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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
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    Hi all,
    At the mo I'm feeling pretty fed up :( there have been different times through the whole process where I have felt it wasn't like imagined the planning stage to be. I know the TV and film planning process isn't always real life but due to timings of stuff a lot of things we couldn't do even to celebrate our engagement :(

    Our honeymoon has had to change so that's currently being rushed to find somewhere.

    One of the stresses I got at the mo is my hen, not a lot of people will be invited as tbh the last few years I have cut a lot of people out due to a number of reasons but I still have 2 best mates who I love and 1 is y moh and the other is involved in the wedding.ndue to me working weekends I had to set a date which will be my birthday weekend in June and so far nothing is planned for my hen! I gave one friend a list of people and contact details about a month ago and she hasn't passed them on or apart from adding people on the book done anything else, my other friend isn't on the book so text me this morning asking if the other had sorted hen do! Also the girl who does have names said she would me contact some as she had a falling it with 2 of them years ago!!!
    I'm not expecting anything wild as I did wild for the last 10 years so I did say even if we all went for food down our marina and then hit the nightlife that fine but they have done nothing and to be honest it's upsetting me.
    Again others who are getting married after me their hen dos are organised and sound fab but I feel like mine is just turning into a last minute thing :(
    My h2b had his stag away last weekend and the best man did a fab job and tbh I'm a little jealous.

    My 2 mates have helped me through some real tough times but the fun bit they seem to be letting me down.

    I most prob sound like a selfish brat but I'm feeling overwhelmed by the planning of the actual wedding and underwhelmed by the fun pre wedding stuff.

    Anyone else felt like this?

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    • ElizabethF49
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    Aww hun your 2 friends need their heads banging together, tell them they need to sort it asap as you dont wat to organise it yourself they should have each others numbers so they can chat and leave you out of it.

    WHy has your honeymoon been changed?

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    Weirdly enough one has text today about it!

    Originally we were doing 2 weeks in USA 1in New York and 1 in San Fran at Christmas h2b wanted to wait until nfl timetable was out I know I should of said tough lol with that and him not being able to book hols until this week it's meant prices are sky high and limited options so now going 1 week in San Fran. Most hotels seemed ok but I didn't want ok I wanted wow it's our honeymoon lol I feel like we are getting a last min hol and not a special one. I told him this last night and he said he was gutted I felt like this so he is trying hard to sort it but it's like one extra worry.

    At times I think I'm overthinking but then I just feel sick with worry :(

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    • TheFutureMrsK
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    Glad one of your friends has text you today about your hen :) did they say hat they're organising?

    I know exactly how you feel about the hen. My 3 bridesmaids swapped details and were going to plan my hen without me so it would be a surprise. Last month I hadn't heard anything yet so started looking into it myself. They're all busy with work and stuff so I didn't want to complain. Just after I started looking I got a text from my chief bridesmaid about having a girly day to plan it so was worrying over nothing :) I helped plan mine and the bridesmaids were going to arrange extra surprises but we just recently found out the venues won't allow us to take in any hen accessories (including tiaras and sashes). I was a bit gutted so we decided we're going to have a night in mine the night before we got out with hen stuff. I have been hinting that I'm looking at banners and stuff but not sure what the bridesmaids are getting. My oh is arranging his stag just now as well. He was involved in planning what they're doing but his best man has set up some kind of chat without him to plan other things and everyone keeps saying how good he's doing and how they've got funny things lined up. I'm probably being silly but I'm a wee bit jealous.

    I understand where you're coming from with the honeymoon. It's your honeymoon and you only do it once so its nice to have something a wee bit special. If you can't manage to find the hotel you want you could always arrange something a bit more special for your first anniversary :) I know thats not the same though.

    I think now we're getting this close to our weddings we just overthink everything :(

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    They so far have organised nothing. The other friend just text me asking to change her dress. Basically I told her the scheme is red and she said she had her own dress (fab) she showed me 2 options I picked it which was perfect :) now she's asking to wear a black and white dress completely different style :(
    I texted her back this:
    Tbh I would rather not think about your dress at the moment as I have a to do list as long as my arm and that's not even on it. I would prefer you and Lisa to arrange hen do as recently both of you seem to be texting me and not talking to each other and people may need to come from outside Swansea so it needs organising ASAP otherwise I fear it's going to turn out to be my crap night of freedom. Sorry to sound harsh but I'm stressed to the max at the mo between wedding and family stuff and trying to get honeymoon sorted and I really don't need extra stuff on top of it x


    Does that seem too harsh?

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    • TheFutureMrsK
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    No I think that sounds fair, theres no way they should be asking you to change dress especially at this late stage! Definitely stand your ground with them :) do you have any idea what you'd like to do for your hen? I basically picked it and let my chief bridesmaid deal with booking it. I know thats not the best but could you do that or give them some ideas of what you'd like to do? Maybe work out the number of people you want to be there and tell them that as well so they have no excuses for not organising.

