Fiance and I had been looking for our photographer.
We used the quote app and I saw a few I liked, got in touch etc but 2 seemed keen at first but later not so much... They'd booked up. Great. At the time there was one other we were keen on... After some emails, they suggested to meet in person and look at their work. I agreed but never received a reply. We tried calling once too but no response. We assumed another bailed photographer.
Desperate to nail the photography on the head before our imminent deployments and with less than a year to go we wanted to make sure we got a good one! We found one who was stunning after a recommendation from our caterer. Her work was stunning and after some contact and checking availability, we decided we liked her and haggled done the price too...
2 days later the photog we thought had binned us off got in touch. He asked if we were missing emails because he'd suggested a date etc.
I now feel guilty as I've had to tell him we've booked somebody else due to our circumstances an. That we sent several emails and tried calling.
Should I feel bad about this?! I dunno!! Any other similar experiences?!ic
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorMrsMoran
Aww don't feel bad hun, if you sent several emails and called him and got no reply each time, he can't have been emailing suggesting a date, otherwise when you contacted him, he'd have got back to you. It sounds to me like he was let down by somebody else and thought he'd try and see if you were still interested, but rather than making him look bad for not even replying, he'd look like he'd tried to contact you. But yeah, surely he'd have seen your repeat emails and calls? Seems a bit weird to me hun. Definitely don't feel bad though, even if it was genuine and he had contacted, they have to expect that you're going to be looking around for the best deal and likely to accept one with someone else who has actually made sure they've contacted you. xxx
CommentAuthorsarah
don't feel bad, it happens :|
CommentAuthorAna40
I wouldn't feel bad. X
CommentAuthorclive
Why should feel guilty? He didn't respond to calls/emails.
You have the photographer you ended, due to his not bothering to get in touch. His fault, not yours.
We looked at/met with/got quotes from a range of suppliers, the major ones being ring companies and photographers. In some cases (particularly with the ring), I'd exchanged numerous emails, and also met with them in person, and they had put time and effort into providing a quote (again, particularly with the ring as it was a custom design, so there would have been a fair amount of work involved in providing a reasonably accurate quote). I then went with the company who gave the best quote, and let the others know. That's life; business is business. I want the best deal, and the best person for the job, and would never feel guilty about 'letting someone down'.
I would also be reluctant to use someone who was poor at communicating, whatever excuse they gave. Yes, the emails could have gone astray; equally, they could have used that as an excuse for not responding sooner. Point being you don't really want to book someone if you have even a flicker of doubt as to their reliability.
CommentAuthorBecky1608
I agree with the others. Don't feel guilty about it! You need to feel confident that the person you choose will be easy to contact and take the time and effort to respond to any queries that you have. By the sounds of things you've ended up with someone great so maybe it was meant to be! xxx
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12/11/2008 - When we decided to be more than friends
04/11/2012 - A proposal in Central Park NYC
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CommentAuthorValentinaK
Barbie86, you're right. Good point. The photog we have now has been consistent with comms. She always recordings evening, which is probably her bureaucracy time!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
don't feel bad its business, we got 3 on the hook at the moment, our usual one who has done our family photos (in my profile pic), one we got off the quote me on here, and a new one who did my aunts wedding and is also my o/h's mums bestmates husbands and was really please with his work. so hoping to get quotes off all of them and then say well i can get that to less here and try and get a really good deal
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CommentAuthorValentinaK
They just seemed like such a nice couple and had so much in common with them that thought they may have been the photographer and now feel like I've let them down.... but youre right, business is business...and I actually prefer the photos of our actual photographer now! She seems lovely too... It's just a funny feeling of guilt/awkwardness... I was honest with him, as I am with everyone and tried to be tactful but honest as to why we went with a different photographer.
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
:s Don't feel bad, it was just one of those things. He knew about your situation so if there were missing emails then he should have phoned you.
Met in 2009
Got together on12th May 2011, proposed on the 12th May 2013
When you get knocked down; smile and pick yourself up again!
Fight for what you believe in!
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Yeah... He had my number too as he called me before on it. I guess you have t be tough... its a dog eat dog business isthe wedding industry!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Exactly :)
Met in 2009
Got together on12th May 2011, proposed on the 12th May 2013
When you get knocked down; smile and pick yourself up again!
Fight for what you believe in!
CommentAuthorbrilly
I wouldnt feel guilty hun it wasnt your fault they had every opitunity to contact you either by phone or email and didnt so its there own fault x
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Cant wait to do it all over again in 2018
