Hi. I hope this isn't too personal but do you mind me asking if you're paying for coaches for your wedding? I'm happy to pay for the coach from the church to the Rugby Club obviously, then ask people to pay towards the coach home if I arrange it, they'd only have to book taxis anyway. My fiancé's family are staying in a Travel Lodge, probably about 40 mins away and his mother (who's a total witch) is implying I should be paying their coach to and from the hotel as they are 'already paying for the hotel'. It's still 13 months away I know but it's still bugging me that she's saying that! My family have given literally thousands towards this wedding and his family not a penny. All they need is hotel for two nights and bus fare!
Forum Poll
Would you pay for transport?
Should we be paying for transport to and from the hotel?
Poll Results
Total Votes:
24
Yes
4%
No
96%
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
IMO it isn't your responsibility to lay on transport, so I voted 'no'. People can car-share, or book taxis.
If I was attending a wedding I would not expect transport to be included; I would expect to make my own arrangements.
CommentAuthorelisejanine
Thank you. That's what annoys me about her attitude. It's not my job to get everyone there and back but I don't mind making life a bit easier and arranging coaches and the rest of my guests seem happy to pay.
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CommentAuthorkatielea100
We're getting married at the registry office and from there having photos in a local gardens basically there's going to be 35 of us all together but me and H2B will be going in the wedding car I'm asking as many people as poss to drive if they can so people can jump in others cars if needed After the photos are done people can drive home then walk to the venue as it's literally 10 min walk! I'm hoping they're all ok with this I don't have budget to pay for transport for anyone apart from BMs xx
CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
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How ridiculous to expect you to pay, why have they chosen a hotel 40 mins away anyway?? surely there were closer ones. I would love to pay for transport for all of our guests & have actually had quotes which have came back around £700. That is for collection from various pick up points onto the church, church onto the reception & then home after, but we have since decided against it as its an unnecessary expense.
What I will be doing is a coach picking people up in city centre to take to the hotel where we are getting married everything under one roof and then a coach back to city centre after evening do. If anyone wants anything out with these arrangements they sort it and pay for it themselves.
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I've voted no also. Our venue is 45 minutes from home and we're not putting on any transport. If you have groups of ppl/family that know each other they can get 8-10 seater taxis making the journey cheaper ... We are under the impression that if ppl want to come they will come x
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CommentAuthorFranM76
I wouldn't expect transport to be laid on if I were going to a wedding so I vote no. Don't people think you're paying out enough as it is? xx
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
If I was going to a wedding I would not expect transport to be provided.
Why have they chosen a hotel 40 minutes away?
Our Church is 30 minutes away from our venue and obviously depending on where people live there are varying distances. Oh's family live away so will have to get a hotel and they aren't sure whether to get the hotel they usually get, which is 10 minutes from the Church but 40 minutes from the venue, or whether to book somewhere else which is in between the venue and the Church. They have already told us their travel plans and don't expect us to sort out transport for them. That's just stupid
CommentAuthorAna40
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We have ordered a coach to take people from the venue to the church and back as alot of the people attending do not live in the local area. X
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
We're putting a vintage bus on from check to venue but not home.... It's totally optional if u wanna do it then do it, if not then no but if I was a guest and was asked to pay towards transport I'd be miffed even if I planned on getting a taxi back anyway, I just find it a little forward/rude etc it's the whole asking thing, also some people may not wanna go when the bus departs x
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CommentAuthorCh4lky
No way. I wouldn't. So you pay to entertain everyone for the day, feed them, get them there and you've gotta get them back? Erm no x
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CommentAuthorMegs84
I'm not paying over the odds prices! A lot of my family and friends will be driving to get to the church anyway, and the venue is 30 mins away. From there they can get taxis home as it's local. I'm even getting a taxi for myself and oh from venue to hotel at the end!
CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Our church is 50 mins from the reception as my h2b wants the church in his parents parish, I think we should provide a coach from our reception venue to the church and back as all my friends and family are coming from 300 miles away....however I was planning on charging people for this as they could drive themselves other wise. On our wedding website I've put a survey for guests to fill in asking if they would require transport and the cost then if not many people want it we won't book a coach. I've got a quote for £1045 and one for £600 which is still allot but if 40 guests pay towards it it makes it better. All guests will be staying over near reception venue I would think as we live away from his family to. You shouldn't have to pay for transport for his parents if they've chose a hotel ridiculously far away!
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CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I plan on putting in invites that a coach will be arranged at a cost of £10 per person and if there is a short fall then we will pay the difference. This is from my experience of being invited to a weddign that was in the middle of nowhere and cost us over £30 in taxis and £65 on a b&b. If they had put on a coach and asked us to pay a fee then we would have done so gladly.
The people we have spoken to so far have said that that is a great idea as they can't all afford a htoel and taxis for the night.
If i were you ask people to pay towards the coash even if it is £5 or £10 per persona and pat the difference if here is one xx
CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Yeah I was thinking £10 pp return.
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CommentAuthorelisejanine
That's what I'm thinking £10 pp at the very most. Though I've spoken to the family directly and they are saying to stop worrying and they'll sort themselves out. Though I don't mind helping them find hotels and getting a coach. One family have said they'll stay in a hotel much closer but it's a bit pricey, so whoever wants luxury can stay there and I'm looking for B&Bs and guest houses near by to that hotel. x
Got together January 2010
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