i would to protect his and his brothers flat they owned before we met but everything since we were together would have to be left out of it x

Nope, we meet when we were 17 and 19 and done everything together so the house is a joint mortgage, we earn similar amounts of money and share everything equally so no need but understand why people do.

I think if you have children involved then definitly.

My mum re-married 3 years ago and they had a pre-nup drawn up as my mum owns 2 houses and they were mums retirement and my inheritance and my step-dad had a house too and that was his childrens inheritance so a good idea as saves arguements down the line.

When we met I had just sold my home and he had 2 houses, 1 which is a holiday home. He still has the holiday home but all the money from his house and mine went into buying the house we are in now. I have offered a few times to have a pre nup, that if the unthinkable ever did happen he has sole right to the holiday home and our home is split 50/50. He won't have one though as far as he's concerned the holiday home will go to our boys in the future regardless.

Edit to add - We both have the same mind set that our main aim is to make sure the kids will be provided for in the future.

We won't be having one, although I did ask Dan as he put the deposit down on the house, which at the moment is his, however once married will become ours. He also stands to inherit his parents home and holiday home, whilst I stand to inherit zilch. He told me not to be silly.

When we first moved in together it was on the agreement that should we split up I'd move out with nothing, this is still the case - technically I guess I'm his lodger. I even had to sign a piece of paper in front of a solicitor to say so. Even when we're married I'm happy to walk away, however once children are involved I will do anything i have to in order to ensure they have the best upbringing possible. You hope that if a break up does happen it can all be amicable for children, but you so often hear otherwise.

I moved into h2b's house and we've both bought his parents home while they're still in the house. We have paperwork in place for his parents sake confirming that they're entitled to live in the house as long as they want to - nothing personal about it, his parents know a couple who's son bought their house and then put them out of it, horrible git! x

see i am contemplating one only because in the highly unlikely event that we divorce i am not letting my house (which i own outright with no mortgage thanks to my late mother) or my inheritence that she tried so hard to give me after everything go to someone else. not that i think we're gonna split but i would much rather keep my house and 50k :-)

i agree Antonia... at the end of the day, we marry are partners for love not money and a pre nup shows that x

haha thats what i say to mine... to make sure he thinks twice about cheating lol x

we haven't signed one but we have discussed what would happen if we split we own 4 property's between us 2 mortgage free and a good portion of that is money that is for my children's futures as it was money from losing there father. i know h2b wouldn't touch anything that was mine before we married as i wouldn't want anything of his as long as i get my money back that i have invest in the new property i will be happy. h2b ex tired to take him to the cleaners when they split she contributed nothing to the home even though she had a god job and had lots of spare money she spent it on herself and didn't pay a penny to the bills in the 8 years they were together he then gave her £1000s when they split as she had nothing.

same here... mind you we spend our money like its burning holes in our pockets... we're going to Dubai in May and we're meant to be saving lol... oh well live for today hey lol x

No never been but I've always wanted to go... this for me is a once in a life time opportunity.. we're staying in a five star hilton hotel all inclusive with virgin... I'm so excited cause I've never been on a holiday l;ike this before.
However i'll probably get arrested for kissing knowing my luck lol. When did you go to Dubai? x

Wow must be amazing to go that often.. i will defo go to the mall cause i love to shop and i love water parks they keep me entertained all day lol... once I've been i'll report back and let you know how i get on x

yes i will defo check it out i love a good nosh... great to have some tips on where to go thank you x

Are you in Afghanistan now then? How long have you been there? Im going to dubai on the 20th i think... id have to check with my partner causes he has made all the arrangements.

we were going to but never got round to it.

he owns the flat we are in and i have inheritance in my dads house in spain but we have said that if anything did happen then we wont take anything from each other.

we are about to buy a bigger place though and i will be going on the mortage but we will get something drawn up to say that although we pay 50/50 he has £40k in the house more than me x

I understand why people go for pre-nuptual agreements but surely you should trust your partners etc if Sam asked this of me i would be really hurt

When it comes to divorce, people just don't seem to act like themselves most of the time. Under normal circumstances I'm sure everyone trusts their partner, or you wouldn't be marrying them! But a divorce isn't a normal circumstance and it just seems to get so messy and vindictive. IMO a prenup would get it over & sorted while minismising the nastiness/awkwardness, without anyone getting screwed over - it's definitely a decision for your head not your heart Xx

We're about to buy our first house together and all the money for the house and wedding is saved up between us, so we will own everything together... We dont see the need to get a pre-nup xx

Id be more worried it someone wasnt prepared to sign one x

i don't think its about not trusting someone i trust my h2b 100% but i have seen what devoice can do to people it seems to send some normal level head ppl in to crazy monsters and some people will do anything to hurt the other person especially if they have hurt them. unfortunately life isn't predictable and neither is the future and even the most loving and stable relationship can crumble in the blink of an eye if everything in the relationship was bought 50/50 then its ok but if one as more then the other then i think it can be best to protect what you want to keep as your just in case i know i wouldn't want to give my children's inhabitance away in a divorce. but saying that we haven't made one but there is a promise note in our wills at the solicitors saying in the event of death or the brake down of our relationship h2b has to repay me all of the money i have lent him to purchase his mum and dads property.

Its quite concerning to say that some people would generalise a refusal to sign a pre nup as worrying.
I think there would be MANY situations in which a refusal to sign a pre nup would be deemed the right thing to do.

It is obvious if you are someone like Paul McCartney, with a previoous marriage, kids and vast wealth behind him, then a refusal to sign by future spouses would be seen as wrrying.

Imagine though if you are a young couple very much in love both with no assets. Yet 1 partner was one day to inherit their family's home or assets. Should the other partner sign away every right to any claim against the other persons future assets? Bearing in mind an inheritance may be many years into the future, in which time children may be involved, the none inheriting partner may have sacrificed a career to take care of the children and home. Or within that time they have both contributed financially together in other ways.

There are many more examples where I think a partner would be well within their rights to refuse to sign a pre nuptial agreement...whether the marriage continues without a pre nup would be down to how strong their love and trust is for one another and NOT down to finances.

I think it would be wrong to blanket condemn every case of refusal to sign a pre nup as worrying.

I love my h2b with all my heart but my 2 boys will always come first and he knows this. I trust him 100% but I still need to protect my future in case we did decide to split up. What I have I am happy to share with him as a couple but if we part, I will be keeping my properties as I paid for them out right 6 years before we got back together. This may sound strange to some but as a mother my boys come first and always will and I will make sure they both have a good start in life and that me and h2b can have a happy retirement together.

I think I'm a bit old fashioned in in my view of marriage, I can't imagine thinking of getting divorced before you're even married and if I thought that way I think I would be questioning why I was getting married! If I didn't believe that this is the man I want to be with for the rest of our lives then why vow to!
On the other hand I can see why people do sign pre-nups as you never know what's going to happen in the future,I just don't think it is for me.