We are having a very difficult time at the minute and due to circumstances completely out of our control, looks like we could have to postpone the wedding til next year.

My future fil had a very bad accident at work on Monday and is currently in the intensive care unit. He has extensive injuries to his head and it is not looking great at the minute. He's in an induced coma but things are going from bad to worse at the moment. We were told today that there's nothing more that they can do for him other than reduce his sedation to see if he wakes up.

My heart is going out to dp, he is absolutely devastated and there's nothing that I can say to make things better. I am fearing the worst.

Just needed to share somewhere.

I know, won't do anything mad until we know more. Thanks glitter fairy.

I'm just feeling lost right now and completely torn. I got home this afternoon and one of the first things my son said was mam, I needed you. But right now, I need to be there for my dp. Doesn't make it any easier though. Ah, but go back to this time last week when all I was worrying about was how we were going to afford it. Would love to be back there now

Sad news, i hope he does manage to make a recovery. sometimes its so hard to stand by and watch a situation were you cant help. x

Big hugs to you and h2b. i agree, give it a few more days or even a week, and then you and h2b will need to have the conversation about what you think is best to do.

Hoping for a speedy recovery for you xx

That's horrible hun; *hugs to you and your h2b*

Give it a couple of days or a week and abit and then if things are still not going to plan then I'd suggest you both sit and down and have a serious discussion about it :S

Thank you for your kind words. He was pronounced dead yesterday morning but is still on life support machine so that the drugs can leave his system. We hope that he'll be coming home today but could possibly be tomorrow.

It's been so difficult and has been the longest week in my life. There's nothing I can do to make dp feel better. I'm just standing by him and supporting him in any way possible.

So very sorry to hear your tragic news. I would maybe have a chat with the family in a couple of weeks and see how they all feel - they may feel that the joy if a wedding is just what they need. If they feel it's too soon it's not a big deal to delay for a while....you have each other, that's all that matters. Love to you all at this difficult time xx

I'm so so sorry hun, I really feel for you and your h2b and family. Keep supporting h2b, and I hope you can both find strength and comfort in each other at this sad time. We were in a similar situation last month when we lost my mum, it was a conversation we began having straight away, but that's because afterwards me and dad both found it helpful to be super-organised with things, and obviously you may have to follow your h2b's lead on that. I would say that it may be worthwhile at least putting the idea on the table sooner rather that later, the problem with avoiding the topic for a couple of weeks is that (at least for me regarding other things) it felt like I was allotted 2 weeks to grieve, and after that I was expected to resume normal service. Obviously not how it was meant, but 2 weeks was nothing in the scheme of dealing with the sadness, and getting it out in the open straight away avoided inadvertently drawing a line right through the middle of the pain.

Thinking of you all, again, so so sorry. Take care.

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you and your family find the strength to get through this difficult time xxx

so very sorry to hear this - my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time x

Sorry for your sad news. X