Has anyone got any experience of bringing a wedding forward? not somehing I envisaged at all as not financially prepared for it but last night I found out my step dad's cancer has spread :( Everything is up in the air with his treatment and prognosis so at the moment not sure how much time we have to play with.
I'm sure venues/suppliers are used to ringing people up to delay a date but wonder if they'll be willing to bring things forward without incurring any admin fees etc.
My biological dad wont be invited to my wedding and I've considered my step dad as 'dad' for a while now so would really like him to be there. Not sure if November is too far away for him.
Sorry, probably created more questions, just don't know what to do at the minute. Guess we'll just have to wait and see what's said at hospital and go from there
CommentAuthorSweetchilli
Sorry to read your news. I think the only thing to do at this stage is decide on your new date and ring everyone and see what is available on and around your new date. Good luck I hope you mange to sort it out. Big hugs.
CommentAuthorOWB
So sorry to hear about your stepdad, it must be a horrible time for your family.
As for the wedding, is it possible that you can get together with just your immediate family for ceremony, but then go ahead with the original date as planned, i know this will be hard on the day, but at least he'll see you married.
If you can get the money together sooner then I'm sure your suppliers will be understanding and do all they can to move it forward, even if it means a weekday wedding due to availability.
Good luck x
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
i can,t see a problem with bring it forward as long as all your suppliers have the date you want free espically if you explain the situation most people would be more then willing to help out in that sort of situation.
so sorry to hear about your step dads illness and im sure having your wedding to look forward to will be something for him to focus on at such a hard time for you all
Good luck and please let me know if you need any help x
CommentAuthorMrs Badger
I am so sorry to hear about your step dad. Big hugs.
I imagine the suppliers will be happy to bring it forward for you if they are all free. They should be understanding and I would doubt that in your case they would charge fees. If you a struggling for money or your suppliers can't move your date forward, you could always have the official ceremony soon and a meal for you and close family then go ahead with the big wedding later with a non-legal ceremony. That way your step dad will get to be at your wedding. xx
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So sorry for your news, the only thing I can think of is to phone all your venues/suppliers explain to them that you are thinking of bringing the wedding forward due to the situation, that when you have heard from the hospital you will phone them again with another date and would that be ok with them. I would also think (if you get time and can do it, as i can understand that your stepdad comes first) having a smaller wedding with very close family and friends, then later on or on your anniversary have a blessing of your marriage or a big celebration/party. x
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CommentAuthorClareS
thank you for the hugs, must appreciated:) just wasn't thinking straight. Am working nights this week and spent most of yesterday with mum and stepdad then back to work last night, I just zonked out when I got in this morning. I've got my folder out with all my suppliers so as soon as we know anything more from hospital then I'll get ringing around them. Will keep you posted xx
CommentAuthorJules
Sorry your step-dad's not good hun, I think it is such a wonderful thing you bringing the wedding forward though. I'm sure that when you ring round everywhere and explain the situation everyone will be really good and do their best for you, good luck hun xx
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CommentAuthorMikesgirl
So sad for your mum and stepdad, I too am sure the suppliers will be understanding about the matter. There are plenty of ways to accommodate money, don't hesitate to ask family to help too, it makes big things happen more easily. xxx
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
hi hun, I'm so sorry about the news. my OH's sister in law had to do this as her mum was told she didnt have too long left after cancer spread to her bones. we just rung round suppliers and explained the situation and moved it. first thing is the church and venue get a date they can both do. Then ring everyone else and see if they can accomodate. maybe change it to a weekday to try and get them all to agree on one date. I would suggest that if they cannot make the day work for them that you kindly ask for their understanding and ask them for any deposit back so you can find another supplier, of even ask them if they know of someone who may be able to help. a lof of them know other people in the industry nearby. I'm sure they will be more than happy to help
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CommentAuthorClareS
I've been in touch with our venue and they were lovely. If we have to move the date forward that's not a proble, they do have quite a few free as they were doing a refurbishment of our function room and it'ss completed quicker than they anticipated. I've left a message with the registrar and see what dates they can do. He goes back to hospital Tuesday, to get results of mri/ct/bone biopsies. Depending on the situation he's either going to loose his legs or if spread further then will be told it will be palliative care. If he needs the op I think they'll be doing it next week! They dont mess about do they?! He's just trying to get his head around things and we're trying to support him as much as possible. Nothing ever prepares yu for this does it :( Thanks ladies x
