Well, my maid of honour and best friend since primary school has recently told me that she's expecting
I'm really thrilled for her and looking forward to meeting little bump!
Her due date is three weeks after my wedding, so she will be heavily pregnant on the day.
We haven't bought her dress yet, fortunately, so will be doing this nearer the time and going for a free fitting type. Will we get away with a maxi dress or do they have to be proper maternity dresses? Thus far she has been suffering terrible morning sickness, but the doctor says this should improve over time and she told me last night it does seem to be getting better.
So, some questions:
Will she need a plus one to help look after her on the day? Me and her had talked about plus ones pre-pregnancy and she wasn't too fussed - her partner hates weddings and doesn't really know anyone else who will be coming, so agreed he wouldn't come as he wouldn't enjoy it. But if she's nearly due to drop, might she need someone?
Personally, I'm not one for dishing out 'duties' to my moh or bms, as long as they put up with me withering on about the wedding and are there on the day, I'm happy, however is there anything else I need to consider?
Sorry if I come across as being patronising but I have not had kids myself so don't know what it's like. I want her to enjoy the day as much as possible and feel comfortable....
...plus it will be lovely to look at the wedding photos in a few years time when the child is around and say - look, you were in there!
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
Firstly I love your attitude towards it all, as a lot of brides although happy can tend to panic about the practicalities.
I'd say go for a maxi dress, if she happens to give birth early the dress will still fit her as opposed to a dress fitted with a bump in mind. Plus you'd have to constantly pay for fittings in the run up to make sure it fits ok so maxi dress saves money.
Discuss the possibility with her again of a plus one. Her partner might feel he wants to be there now or maybe she'd like to bring her mum? I'm assuming you know her mum well enough after all the years that that shouldnt be awkward.
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CommentAuthornatalie2614
Ive had the same issue with my bridesmaid, I get married in 13 days and she was due tomorrow. Worst case scenario her 10 days over would have taken her to 3 days before my wedding!
she had the baby this morning so panic over, however i bought a maxi dress from c0ast and it is a size too big than she is normally (she wears a 10 i bought a 14 as coast comes up small), so it can be altered if need be.
I asked her if she wanted to do it still, and we eventually came to the agreement that we would buy her a dress and nearer the time if she felt she couldnt do it on the day she would attend as a guest and I could sell the dress on as it is still brand new and has tags on xx
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CommentAuthorprincesspixie
best advice i can give is just to make sure she tells you what will make her comfy on the day and what she will be able to cope with I've only got 6 weeks left of my pregnancy I know I couldn't bare the thought of going to a wedding but I have had a horrendous pregnancy. I think you're being an absolutely fantastic friend I know a lot of people would be quiet upset about it as they would feel like they are taking the shine away from your day.
As for the dress, go for maxi it'll be comfy and stylish xx
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CommentAuthorLisaT18
i would say get a maxi dress. if this is her first baby there is a high posibility that it will come late. if she hasnt had the baby i would advise her to bring someone along with her or u will be worrying about her all day and it might spoil your big day
a maxi dress should be fine, the only problem you would have really is it possibly being a little bit shoter at the front than the back, but no one will notice. unless she has a ginormous bump lol.
Providing she has a normal pregnancy she should be fine. She will be knackered though. She'll probably just want to go home early as she's tired/feet hurt/back aching etc
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CommentAuthorcarnally
I reckon that a maxi dress will be fine and will look great too. I've been to weddings heavily pregnant and always wore a maxi dress. They're so comfy but can be really elegant and stylish too.
CommentAuthorFionaR41
the maxi dress sounds the best option - comfy an practical. I would just make sure your BM has all she needs with her just in case the baby wants to arrive. I would leave the plus one option to her and let her know there is a place if she needs someone.
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CommentAuthorKimD7
What an amazing friend and bride you are for taking this in your stride. x I was a bridesmaid for a friend when I was 8 months pregnant and I wore a grecian style dress...loose and comfortable to wear. As to if she will need someone there really only time will tell. I had so much energy in my 1st pregnancy I went clubbing when I was 6 days over due.
CommentAuthorsarah
I love your attitude :) Too many b2b talk about sacking members of the bridal party because they're expecting or ttc x
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CommentAuthorweemindyxx
Hey hun i have first hand experience my best friend is due in 2 weekd and my wedding was 2 weeks ago ad my on bookface and have a look at my bridesmaids they are all in the same dress even my pregnant bf, we ordered her a bigger size and they lace up the back the most you would need is maybe a modesty panel they all looked great and she had a great time although she did go home a bit early but she did enjoy the day. oh n if you look on bookface my name is Arlene Cole.
dont worry about the plus one there will be plent of people to look after her.xx
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