel sorry to the woman being proposed to.




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    • Glitterfairy
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    Defo a huge great big NAY!! How dare that person take away the glory of someone elses day. I would have been totally peeved if someone done that at mine.

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    • Mrs T. 2 Be
      CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
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    I'd of hated to have been proposed to on another couples day.
    However, I do think it depends on when in the day and how close the couple are to the bride and groom.
    Also, I'd hope that it would have been run passed the bride and groom beforehand.

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    • Kirsty
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    I would say nay, I even tried to avoid talking about our day when we have been at friends weddings as I thought it was disrespectful (made mental notes about what I liked etc). If they propsed in their own room at night and told us at breakfast I would be happy for them as our day would be over.
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    • clairenina
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    I wouldn't like this. It is the bride and grooms day, and the limelight should be on them. I would be pretty annoyed if someone did that on our day
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    • CommentAuthorRachaelC80
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    We had a couple who got engaged days before our wedding.
    She even said "how good would it of been, if he had proposed on your wedding day"??

    I don't think it would of bothered me??
    I even presented them with an Engagement card during the speeches.

    A wedding day is all about LOVE!!!

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    • Bride of Frank
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    If it was a full on proposal that had been preplanned and they were deliberately demanding the attention of my guests then I might be a bit miffed on the quiet but if it just happened in the spur of the moment because they got caught up in the whole romantic feel of the occasion, I don't think I would mind. Despite the fact of it being my big day, I am also aware that other peoples lives are still going on and evolving all around me and that doesn't stop just because its my wedding day. In my experience, other peoples wedding days have all contributed to me being in the position in which I am now, as originally me and HTB had said we would never get married but with each wedding we attended, we started to warm to the idea. So if a spontaneous proposal was to happen at our wedding, I think I would feel flattered because it would suggest that the couple were moved so much by our special day that they would like the same for themselves.

    However, I am aware that people can be funny about such things, so I try to avoid talking about our upcoming wedding whilst at other peoples weddings and actually feel guilty when someone else brings it up. And we actually kept the fact that we were engaged a secret for a few weeks because we didn't want our engagement to overshadow the upcoming wedding of a close friend in anyway.
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    • RoxanneV
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    I think i would be annoyed, because the wedding is meant to be about the bride and groom. But imagine how embarressed the person would be so for me it would be a big no no
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    • x~Hails~x
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    After the service the speechs, the cake cutting, the first dance and the photos then yeah I don't see why not!
    Just another little memory that will make our day that little bit more special and she will always remember that her journey to wife-dom began when you became one!
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    • Becky1608
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    No!!!!!!!!! I'd hate it!

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    • MrsH-2B
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    Woah !! Talk about stealing thunder !!!! I'd be furious !! Xxx

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    • ~Beauty&TheBeast2Be~
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    I went to a mate's wedding, was going well until the speeches.
    During Father Of The Bride speech, he announced how he was doubley happy, since his other daughter (Bride's Sister) had told them that morning that she was pregnant with the first Grandchild.

    Bride's face dropped and was full of tears.

    I sat next to the main family table, and all i could hear was them talking baby names and baby things.

    I was distraught for the Bride myself. My mate (The Groom) was angry seeing her like this, and said something to the table about whether they could remember this is there day and they had 9 months to talk about the baby. It ended up in a fight between new FiL and Groom. I was rooting for the Groom all the way.

    Which begs the question, if someone did propose at any point you found disrespecting, do you say anything?

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    • Velcro
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    Oh god Lauren that's awful!! I'd be gutted!

    Regarding the OP I don't think I'd be too thrilled..... Though in saying that I agree with both hails and Rachael's comments. I think it's a funny old subject. I would draw the line at it being done before all the formalities are over though I'd be livid.

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    • BeverleyW66
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    I would blow a gasket, especially as everyone coming to our wedding knows how long we have waited for this!

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    • Princess2be
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    I think I would feel a bit miffed to be honest but wouldn't show it. Xx




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    • almost a year wife!!
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    Lauren that's awful! I'd be so upset!

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    • ValentinaK
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    I know someone who did it, accidentally, whilst drunk but didn't make a big thing of it... If it's not like a massive splash about thing then Fine! Just as long as it's not done during speeches or before the first Dance! Weddings are emotional lovely things with an appropriate vibe for declarations of Love! At least everyone wouldrremember,very the wedding for the Proposal! Lol!

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    • sarah
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    Good point Valentina :)




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    • SJJ
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    Im very different on this one, I would love it! Proposals always make me excited and cry even on TV! I love them, love romance! I'd be thrilled and Id want to announce it myself lol xx
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    • *KelBel*
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    No!!!

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    • Bev
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    Honestly I don't think it' would bother me
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    • InDreamland
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    Thank goodness no one did. I'd have been really p'd off. Talk about trying to upstage the happy couple, steal their thunder and just disrespect them!

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    • *The NewMrsMalin*
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    Personally I wouldn't like it as selfishly the day is our big day; no one else's so I would be major annoyed if someone got proposed to :S

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    • BeckyU98
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    i would be really annoyed if this happened. its so disrespectful after spending so long planning for your day and someone steals your thunder. your wedding day is supposed to be the one day that is all about you! x
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    • MrsRusty2B
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    I'd be annoyed and would definitely mention that to the couple after our wedding was over. Like others have said, our wedding day is supposed to be about us, not another couple getting engaged.
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    • barbie86
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    I think it's the height of rudeness TBH.