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
Its good they're 'hot on their heels' to getting him proper treatment/care. I hope u get the day u dreamed of with ur step dad watching u get married and everything is sorted 4 ur big day. Sending big hugs x
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CommentAuthorJules
Glad ppl are being reasonable, it wouldn't have looked good on them if they hadn't tho. Really glad the hospital are getting things moving quickly hun, it's not nice when they keep you waiting, Loads of luck & love sent your way, keep your chin up xx
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CommentAuthorClareS
Thanks Mrs T Hurley & J. In the last couple of days he's had soo many tests and scans so that when he goes back on Tuesday they'll have all the results and hopefully have some plan of action x
CommentAuthorNuttynonnie
Hi there yes I went thru this last summer as my dad my diagnosed with a serious heart condition in march, then diagnosed with leukaemia in June then admitted in July for his appendix bursting which nearly killed him!!! To top it off he has also gone thru a hernia op, he truly has had an awful year and doesn't keep very well at the minute so we brought our wedding forward from sept 2012 to April 2012. I defo kno I made the right decision as I want my dad to be fit enough to enjoy the day and he wants the same xxx
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P.s big hugs from me chick xxx
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CommentAuthorClareS
Thanks Nuttynonnie :) your dad sounds like he's been through a lot, keep strong x
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CommentAuthorClareS
Thank you :) I kknow it's only a few days but it's the waiting that's getting to him at the minute. He tried to take all his medication the other night! shocked the hell out of us. Had lots of talks since and he said he wont be doing it again. Needless to say mum is controlling his medication just to be on the safe side x
CommentAuthorJules
O No Clare that must have been awful for you all, not much longer now and you'll know a little more, loads of luv sent your way xx
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CommentAuthorNatty
Hi Claire,
I'm in a very similar situation, my Dad is very poorly and we had planned to get married in May 2013, but we are now getting married in 7 weeks on the 17th March to ensure my Dad is around. So I've had three weeks to organise everything but really getting there. As soon as I got it all sorted I felt so much better, there is a chance my Dad could get more poorly before the wedding but feel so much better knowing that I have done everything possible to ensure that he will be there.
It's also given my dad something to really positive to focus on and has been great for the whole family, a bit of light relief in a very tough situation.
Take care,
Nat xxxxx
CommentAuthorJules
Lots of love & luck sent to you too Natty xx
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CommentAuthorClareS
Thanks J and Natty,
Natty I really hope your dad is ok for the wedding.
It's just a awaiting game now :( He's at hospital and they're re doing some of the tests. The macmillan nurses have been brilliant but I know they're going to have a difficult time ahead. He doesn't want to have his leg removed but doesn't quite grasp the consequences of that decision. Or maybe he does? x
CommentAuthordolphin
fingers crossed for you claire and natty, how long have you got to wait for the results claire?x
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CommentAuthorfiona
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Clare & Natty, you are both in my thoughts! You are doing so much for loved ones in such a sad time, when it should be the happiest times of your lives. You are both, very special people!x
CommentAuthorClareS
They're re doing some tests so hopefully Friday. If spread too far there's no point doing surgery but if just contained in his leg area they'll send him home to make his decision over the weekend. If going for the surgery option he'll be having the op tuesday. Consultants are staying quite positive and talking about the op more and more, they wouldn't be doing that if they didn't think there was a chance would they? x
CommentAuthorClareS
Thanks Dolphin and Fiona x
CommentAuthorClareS
Kind of an update. My stepdad has been sent home. Thankfully they believe it's contained in his leg and he's got a fortnight to think about things. He's had some other tests which he should hopefully get back next week. Basically he needs to have his leg removed to prevent any spreading, but he doesn't want to loose his leg! It's going to be a long fortnight . I'm working nights this weekend so wont get chance to see him or my mum but I imagine they'll be doing quite a lot of talking before I see them next x
CommentAuthortinkerbell2013
Aww that's goodsh news hun, mut be hard for u all, will be keeping my fingers cross for yr stepdad and hope things will work out for the best xx
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CommentAuthorClareS
Thanks hun, I'm sure they will x
CommentAuthordolphin
Glad the news isnt too bad, and hopefully after a long fortnights thinking, your grandad will come to the right decision. x
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CommentAuthorJules
Yeah hun, i'm really pleased it wasn't really bad news too, my neighbour is 80 & had to have his leg amputated and he's got 1 of those scooters now & too be honest he's out more now than he was before, he's just glad that he's still here to get out, I'm sure when your stepdad has time to digest the news he'll feel the same way, especially as he's got your wedding to look forward to and his future xx
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CommentAuthorClareS
Yeah, mum and the macmillan nurses are working on him :) x
