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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    OMG......I am so mad with my future in-laws right now. Not once have they offered to help out with the wedding costs, but on the other hand my mum is falling over herself to pay for stuff which we appreciate sooooo much. They are completely loaded, my mum is a widow on her own and they are now whinging about me and my h2b paying to post invites saying my mum should be doing that!!! Last night my MIL was moaning about how much it's going to cost her to come to the wedding......right now i just feel like telling her to shove it!!!! GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!
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    • Mummy Geri
      CommentAuthorMummy Geri
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    Tell them to help you out then . Thats one of the problems with having people pay aswell me thinks, they think they can have a say and make it their day too :@ x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    She's moaning about paying £90 for a ferry to the main land......they do it every other week and never moan about the cost then. My h2b did ask them to help out, but they just told him they couldn't afford it, but they could afford to buy a brand new car and to go to her goddaughters graduation, but she's moaning about the cost to attend her own sons wedding. I don't know how she's got the front to condemn my mum for a few measley pounds. x
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    • Mummy Geri
      CommentAuthorMummy Geri
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    She sounds like a typical mil lol. I told my family and h2b's noone, apart from us, was paying for our wedding as they cant afford it and its our day and its upto us to pay it. Saves moanin too :P . How can she moan about her sons big day? £90 isnt gonna put her out of house and home. Next time she says anything just say "aww yeah well i am paying for a wedding day and honeymoon. do that and youll know what expensive is" the see what she says ;) xx

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    • LegoWife
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    I'm 99.9% sure my mum's not gonna put a penny towards our wedding, which on one hand does disappoint me a bit, but on the other hand I think it's pretty cheeky to expect anyone other than the couple to pay for the wedding anyway.

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    • Mummy Geri
      CommentAuthorMummy Geri
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    yeah am the same tbh. its our day x

    bride-to-be Geri


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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    Thanks for that.......I never expected anyone to pay any part of my wedding. My dad passed away a couple of years ago and he and my mum had laid money aside to help with my wedding ( the same as some families help out with their kids going to uni ). Thanks for making me feel bad about something my parents wanted to do.......I've never felt like this on this site and due to your kind comments, you have reduced me to tears this morning......Well done :-(((
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    • OfficialMrsField
      CommentAuthorOfficialMrsField
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    I wouldn't worry about her whining on to be honest, if that's how she feels about paying for a ferry let her get on with it...don't let her comments over money upset you, tbh if that's the way she feels about her sons wedding that's her problem, not yours...it will be her who misses out at the end of the day.xx

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    • MrsHardy2be
      CommentAuthorMrsHardy2be
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    Chick don't get upset I know what u mean bout ur mil, mine is the same. My mum n dad are helping us pay for our wedding, we put our wedding bk cos of it, they wanted us to have the day we deserved, n my mil is complaining that we have moved our reception close to my parent wen its in the middle of them both and we have done it for the kids. I know its annoying but just try and let it go over your head, you will have the perfect day and your mum n dad will be proud of what they helped you achieve that's all that matters. Dnt cry sending you hugs
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    • Mel D
      CommentAuthorMel D
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    My in-laws were exactly the same as yours! We would have had to cut down on stuff, or put the wedding back if it hadn't been for my mum. When we got engaged she said that she would give us a £xx towards the day, and then she kept paying for little extra things, and I put them all on my budget spreadsheet and was taking it off the total, then she said "oh that's been spent" and gave us the £xx as well! His parents didn't offer to help in ANY way (financial or otherwise) and his mum was quite frankly totally uninterested in it. The only thing she did was throw a tantrum three days before becuase the outfit that she had bought all on her own wouldn't "go" with the tie that we'd bought for her partner to wear!

    Don't get upset, just ignore her ...

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    • becky -mrs firth
      CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
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    my mum n dad are payin alot towards our weddin ( we dint ask either we are not given a choice lol) but h2b aint payin anything! why the hell does she think ure mum shud pay for stamps? i wud say to her...... she wud BUT shes a widow now with one income whereas u aint ure still with ure life long partner and have 2 incomes!

    dont let her upset u ! just think of wat nice thank u present u will get ur emum and she wont get anything!!!

