Wedding Forum - Phonecall from solicitor...

I am so upset. I got a call from my solicitor this morning. My ex won't sign the consent order. Basically I've given him the business, allowed him to stay in our family home (which was in my name) and now he's trying to say I have to pay the loan his parents gave us to buy the business he still has or else they're suing me for the equity in my house. I know him far too well and I know that he's not forfeiting his half of the equity that I'd agreed to - his parents are going to sue me to get it all and give it all back to him.
I lived 17 years with that man. He made me work between 50 and 70 hours a week and look after the home and family with no help from him. He made sure i only had enough money to pay the bills and I was eventually diagnosed with a form of bi-polar. Only when I started psychotherapy they discovered it wasn't bi-polar. I had stress and anxiety disorder caused by our stressful lives. He wouldn't believe it and I took 4 years, but plucked up the courage to leave him.
I met my h2b almost as soon as I told my ex I was leaving, so naturally that's what he's told everyone including our children - infact it grew from an affair with my h2b to having had at least 7 affairs!!!
So not only am I now being sued and cannot lay the division of assets to rest, he hasn't applied for the absolute. My solicitor has just told me it's expensive, involves gathering evidence about why he should have applied but hasn't and will involve a hearing. I have no money left for solicitors, even tho I could start applying myself on the 30th July.
So we have no choice but to put our wedding on hold, indefinitely.
I never hated my ex, I just needed to not be with with. Now I hate him and all I want to do is cry. I pray all you lovely first timers are getting it right. Please be sure.
I'll miss you all xx

How awful for you, hope you get things sorted!!!!

**big hugs** he sounds a right nasty piece of work :( I hope things can get sorted soon for you xx

:( hope it works out for ya hun xx

aww hun im so sorry how long you been seperated hun? cause after so long you can do it without him needing to do anything its either 2 or 5 yrs i know this as i went through it when h2b was doing his divorce and she wouldnt sign paperwork, but its awful what he's doing and just not fair hugs hun xx

':(' so sorry to read about what you ex has put you through and still doing so best of luck hun xxxxx

Thats terrible hun :( xxx

what a barlamb as my nan would say!!! I cant believe how mean some people can be.
Maybe youll be lucky and he will be struck down by lightning or something???
Big hugs hun
xxxxxx

how can he be looking for more money is not just a straight split i wouldnt let him keep anything make him sell everything and pay you half maybe if he thinks you can play hardbal as well he might shut his nasty mouth failing that punch him lol xxxx

I do not have a clue what I'd do in your situation but I doubt it'd be legal regardless!!
Sounds like this horrible man is just wanting to cling onto power over you.
Take care xx

Be strong hunni, and I wish all the best in getting things resolved. And when you finally do, good luck with your h2b. xx

Then he took the car cos his mum told him to knowing I was in temp accomodation which was miles from my daughters school (2 buses) so it would be difficult fro me to get there with the twins in the pram x

very sorry to hear how mean and horrible ur ex is... :( really hoping u get things sorted and that u soon get to join again here to plan ur wedding of ur dreams!!! hugs xxxx

My ex and I still aren't divorced after 6 yrs because he won't sign the papers. Hope you get everything sorted soon but in the meantime stay strong

iv sat here reading this mouth open and clenched fist,i feel so angry for you,what a complete tosser!!! and as usual mummy and daddy back him up,more fool them.sending you love and i hope your future is filled with so much happiness,god knows you deserve it xxx