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    I gave a list of people about a month ago to the dress one and I knew she hasn't contacted people well she did add some on the book but nothing else lol
    I have said doing something like going for food and then wine street ( area of bars) and my moh dos ask anything I would refuse like certain outfits. It's like they get so far then nothing. I'm meeting my step mum in an hour to discuss wedding stuff so will talk to her about it too as she can be quite to the point minus the politeness lol

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    • Melty Cat
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    I know exactly how you feel. (I won't derail the thread into a rant about my problems, I'll just say I'm not getting any input, or help from any of my bridesmaids regarding the wedding or hen party.)

    On advice, i am just going to say screw it and do what I am happy with. I've spent so long trying to fight to get help and opinions that I'm just going to do what I want and if they aren't happy it's tough. They had plenty of chance to decide.

    With regard to timing and concrete plans, just roll with it. Plans change so much and often I've found for the better.

    Why not ask your step Mom to help gather the info you need? Sometimes it helps to have a person take a bit of weight off your shoulders and they might not be so relaxed around her. I'm thinking of letting my wedding planner do that myself.
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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    Thanks :)
    I had a response from the dress one stating she will decide dress closer to the time lol

    I'm trying to stay calm just feel ahhhhhhhhh

    However honeymoon has now been booked yay!

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    • Melty Cat
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    Yaaaay! 8D Awesome!
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    • CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
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    My bridesmaids have been kind of a pain too!! We originally wanted to book lots of lodges with hot tubs, go out for activities, meals, etc. The cost was coming out way to much though, so I said what about a party boat which is local to most of us & only £22 each inc a basket meal.
    However since then my bridesmaids have surprised me by booking the lodge for us, FMIL & the younger bridesmaids as they can't attend the boat party & said they will cover all costs :)
    I'm so grateful that they have surprised me but the boat party has been completely pushed aside, that will be the main one that everyone is invited to. I've pushed them so many times to just set up a f@ceb00k event but it's got to the stage were I'm going to have to do it myself, otherwise it will be fully booked!!
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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    I, calming down now as did get quite annoyed earlier lol Mrs robinson2be it's frustrating isn't it lol

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    • ElizabethF49
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    I dont think Bridesmaids realise how much stress they out on brides by not organising things properly, I cant complain about mine she is my sister and my hen weekend is exactly what I want and I cant wait it was my so called friends messing her about that was stressing me out, I organised my hen night and got loads of bits for it and she moaned that it was her job ARGH i did ask her if she wanted me to organise it so it took the pressure off her.

    Glad your a bit calmer.

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    I think sometimes it just everything at once. Really she is a fab best mate and both of the hens organising it have helped me basically survive the last 5 years which sounds so dramatic but it's true :) think the main problem is anything like this I'm the organised freak one so they normally get bossed around by me lol

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    • KatieH
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    I don't have a big circle of friends so I won't be inviting many to my hen. I am organising my own hen as I've been let down in the past when a really good friend (at the time) said she would organise a baby shower for me. I gave her a list of names who I wanted there and she said she'd do the rest but she never did so I didn't end up having one. I don't want the same thing to happen with my hen so better to do it myself. xx

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    That's the thing I have cut so many people the few years know have a small circle too. One of my friends isn't on the book so it was easier for the other one to contact people and I gave her mobile numbers, now apparently she has tried to contact h2b mum a number of times but no response but what I don't get is why isn't she contacting other people too like sil!

    Due to text I sent her which is in this thread we are just about talking at the moment :(

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    • KatieH
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    I'm sure it will all get sorted. I know you have a lot going on and it's nice if they sorted it but maybe you should start phoning people yourself, that way you know something is being done and it will be a weight off xx

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    I will be and I will be arranging catch up with the 2 mates as texts sometimes can be read the wrong way x

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    • KatieH
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    That's great. Yes sometimes it's difficult to get your point across without it being taken the wrong way via txt. Face to face is always better. Hope it all works out :) xx

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    • AmyN135
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    I mean this in a good way but it's actually a little bit of a relief to see a few girls having issues with their bridesmaids, we can all come here and have a moan about it as we all know exactly how it feels lol!! Otherwise saying it to anyone else they might think we're bridezillas!
    I was fed up waiting for my bridesmaids to sort out my hen that when I started researching it myself, they only THEN started to take over and organise everything (in the end it was utterly perfect).
    Still having the occassional issue with bridesmaids that does my head in lol, but this time 3 weeks my wedding will be over and I can forget it.
    But feeling your stress and hope it all works out :-)
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    • KatieH
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    One of my Bridesmaids has already said she won't be able to afford to come to my hen unless I just have a meal and drinks. I want a spa day and then meal and drinks in the eve so hopefully she will come to the evening part x

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    • InDreamland
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    Glad you've got the honeymoon booked now.

    For the hen try stay calm and hopefully they sort it soon. Maybe just speak to both of them and tell them you're worried its not being sorted out and see if they have any problems trying to organise and plan it x

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    Amy I completely get it tbh I'm seeing this a relief that it not just me feeling like this :)

    Thanks everyone for advice x

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
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    Omg well it appears the friend I'm not on good terms with has actually contacted some people!!!!

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