    I'm not one for the whole 'it's my wedding so everyone's lives need to revolve around it for at least a month, I don't want anyone else to get married or engaged within a month of MY wedding!' attitude that some brides have, but I DO think the couple gets at least the day of their wedding; h3ll, even the weekend!

    I think that proposing at someone's wedding definitely steals the couple's thunder, and I think it's really unfair when they've paid for an hosted an expensive event to celebrate their marriage. I think it's hugely inappropriate. Also, because I'm a good host, if someone did this at ours I wouldn't be able to just ignore it; I know I'd end up making an effort to get everyone excited for them, get them a glass of champagne, etc; and I kind of feel like I shouldn't feel I have to do that on our wedding day. I'm not selfish, and I'm not an attention-seeker, but I'll be honest, I do want our day to be about us.
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    • miss_finch
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    No for me too xx

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    • CommentAuthorFuzzy
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    I'll be honest, I wouldn't be a fan... Like every bride I've worked hard at my wedding and I would be disappointed if someone chose my dance floor to propose. My best friend's work mate propsed to his girlfriend 2 songs after her first dance. She was gutted ):
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    • NataleeM
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    i certainly would not be happy!! lol xxx



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    • emmaaa
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    In two minds really, and it very much depends how it was done. Close friends who kept it private and during the evening party I'd have been really genuinely happy for, but all three of those criteria would be needed, otherwise I would have been pretty cross, very cross if the idea of the fact it was an imposition hadn't occurred to them, and spitting feathers if it was deliberately planned to hijack our celebration. I hated being centre of attention all day, but that was both a right and a responsibility of being a bride, and not someone else's place to interfere with. Anyone who makes a public display of it at any function put on for someone else is freeloading and attention-seeking in my opinion, no-one is more respectful of "life goes on" than me, but to me, we spent a lot of time and money to book one day of people's lives to celebrate OUR love, not to provide someone else with a ready assembled platform and audience and a cheap engagement party.

    Makes me feel a bit bridezilla-ish reading that back! I don't think it's as much the act of the proposal that would rile me as the thoughtlessness behind it, to not even think you might be making an imposition when such a lot of time, emotion and money has been spent to create the couple's perfect day, that's pretty disgraceful tbh.




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    • SoonToBeMrs.C
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    Urghhhh... I am a definite no on this - the day/weekend after fine but on the day is just rude!! I've already had a bit of a strop at OH over a mutual friend announcing their wedding is 3 months before ours now (they got engaged last year and said they were waiting until 2015!) And i thought i was so chilled out! lol! I'm over that now though as i know they will have a completely different wedding to us but proposals on my day are hereby banned!!

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    • InDreamland
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    I'm the same over announcing pregnancies at weddings. M I've known people who go to weddings and announce at the wedding they're pregnant. Save it for another time, not try to steal the limelight from the happy couple!

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    • SamanthaA83
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    I think it would depend on who it is,I think if it was someone close to us I wouldn't mind as long as it was done in the evening rather than during speeches etc lol,i'd like whoever it would be to at least let me know of there plans to propose at my wedding first :) I

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    • CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
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    This would be a big no no from me, it is rude, I would be very hurt if someone did this at my wedding after saving hard for 2 years!! I can't imagine any of mine or OH's family doing this anyway.
    Another huge no no for me would be other women wearing white, I have been to a few weddings where people have turned up in all white dresses, its so rude & attention seeking.
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    • InDreamland
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    I agree, wedding etiquette is not to propose at another couple's wedding, do not announce you're pregnant at a wedding unless it's your own wedding and don't wear white or ivory unless worn with other colours.

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    • almost a year wife!!
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    I agree! X

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    • Elinor Claire
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    I think I'd be alright about a proposal if the person spoke to us about it and we were able to have some say in how it was done. I agree that it shouldn't happen until well on the way through the evening do. I do think that announcing a pregnancy is totally unfair, and I agree about avoiding white or ivory as well. I'm always careful not only to avoid those, but if I know the colours that the bridesmaids are wearing to steer clear of those too.

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    • InDreamland
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    I went to a family friends wedding and the grooms sister had got married just 6 weeks earlier and was a bridesmaid for her SIL. during the drinks reception she was showing guests her wedding photos which was just plain rude x

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    • almost a year wife!!
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    I'd've took them off her! So rude...

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    • LauraK7
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    I'd be really annoyed if this happened at my wedding it's supposed to be your special day not someone else's
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    • Elinor Claire
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    There are a couple of occasions where I'd actually be delighted, as long as it was done after the first dance was finished. I know two men who have been dragging their heels for far too long, and who really need to get down on one knee. I think if either of them approached me I'd be giving them no choice, and insisting that they did it.

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    • InDreamland
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    I just believe that a wedding day should be about the couple getting hitched on that day, anyone else wanting to share some happy exciting news should have the decency to wait until the following day or Weekend.

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    • InDreamland
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    To add to that, at a cousins wedding, another cousin was going around asking aunts and uncles if they would go to his wedding. Another no no in my book.

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    • KarenW25
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    I wish I could say it wouldn't bother me but I'd be gutted. Then I would feel guilty about being gutted, wow, it's complicated. I can't help thinking what a downer it would put on your wedding if there was a proposal and the proposer was refused. Awkward.
 

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