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    • linzmum
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    We are also trying to pay for everything because I know my mum and dad would give us money if we asked or mentioned we couldn't afford one part of our day. I really would prefer not to have them pay anything as I also know that my h2Bs parents wouldn't contribute. Neither of our families can really afford to help out and my parents have bailed us out enough in the past (they are currently pay my car insurance, and have been since last dec). We have instead just told EVERYONE invited to pay £15 towards their meal and first drink....that is the only way we can afford to feed people. We did though tell everyone to class this as our wedding present as there's nothing we really need, it does also mean we won't be getting a hunnymoon but what more important? getting married or having a holiday!
    Try not to get too upset. What does your H2B say about it all? could he not stand up to his parents and point out a few facts? although tbh if it was me I would just tell her not to bother coming if it's going to stop them keeping those nice cars etc, but then I do like to speak my mind :D
    I hope you can at least find some common ground before your wedding so that you can enjoy your day as thats is whats important.
    *hugs*

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    • krazykitty
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    I Hope you manage to get it all sorted out hun xx my nan is helping out money towards our day but she hasnt a lot to spend and my parents are struggling themselves not that i would expect them to anyway and they have said if they had it ithey would pay for it as im their only daughter! but to be honest id rather have their input and have them there!! but rys parents arent contributing either!! with parents they always do things for you cos they feel it their job and if i were in your position id say look my mum is paying what she can if you dont like it and begrudge paying the same amount to come to your sons wedding as you do every week then dont come and see what she says to that!! xx
    big hugs hun xxxxx

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    • Annette
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    I would have said "Oh I never expected my mum to help out, I mean, you're not helping h2b out at all are you? So why should I expect my mum to?" In a sweeeeet tone. Also, whenever anyone says anything about money to be I reply with "Well I'll be buying dinner for 60 people that day so I'm kinda skint". If she whinges about the cost of going tell her no one is forcing her to go. Dear lord, you'd think people would get excited about their children's wedding! Sorry, getting quite worked up on your behalf now hehe.
    Ignore her, don't talk wedding with her if you don't have to, and just try to enjoy the build up to your big day *hugs*

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    • Silvermist
      CommentAuthorSilvermist
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    My in laws are exactly the same, my mum hasnt got much money at all but has said when i choose a dress she will try her best to help us out! my dad has said he will give us £1500, which im not expecting him to give me anything, iv not budgeted this in the cost of my wedding we are paying for everything ourselves but im thinking this could go towards a honeymoon! My H2B's dad is loaded & when he asked if my mum & dad where paying for the wedding he was told what they were giving us & as he was so cheeky to ask us my H2B said are you wanting to help us out with anything! he laughed in his face & said yeah right thats the brides families job!! & his mum is on every benefit under the sun she's on well more that 3 grand a month, which is fine she's ill & can hardly walk or breathe, but she claims that she's skint all the time & asked us for a loan of money when h2b told her we had bought our rings, i think she thinks we are a bank!!!!
    All his family are interested in is are we choosing a nice enough meal, never mind the fact were paying for it our selves so were not discussing it with htem, they wont be included in any of our plans! my dad, im so grateful he cares enough to have offered us money as he know we will need help, i think theres always one in the family that will give hassle & i wouldnt talk wedding with anyone like that again xx




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    • LegoWife
      CommentAuthorLegoWife
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    Oh flossie, if your parents have money to put towards your wedding that's great, no one was trying to make you feel bad about that, there's just no sense in getting upset about in laws not paying towards your wedding. In laws can be a pain it's best to just leave them to it and ignore their 'opinions.'

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    • loustew2012
      CommentAuthorloustew2012
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    awww flossie dont get upset. i would just not mention the wedding or at least bring it up with them. if they bring it up just say everything going to plan and smile. that sometimes get to folk, trust me ive used it already!!!

    my fil2b are wanting us to go to them for their side with statements, receipts so they can see that they are getting the money worth. when i ordered my bm dresses saturday there she knew shes paying for them and sat there, god it was so awkward the silence. ma sister went nuts, i told her its fine cos shes just paid for 2 holidays and extras on the holiday and the wedding isnt for 13 months yet so it be fine. weve a meeting tonight to discuss what they are paying for and i cant wait to show her the list and costs.....h2b is staying outta this but no she wants a list she will get it ha ha ha!!!

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