Sorry girls kind of a long one. My older brother and his partner called me last night and said they had booked there wedding for the 4th of august next year and as someof you no I get married on the 3rd. So as you can imagane im not happy about so I said im getting marriedon the 3rd so they cant get married on the 4th!! so they called there places today and now they are getting married on the 26th of may so they can be married before us im annoyed now because they are having my colour scheme and everything im furious!!! Im so upset i just want to call it all off now i dont want people thinking I have copied them!! xxx

You poor thing, how horrible :( have you said anything to them?

aww no. Have you got many things in your colour scheme? if not, I know you shouldn't have to ,but maybe change your colours slightly - and don't tell them anyhting else about what your planning. also their wedding will give you a bit of time before yours so you can improve on anything they get wrong :) x

Thats pants! Tell them you have changed your colour scheme to something like hot pink and poppy red with hints of burnt orange.
Other than that just make sure people know your scheme first. So it shows they are copying and let slip whatever you can about there plans.

Id be angry aswel, I sort of have this going on in h2bs family! Grr!! Just dont tell anyone any plans for your wedding, x

im just really annoyed because she was one of my bridesmaids but i cant have her anymore because we can afford that many anymore im sat here now close to a break down i cant change my colour scheme as it the only colour that does clash with a very ginger person and a blonde and 3 kids i dont no what to do xxx

They probably feel like they deserve to get married first. But if they've been engaged that long then I don't think they do deserve to go first at all. Some people are so thoughtless.

It doesn't matter if you have the same colour? My mum got married last year and had purple and my brother got married this year and also had purple.... No one compared there weddings at all so maybe it won't matter. Just be complimented she likes your style and colour choose xxx

you sure they are not winding you up? Originally it was THE DAY AFTER your wedding they were having it? Who would do that unless it was a wind up?

Although my concept of winding up is very limited and i would be the last person to do that and i am quite gullible becuase of it.

I dont blame you for not wanting the same colour scheme, i wouldnt either, im actually annoyed at this situation and it's not even my family!, i just think some people have no consideration, they are clearly doing it to mess with you surely? they have to get in there first, do your best to stay focused on your wedding hun and put all your effort into making your day special xXx

SAM: Its unbelievably annoying hey!, just think u have all this time to get married and now u choice to do it just because we are... grr!!!

Rant over lol
xXx

im thinking of completely scrapin the hole thing xxx

This is exactly the same...., My h2bs family cant stop talking about her wedding! but soon as we mention something about ours its like they change the subject!! (especially his mum) :( which is really upsetting coz i think all she is interested in is there wedding... y tho?? confuses me so much! xXx not scraping the wedding surely???? xXx

Loving Kempy's idea!!! If you did decide to change your colour hun we can all help you :) xXx

lol cant aford to move the wedding i dont think we can afford it to start with but we will c. i think i need another colour scheme xx

Well keep the wedding as it is. But with our help make it better and bigger than theirs :P just dont tell them any information about your wedding and if they ask just say i dont know. And again send their invite out last. And I agree about red being a colour that suits ginger people as that colour really suits my daughter.

Natural and earth tones such as beiges, browns, camel, dark and olive greens, orange reds and gold look good - just plucked this off the good old faithful search engine xx

(((Hugs sam))))
H2b's brother is getting married tommrow (Abroad) and they choose everything the same just not locations, I was really peeded of but all i thought about was im getting married to the man i want to spend the rest of my life with it doesnt matter about colours flowers or loacations, We have just let them get on with it! We have just made special touchers to our wedding and added another colour into the wedding, H2b's brother was ment to be getting married in august onthe same day as us Lol but his gf wanted the wedding before ours! Try not to let it get you down just think of the imporatant bit 'Getting married to your the man you want to spend the rest of your life with' xxx

I'm not point scoring or anything xx

I will change it but I need colours that will will go with ginger and blonde xx

wish people where more like you xx

Just plan your wedding but keep your plans quiet, then go to their wedding and make notes on what not to do! Sticj to your colour scheme but keep quiet on the final touches. Your brother and his partner seem a touch selfish and spiteful but try and put a positive spin on it - you must be doing a fantastic job and have some great ideas if they are copying you!

aww hun this totally sucks for you. I had a similar situation twice. first my sister in law got engaged and we had been engaged over 2 year and she phoned and basically said " well you cant afford it and im older so im getting married this year and you can have yours next year!!!!" i was fuming as how dare she assume what we could and couldnt afford!!!!! as it is it has worked out for the best as we can now have the perfect wedding i have always wanted.

Then i was looking at booking my venue and my cousin got engaged, I phoned straight away and congratulated her and she said right well we will both be getting married at the same time so keep each other posted on date details. i told her i was booked in to view a venue that weekend and would let her know. I posted on fb on my way home from venue that i loved it and was waiting conformation of date, 30 secs after my post i had a call of her to say she had booked her venue and it just happened to be the day after i wanted!!! which was the jubilee weekend!! as my venue wasnt booked i had to give in and look for a new venue ( that was only date available for the sunday special as couldnt afford the venue on a sat or fri)
Her wedding was on monday and it was lovely but all i kept thinking was im so glad she went first as i can now make sure i dont forget the little details and how can i do things better not make the same mistakes etc.

i know its hard but i wouldnt try and compete as you could end up not enjoying your special day as its not the day you really wanted it just to out do her wedding. Think about what you really want and if thats the red colour scheme then just go for it and do it the way you want and it will be perfect and no one will go " o shes copied their colour scheme blah blah blah"

ps a friend of mine was at a friends wedding and her friend walked down in her wedding dress!!!!! she was getting married about 3 months later and was so horrified but loved her dress so much she has decided to keep it as its her dream dress too.!!!!
xxxx

Some brother you have fancy wanting to get married the day after you, i dont know well as they say you can pick your friends but not your family, hope you manage to sort everything out xx

I know a girl who had a firey redheaded bridesmaid and choose teal blue which looked lovely :-) it goes with blonde too.

I would pretend to change your colours even if you dont, but dont worry too much as like others have said no one will really be making comparisons either!
I would also rather get married after them as you have the advantage of having seen their wedding making yours even better (hehehe) you also get the run up excitement while shes suffering the post weddings blues! Hope your ok xx

im thinking of changin the date now but we have booked the church but partner is stuck on that day now as its 2 days after my birthday xx

I'd be annoyed too, but having the same colour scheme is a really silly reason to change your own plans. They're the ones behaving like children, and are trying to points score and get one up on you, but really, is that worth getting yourself all worked up over, worked up enough that you're talking of CANCELLING your own wedding?! I'd certainly be slyly seeing if they'd change their plans in reaction to feeding them false information, but I think you need to take a few deep breaths and refocus on why you're getting married, very few people will notice or care if both weddings have aspects that are the same, and even if they do, so what, it's about people getting married, not holding up scorecards!