Me and my other half spoke about this last night, I have some savings I've worked hard to get whereas he has no savings (nor debt, I want to add) so I asked outright if he'd sign a pre-nup and he said yes absolutely. I don't want him to, but I want us to be on the same page about it really.
It did however bring up the subject of him feeling that were we to divorce he'd want whatever he paid into mortgage (hypothetically) and me to get what I had. I told him this was ridiculous since he's the higher earner it would be him using his wages to that and me using mine to food and other bills which would then look as though I paid no mortgage when in actual fact, I'd be paying my way either way.
Now, money will always be a touchy point with us as he's ridiculously tight and earns a lot more than me whereas I'm careful but happy to treat. He also works in finance and says this is his reason for being stingy lol
Eventually he had to concede that I'm right and he's trying to relax about money and treat the situation more realistically- joint savings would be just that, not an arguement over who puts in what. I love him with all my heart and he'll make an amazing husband and father but I can see that with money we'll always have our differences. It's sad but if that's all I have to worry about, I consider myself pretty lucky. I'm actually surprised he didn't mention future inheritances as he comes from a wealthy family but I guess that's a conversation for tonight! If anything though, I control our finances and supported him the first few months so if it were about money we sure wouldn't be together still!
I'd be interested to know though, do pre-nups even count in this country?? I thought courts only uphold them in America??

if we all thought like that then nobody would ever get married would they? it wouldnt be easier or smarter.... however it would be smart to get one if you had the cause too.

Antonia9 & OWB, very good points

some times its not always about not wanting to share your life assets holly I'm willing and have indeed shared everything with my h2b and i dint intend to devoice. i haven't infact done a prenup but with 3 children from a previous relationship and the life insurance from there fathers death i have to protect what was mine and theirs before i met my h2b as this is my children's inhabitance. i made sure we have done wills and it also will also cover in case of splitting up so anything that i have put my own money into will come back to my children and not get mixed up with anything that we own jointly from the time of marriage as he will also keep his flat that he owned before we met. i was infact separated from my husband at the time of his death and if you had asked me at the time of our wedding i would have 100% said we were together for life but things happen and you can never tell what the future holds

we are having one, I alredy have an established business, house etc and H2B comes with very little (mispeant youth). He is fine with signing it. It is not just the women that take things away in divorce. It is generally the better off of the 2 that maintains the other one. I worked very hard for what I have and whilst I am happy to share, there is not enough in the pot to split in 2 if it all goes wrong. I also know that divorce is expensive, if its all sorted out now, it will be much easier if it all goes wrong x