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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jul 28th 2017
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    What do you think ?

    A bride in USA has sent out invitations to girlfriends inviting them to attend an auction .... what are they bidding on ? The chance to be a bridesmaid ,with the highest bidder becoming maid of honour.

    They couple are going to use the money to put towards wedding and honeymoon but it's not like they need the money ,they are loaded

    So would you ask your bridesmsids to pay for the privilege ? ... where do you draw the line at what bridesmsids pay for ?

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    • CommentAuthorClaire1978
      Posted: Jul 28th 2017
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    I certainly don't think they should pay for their own dresses, H&MU maybe, but you can't force them thats their choice. I'm not having any because I can't afford them. I wouldn't think that highly of myself that they would want to win the privilege in a raffle lol
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 28th 2017
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    Wow what shallow people! How much are they expecting people to bid?

    Interestingly are they doing the same for best man and groomsmen?

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    • Mrs T Hurley!
      CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 28th 2017
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    If they had done a bidding war for charity, I think I could tolerate it but not to fund your wedding. To me, that's being tight

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    • Tiffany
      CommentAuthorTiffany
      Got married 31 months ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2017
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    Wow for once I have no words!

    Our bridesmaids are paying for their dresses to help us out with costs but as soon as the wedding is paid for we are paying them back, we are doing the same with the groomsmen as well.
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    • NicoleW665
      CommentAuthorNicoleW665
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 31st 2017
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    haha if i even got asked to attend an auction i would definitely question the friendship. Might even send back an invoice for her to pay for the honour of me being her bridesmaid

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    • StaceyH989
      CommentAuthorStaceyH989
      Got married 33 months ago
      Posted: Jul 31st 2017
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    What is the world coming too! That is just downright silly.

    I have asked my bridesmaids to pay for their shoes and a bag if they want one but I have paid for everything else. We tend to forget it isn't just about the dress, shoes, hair and make up there are hidden costs too. What about the fuel they use traveling, the money they use to pay for a overnight stay, they money they will spend at the hen party.

    I would seriously question the morals of a bride who wants their so called friends to bid for a place to be a bridesmaids especially when they don't need the money, that couple need to take a long hard look in the mirror and think about what really matters to them.
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Aug 1st 2017
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    OMG. No no no no no no no!!!!!

    I believe in the bride paying for her BMs outfits etc. But if she can't afford it and her BMs can then with their consent from the beginning they can contribute but then have more say in what they're sending their money on.

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Aug 5th 2017
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    Oh jeez, no way!!! I'd never pay I be one,

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 33 months ago
      Posted: Aug 5th 2017
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    Why does this say mods onky? Can no one else join in?

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Aug 5th 2017
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    Lol no. It means only mods can open up debate topic threads xxx

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 33 months ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2017
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    Oh- I've just never seen that before! Lol xx

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Aug 11th 2017
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    If a yo e has any ideas for a debate thread feel to message one of us n we will do it for you xxxx

 
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