Notice alot of people on the web suggest having poems in with the invites to hint to guests that we havnt compiled a gift list. Me and h2b have decided we would rather if people want to to just give us money and so have decided to have a discreet box where you can pop cards, or an annonymous envelope with money into the box. We dont want to be rude, and know its not traditional but we have lived together for years now, have a son and so it seems silly to accept gifts when it would be much more appreciated to help with the honeymoon.
Im undecided whether the poems sound a bit cringey and naff, so was thinking of having a polite paragraph in with the invite to say:
As we are already living together, we have decided not to compile a traditional gift lift. However, we are heading off on our honeymoon to Italy and any financial donations towards this, however small, would be gratefully recieved in the discreet wishing well but please do not feel obliged, its your company we want!
and then maybe have a nice little poem on the box instead? what do you think?
CommentAuthoremmaaa
I don't like poems very much, I like the way your paragraph is worded!
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
We decided we are going to have little poem or paragraph as like u live together and have basics. Other thing you could do is if u are booking ur honeymoon before wedding could tell guests who u booked through so they could pay some money off it through the travel agents. But I like ur paragraph :) looks good d
CommentAuthorSam
I hate receiving anything in an invitation asking for money and/or gifts. I personally would rely on word of mouth to get out the word that you would prefer money to gifts. You could even set up a wedding website with info about your wedding and gifts. It's pretty common to have a wishing well at weddings as it's a safe place for people to deposit cards, so I might put your H2B's name & yours with the wedding date on it. I wouldn't put any poems on it though.
CommentAuthorMrsWearn2be
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I am deffinetly telling people about it, im not having a big big wedding, and alot of my dads side of the family are traditional, its a polite way to let people know theres no gift list, plus I have said I dont mind if they dont give anything, so it cant be taken the wrong way.. I havnt said ''give me your money'' lol
I probably wont use the poems as alot of them are pretty cringeworthy, but I think an honest paragraph is polite and simple :)
Yeah I hate the poems too as most of them are a bit twee.
Then again, I agree with Samantha here and don't think anything regarding gifts should be included in the invite, it makes my tummy feel funny when I get one!
But I'm just odd like that and I suspect most guests will be fine with it.
