me and chris have been together for just over 9 months and were getting married in august 11. As well be 19 when we get married his mum says were to young and i know other people will think we are to young but what if you met your fiancee or husband when yu was are age and you felt exactly the same as you do know would you want to still get married no matter what, well back to the point his mum says were to young to young but my mum says her and my dad wont be able to pay for the whole wedding so we need to ask chris's mum but she's well a little tight and she thinks were to young so what can i tell chris to say to her. Its really bugging me and i really need help anything will help and be appreciated.
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
First the age has no bearing on anything when youve found the one you know no matter what age you are (i was 19 when i first got married and that lasted 12 years).
Second just go to his mum and say 'look this IS happening and we would like you to be apart of it, wheather thats putting money towards things or coming with me to try on dresses is up to you but i would like you to be apart of our special day'. That way your asking for money but not saying 'give me money' and your letting her know that you value her input.
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CommentAuthorCupCake
Hello Hunni :) We have a couple of girls on here who have been in the same boat as you are now, people saying they are too young to get married! I think 19 is young to get married too, but I'm 41 and knowing what I know now makes me think you're too young for no other reason than I know how I've changed over the years since I've been 19. I think you should maybe try and save up for the wedding yourselves if you want to prove to people you are mature enough to get married, they can see you are if you save hard for what you want no? If you do really want to get married now I think you should think long and hard about your thoughts for the future, as marriage is not something you should rush into without alot of thought. Good luck with it all ... I hope you find the right path to take x
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CommentAuthorKizzy81
The subject of asking for money at ANY age is difficult - my H2B's parents aren't offering much, just some wine and even that they wouldn't buy champagne for the toasts so I've bought it myself.
Does your H2B have brothers and sisters? If he's no sisters, she can't use the excuse that she'll have to pay for theirs...!
CommentAuthorCheryl22
there is no right or wrong age to get married - i am 19, got engaged when i was 18 and some of my friends didnt like it and thought we were too young!! i just turned round and said ' we love each other and if you cannot accept that then i dont think i want you @ the wedding, as we want to be surrounded by people who love us and respect our decision' - as for your OH mum. she may just need time to come to terms with her ' losing her little boy' - i had the same problem with my OH's mum and she used to be a bit ch to me - but lately she has been realy good, has offered us a lot of money for the wedding and is taking an interest in me more as she sees how serious we are. ( she can still be a pain in the ass sometimes tho) lol, so maybe she just needs time , or you could always go and talk to her and make her understand why use want to get married and how serious you both are.
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There is nothing so sweet in life, as loves young dream!
Im 20, will be 21 when w get married. Alot of people have told me i will be too young (not family though), but we have been together for 5 years. To be honest i dont think age ha much to do with things, but i do think its an important decision to be made that needs lot of thought. Personally, for me 5 years is a good length of time, it may be different for you. II agree with cupcake though, if your mature enough you should be saving yourselves. We have pod for most things ourselves, and would never expect anyone to contribute. After all its our weddig not theirs. Hope things work out for ya xXx
CommentAuthorKaya
I agree you shouldn't expect other people to pay for the wedding... most people pay for the wedding themselves these days! Hence a lot of people on here aren't getting married til 2013 etc, so they have time to save up! Hope you find a way anyways x
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CommentAuthorPuddleduck87
In my honest opinion, you need to save some money yourself first. I think its cheeky to expect your parents to pay for the whole thing. Maybe by doing this your parents will see how serious you are about being together and then they will come round. I got engaged when I was your age. Our families reacted the way his have. They come round in the end :) xxx
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
thank yu hails that really is a good idea. cupcake i do see were your coming from and im sure when i get older i'll be saying the same to the younger generation :) and especially me i have been paying for things myself but like with everyone and everything a little help is nice. kizzy he has 2 older brothers one dosn't look like he's getting married anytime soon :) the other dosn't talk to the family atm so she has no money issues there atm and his younger sister is only 9 so i have an idea she wont be getting married anytime soon lol.
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Weddings don't have to cost a lot of money. You can do it for a couple of hundred.
Age does not come into love.
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Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
cheryl seems like were sort of in the same boat :) his mum is really nice to me but i dont know what it is she might change her mind fingers crossed. thank you lindsay and i do see your point aswell. kaya even though my dad can be annoying i dont want him to feel like im taking the daddy's role of paying for atleast some of his daughters wedding from him because we have never been really close and it seems like iv grown up fast so i dont want to take it all of him but i do want to spend more money on the wedding myself. puddleduck saves me having to type it again just read above XD x
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
dove i am trying to keep the wedding cost's down because iv always said i dont want a fairytale wedding aslong as its how i wont it dosnt matter how much it cost's (aslong as it dont cost to much) XD x
CommentAuthorCheryl22
yeah it seems like we are - there are a few girls on here that are of similar age aswel - we have managed to save up quite a bit since we got engaged and when we told our parents this, they asked if they could contribute. Not everyone will have the money to help you tho, so if anyone does, no matter how little - let them know how much it means to you x
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CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
everyone is different, there is no way i was ready to get married when i was 19 but that is irrelevant to whether you are! Me and Edd will be 24 and 25 when we get married next year and some people still tell us thats too young. But, if its right for you and your fiance then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks - prove them wrong! xx
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
cheryl yh i would show them how grateful i am and me and chris do TRY and save lol but i am really start work my bum off to save now because i know i cant ask people to help but then dont bother helping myself. pinkalice well i say aswell it shouldn't matter how old you are and yu could get married to the same person when yu was 18 or 48 if the marraige isn't going to work then it dosn matter how old yu are x
CommentAuthorDaffy
I'm 20 and i get told i'm too young - ignore them :)
Daffy
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
it looks like whatever age we are we'll still get told were to young x x
CommentAuthorlittle miss red head
my mum and dad were 19 when they got married and will be celebrating their 33rd anniversary this year so age really doesn't matter : )
CommentAuthorMrsKragle
Me and my h2b are 18 and 21, but we love each other and want to make a commitment to each other, in the eyes of the law we're adults and we could just go off and get married, but parents are funny things, you'll always be your mum and dads little girl/boy, I know my mum has a bit of an issue with me getting married so young, but she's said herself, in her little parenty fantasy bubble, she wouldn't let any of us get married and leave home until we were nearly 30! we have to understand parents views and concerns but then they have to understand ours! x
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
little miss red head thats so sweet but yu hardally get told about young couples staying together that long witch is annoying because its obvius young couples can stay together... MrsKragle your right we are adult in the eyes of the law but to everyone else we get treaten like babys no matter what x x
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Stuff what everyone says! You wouldn't believe the grief Pidge and I get as we are getting married but don't live together!
Its your life, you know what is right!
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
you can tell times have changed it was normal for people to get married even younger than us and yu wern't even aloud to live with eachother till yu was married... either way they'll be some of us that just cant win x x
CommentAuthorpinkkirsty
I think to be honest she should except that he clearly loves you and you love him and she should except that you are getting married and age is only a number. And she should want to contribute financially, most couples who are getting married nowadays both parents contribute. x
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
exactly thats all i would like its a contribution and am going to involve her in other pays so it dosn't seem like i just want her for the money x x
