Ive only just managed to catch last night's Dont tell the bride and it really struck a cord with me-i was in tears! Until that moment i hadnt realised just how i feel about my mam and dad not being at my wedding. My mam died when i was 6 then my dad died when i was 15 so im kinda used to being on my own. My BM's and MOH have all said it is going to be a really emotional day but i didnt think it would be. I never visit the grave (they are in the same grave) as i just cant open myself up to it :(
So anyway after watching it i was thinking about things i could do and came up with this and wanted to know your thoughts? On my wedding day when im all ready i will head down for a moment at the grave and put my demons to rest-i was thinking about getting the photographer to take some intimate photos but from afar so i will always have a picture to cherish of myself, mam and dad. I understand to anyone on the outside it might sound really morbid-i just dont know what to do :(
Sorry for the long post x
CommentAuthorKaya
Sounds like a lovely idea.... will have to be careful with your make up and tears though!! xxx
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
Not morbid! Very fitting for your parents - although i'm a firm believer they will be there is spirit watching down on u feeling proud! xx
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Yes I agree with Kaya I would probably not wear make up if I went or make sure whoever is doing your make up can do touch ups before you go to the church. I lost my dad 4 years ago and thats bad enough. I cant even begin to imagine how you feel! Oh hun huge hugs. Its not morbid, you do what feels right to you. xx
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CommentAuthorlaineybug
I don't know - you might just upset yourself and on your wedding day is that how you want to start the day? My sister was killed in a car accident 9 years ago so there will be someone missing from my wedding too, so can see where your coming from. I had the idea of pinning a picture of my sister to my bouquet? Its a really personal decision, just becareful you don't really upset your self on just before the wedding :) x
Thank you. Ive made the desition that if i do go i wont tell anyone as i want it to be just 'us' I havnt a clue if i would even be able to go through with it as i dont want to be a total wreck but i love the idea of the photo with me in my dress visiting as it will be a happy photo if you no whaat a mean-happier than any other time x
CommentAuthorBee
thats a lovely idea x
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
My mum died when i was 8, i dont have a grave site i can visit or anything, in the sense i am dreading the wedding day and her not being there. I was in tears watching dont tell the bride last night also, so my thoughts and hugs go out to you. If there is anything that you want to do on your special day to allow you to feel some sort of connection to your parents then do it. It is your choice and it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks. I have no idea what i will be doing.
CommentAuthorMrsH2Be
as part of some packages photographers do pre wedding photo shoots or after ones. could you not have it done then in your dress. that way your day is still special but you still get the picture that you want :D
CommentAuthorRachie :D
My Gran died 2 years ago and i was very close to her, there will be 1 pink rose in my bouquet and 1 in the top table arrangement to represent her. Im also wearing the pearls she bought my mum for her wedding - I know someone who had a small bouquet made the same as her Bridal bouquet and put them on her dads grave if that helps xxx
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CommentAuthorSuffolkSteph
Big hugs for you and what ever you decied... what ever you what to do is a good idea as its personal thing....
Maybe do a visit to the grave beofre your wedding though to take the edge off on the day....??
Good luck hun... x
CommentAuthorGemLouise
I am planning on visiting my mum at her grave after the ceremony and before the receiving line at the reception. me and my h2b want to go up there between the church and the reception and we have talked about having a picture there too...may be one we have but keep personal to us and not show others. We are also planning on setting off a lantern in the evening (weather permitting) to honour her memory. I know it will be a hard day and I will undoubtably cry but I don't think it would be right not being there...I am going to also do what you have suggested SuffolkSteph and visit the day before for a proper visit and most probably a big cry - hopefully that will take the edge off! I think whatever anyone chooses to do to honour a loved ones memory is incredibly personal and I am sure you will decide what is best for you. Big hugs! xxx
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CommentAuthorNicci
Thank you ladies for your support. Im sorry you are going through the same rubbish time! It's nice to know theres people to talk to without making them feel cr@p so thank you :) x
CommentAuthorsammys
aww honey I think only you will know what to do. I lost my auntie who was morel like my best friend, I want to do something for her and I am thinking letting some balloons go as it will be too light to set off a lantern as I want to do it before I start the reception. I want to wear something of hers too. I miss her every day so I can't even begin to imagine how it is for you. :( xx
CommentAuthorPossum
I think that's a lovely thing. You may upset yourself, but then if you don't do it, you may regret it. Only you know what is right for you xxxx
