Sooooooooo took both our parents to see our chosen venue last night before booking the date (4th may 2014)
When we got home h2b decides to then tell me hes actually not keen on the venue.

He thinks its too "cheap" (background here its an allinclusive package for £2500) and started to compare it to the wedding I had planned with my ex.

Basically my ex and me went WAY overboard planning our wedding it was on target to be about 15/16k. I think we overcompensated in the wedding due to not getting along kinda thing. I know I planned bigger and better things just cause I could.

Thing is me and my h2b have a mortgage, a loan for our deposit, and my loan to pay off my exs debts so we dnot have that much money spare each month (please see discussion called money, money, money......)

So when I saw the south causey inn and the price they were offering and what it included i couldnt believe it! Its totally on par with the expensive venue that i was going to have, if not better and more local to all our guests. Yet he expressed that he felt 2nd best to my ex.

I dont know what to do!

If he wants an expensive wedding its going to take a miracle to afford it even in the next 5 years.... and im more thinking along the lines of i want to marry u!!!

I love him so much but he really upset me with his comments, as if id put him 2nd best! But i dont know how to resolve this!

If we go for any other venue and trust me we've seen a whole load of them there is no way we can get married in 2014.

I dont get it?

x

Lso point out that he isn't 2nd best. Your going to marry him aren't you??? :)

We had issues like this, Martin felt I should be wanting more from the day, and it took me a long time to point out I want to marry HIM, not his money! Which he doesn't have anyway lol!
All the bells and whistles in the world won't make a difference, you will have a more intimate and meaningful day with him than you would with the ex. He probably feels a little inadequate, like he can't provide for you. Just explain to him its about the two of you,and at no point would you ever comapre him to the ex as there is just no comparison. His ego needs boosting! xx

It sounds to me like there are deeper worries and feelings there about your ex and it actually has nothing to do with the venue at all. Make it clear to him why you were going overboard with the wedding when you were planning it with your ex, and that this time you dont need to over copensate. Before, it was about the wedding day, this time it is about the marriage. Just try and make him realise why you are marrying him, and that it wouldnt matter what the wedding was like, all that matters is at the end of the day you are a married couple. Hope you can sort it hun xxx