well at beginning of mine and h2bs relationship he asked what i wanted in life and i said all ive ever wanted is to be married and have kids and a good career. he said oh well im not interested in that, watching music channels on tv and as we were flicking beyonces single ladies (if u like it then u shouldve put a ring on it) came up and i just looked at ray and he said well i like it but i aint gunna put a ring on it. so over the next few months i said that was harsh and what does he want in life if not moving on to marriage and kids (he has 1 son but his ex stopped him seeing him when she found out he was in relationship, even though she was in relationship)

and it was like that for 5 months, lying in bed one night and i said about it again joking about and poking fun and he turned round in the dark and said so will you marry me then, and i said are u jokin? and he said no. i was like serious, he said yes. i said your not poking fun u wanna marry me, YES CAZ I WANT TO MARRY YOU, oh ok then yes ill marry u, big kiss and wonderful nooky... ordered our rings and then i went upstairs few days later and he came upstairs and when i turned round he was on 1 knee (bless him hes got dodgy knee and was in agony lol) and gave this long speech about how much he loved me and could never lose me cos hed lose his mind, and i blubbered like a little girl and he said please marry me and become mrs carrie-anne lewis. and i said yes, cue cheesy music and hugs and kisses. then his came a few days later so i did a similar thing to him lol, and then if we ever have a fight and say fine im leaving its over, 10 mins later were kissing and hes reproposing haha i think ive had about 9 proposals off him haha, and now im 6 months pregnant,


so i guess he was interested in same thing haha.

my h2b took me to Corfu and on the last night of the holiday, he went to the bar, while i was getting ready, to have shots to calm his nerves lol. then he said lets go for a walk along the beach, we stopped on the sand for a cuddle, then he asked if id done everything i wanted to make the holiday memorable? all i could think was, what like scooberdiving? and i think i was concentrating on that question so much i didnt notice him getting down on one knee and get the ring out so it was like i blinked and he was asking me to marry him!!
i just blubbered like a baby and jumped on him and said YES!!!
it felt like a scene from a film it was amazing such a good end to an awesome holiday.hes my world x

Hi Paula,
Wrote on here earlier about being in a similar boat and all I can say now is try talking to him about it?
After being on here I asked J if he was actually interested in getting married, or had he been going along with it cos I was happy?
I was expecting him to say yes, he was feeling pressured but actually he turned round and told me "I know you, I have most of a plan now stop trying to rush me or you'll ruin the surprise!" So after all he is interested, but our definitions of "when" were just different - ie. I was being impatient lol!
So yeah, chat to your h2b, see where his head's at, you might get an answer that surprises you and if not it might make him sit up and think :) xx

every girl deserves a special proposal, especially if thats what you want and have dreamed of...
if hes refusing to do it say its what you deserve and to man up and do it or youll find someone who will give you a romantic experience to think back on when your old and grey and to boast to friends about.
tell him to grow a pair x

Paula, I was in the same position last year. By February, we knew we were going to get married and started talking about plans... Yet he didn't ask me to marry him 'til Christmas Eve. There were so many opportunities: romantic meals, a romantic holiday, even just perfect moments at home but we still weren't engaged. I even asked him on a regular basis but he said it wasn't official 'til he asked me.

On Christmas Eve we'd invited lots of friends over and I'd roasted a whole pork belly but only my brother and his best friend turned up. We ended up enjoying the food and the conversation but after the main course he disappeared for a moment into the cupboard and returned with a gift-wrapped box.

The box was about the size and weight to hold a bottle, so I asked him if I should open it immediately and he said I had to. My brother, who's a major whisky aficionado, egged me on to open it... but it wasn't whisky!

A month or so before, we'd been in Costco and I'd spotted Dom Perignon for sale at about £75. I jokingly said to Grant that as he hadn't had to buy me a ring (my engagement ring was an heirloom from my side) and he couldn't afford Louboutins (which had been the original proposal suggestion) that he should propose to me with Dom.

As I peeled back the paper from the top of the box, I saw the words "Dom Perignon 2002" and burst into tears because I knew what it was. I tore off the rest of the paper and turned to Grant, as I expected him to get down on one knee with a ring box, who just told me to open the box.

The seal looked to be intact so I was baffled as to what was going on. I opened the box and found my ring tied to the neck of the bottle with a satin ribbon.

By this point, Grant was in tears too. He couldn't get the words out so my brother laughed and said "Rowan, will you marry Grant?" and then suggested that he and Malky (Grant's best friend) left us for a few minutes.

Grant then finally got the words out and slid the ring on my finger.

Definitely worth the wait!

I've found with my h2b the more i mention things the more likely he is to make me wait, maybe because you keep asking him he keeps digging his heels in.

Tbh - and please don't take this the wrong way - but you have set your wedding date, you are getting married, can't you just be happy with the fact he has said he wants to spend the rest of his life with you? You don't need the whole romantic guesture to cement this. The amount of people i know who have had the massive proposal, engagement party etc and then haven't got married says to me that the proposal, although lovely, is not the be all and end all of the commitment you are going to have. He's agreed a date, clearly wants to marry you, i'd be happy with that.

Bet you if you don't mention it he'll ask you, it could even be the night before your wedding (thats the kind of thing my h2b would do) x

lol, everyone loves chocs and flowers - i've actually taken to buying my own.

Have you considered asking him, or do you want him to ask you. What about setting the scene for him and seeing if that prompts him.

We aren't formally engaged, as you've read before, he kinda asked me but as the wedding was already booked it didn't need doing and as i mentioned he was even talking about me not having an engagement ring, but i did put my foot down to that. But if he had never uttered the words "will you marry me" it wouldn't have bothered me as i know that shortly we will be man and wife and that is all that matters.

Don't let his lack of "official" proposal marr your day in any way, he clearly loves you, otherwise he wouldn't have set a date

We'd already found a venue and decided on a date, so it is possible to still get the romantic proposal when you've been planning for months.

pheww so glad i'm not the only one who seen the ring and showed h2b......however he went to buy it i went with him but left after i tried it on left him to pay for it and maybe in the last minute get the one with more sparklies in it ( wishful thinking)......... but later that week we went out to Ask and he asked me to be his wife, although i know it was gonna happen still got emotional.........sure feels good to feel special

My other half used to say to people when they asked him when he was going to make me an "honest woman". THE ONLY RING SHE WILL GET ON HER FINGER IS IF SHE STICKS IT UP MY BUM !!!! He's a bit of a joker. But at a fancy dress party new years eve 2007 dressed as wonder woman and a whoppie cushion surrounded by friends and various superheroes, bannana, and sumo wrestlers during the maccarina - the lights came on the music stopped and sean was on the floor. I thought he was highly intoxicated and ran over shouting is he all right then when i got there i saw something in his hand (a friends ring) my words were what have you found - everyone then laughed there heads off as they were all in on it and then he popped the question. I woke up in the morning wondering if he was so pissed he would not remember!! but his first words were shall we go looking at rings tomorrow then :o). We have been saving loads and recently were given the opportunity to enter a local competion i just need lots of votes to win. If you like my story come to my wall and find out how to vote xxx

yey!!!! whoooo!!! Really pleased for you :o)

YES! Congratulations!

Thanks ladies xx

Yes, makes it seem more really now and I dont feel weird talking to people about it now either x

Congrats Paula! like you say better late than never!
My man had a big proposal all planned for a boat cruise to marithinisi in Zante a few weeks ago, i had figured out that he was going to do it but i didnt know the details. As the week went on i started to notice that he didnt seem hiself so asked him what was wrong. He told me that he had had something special planned wasnt able to make it happen! I knew then that the proposal wasnt coming and i was gutted! I had told all my friends i was positive he was going to! I was so upset i had to tell him i knew and be both cried and felt distraught that it was all ruined. It hit us so hard that we ended up arguing and it felt like ! we fiall was lost and it would never feel right now. 2 weeks after we came back from zante we decided to treat ourselves to a local hotel and a nice greek meal. It was an amazing evening and we really reconnected again. still no proposal tho! So after breakfast we went back to our room and cuddled up in bed.. I said to him that i loved him and wanted to be his wife more than anything else in the world. the grand gesture didnt matter "we" did so lets go ring shopping!! he agreed and we had a fantastic day looking at all the different rings! we finally found one that spoke to both of us and bought it! it had to be resized and i am collecting it TODAY!!! I am under strict instructions that i am not aloud to put it on... thats his job! so watch this space!!! :-)