Since we first started to plan our wedding i never even thought about asking my parents for any money toards it. I never ask for anything and i am a bit of a softie really when it comes to this subject.
Well i have just got off the phone to my mum and she said she is wantin to give us a donation! She asked if i had asked my dad (they split when i was little) and i said no, and i wouldnt know how to go about it. She said leave it to me, i will speak to your dad and i will work my magic on david (my step dad) and will let you know!
This is such a big thing for us as we have basically no budget and are trying to save when we have nothing spare.
I feel so elevated right now! I have no idea of how much to expect but even if it is only a small amount it will help us so much!
I just wanted to share as i am now buzzing!! :D
CommentAuthorCupCake
Brilliant news hun, I'm sure it's made you feel like things can get under way now x
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CommentAuthorMrsBroady2B
Thats rally good for you hun. :) My mum has offered to pay a lot towards our wedding. My folks are split up too and she keeps asking me if I have asked my dad what he is going to put towards the wedding. The same as you, I don't really like to ask. Plus my dad is on lower paid job than my mum and lives in just a house on his own as he says he never wants to marry again. My mum lives with her partner who has a pretty good paid job too. Plus I would feel really cheaky asking. My dad is always running around every weekend between me and my brother as we don't drive and we both have kids. He must spend a small fortune on the petrol. As for his folks, I don't think will help at all. They only really think of them selves!!!
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Thats brilliant news hun, keep us updated
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CommentAuthorNikitaL
Thanks everyone! :)
Mrs Broady, i can relate to that, i dont really know how much money my dad has, he is in a good paid job and so is my step mum, but they are doing there house up. I dont want to ask as if they cant afford it i dont want them to feel pressured and feel bad if they cant. But with my mum taking this on and doing it for me it kind of lets me off the hook! :)
my OH's parents offered to pay for our honeymoon straight away as we don't have our own house and they bought my OH's brother and his wife a £1000 sofa so they said they would match this for us. Then as we working through the budget in a corner of the living room his parents said oh we'll get the cake too. Then later on when i said i wasn't sure if i wanted a car i would just go in someone's car with a ribbon on they insisited on paying for the car too as they are only forking out £420 for the cake and £300 for the car they said they would do that as they gave that to OH's brother.
My parents have always said i had £1000 for my dress. It came in at £1300 but never mind they gave us the £1000 and then £200 for dad and little brothers suits and then £50 for flowergirl dresses as my nan said she was getting these and then dropped out.
all in all if we didn't have this help we would be thousands out of pocket and probably would have had to cut more things out of the budget.
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CommentAuthorMrs Badger
Fab news, how lovely of your mum. My mum is helping us out a wee bit too, it takes a lot of pressure off. xx
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CommentAuthorNikitaL
That sounds great Mrs mann :) that's really kind of your parents :)
I know kaya it has taken off loads of pressure and I don't even know how much they are helping us with or even if my dad will.
Waiting for my phone to go off so I know...
It's like waiting for Christmas when I was 5! Lol!
Will keep you all updated! :D
CommentAuthorUnknown
that is brilliant! xx
CommentAuthorGabyS
arh thats great and you didn't even ask... its a lovely thought of hers and must be fab for you x
CommentAuthorloustew2012
awww thats lovely.
were getting our wedding paid for us because weve taken so long to actually do it the parentals insisted. although we did pay the deposits out of my redundancy and i keep buying wee things here and there so they arent paying fully.
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Theres no way without you.
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CommentAuthorNikitaL
I am just waiting now for my dad to get back to my mum so then we have a better idea of our budget and can start planning more :)
CommentAuthorangelsmile
Aww this is fab! Really great that your family are helping out, it's such a lot to pay on your own isn't it :( I can imagine this has totally lifted your spirits!
I hope your H2B is okay about it, my fiance seems to find it really weird if we are offered any money, which is sweet that he wants to provide for us and do it on his own, but also want to be careful not to cause offence :)
Best of luck with your budgetting! I don't know where to start! :)
CommentAuthorJo
I know exactly how you feel... Luckily my mum and step dad offered to give us 3k straight away for our wedding which was a big big help. She often asked what my dad was contributing but I never felt I could ask him as I've never asked for anything from him before as I was brought up by my mum. He gave my sister 1000 when she got married but felt cheeky asking him as he is now single and living alone with bills to pay single handedly. Luckily he brought the subject up and offered to pay for my photography which was a big help. My nan has paid 700 towards my dress and my OH mum has paid for the mens suits. With out the help I would be having a nervous break down right now as it is soooooo more expensive than i realised!!
CommentAuthorGoldiepostie
it's horrible isn't it! Especially when siblings have got married before you and you know they were given something!
We've been really lucky so far in that my Nan gave us £1,000 which paid for our deposit on our venue and she wants to buy our wedding cake as well (she said she doens't care how much it is as long as i love it!), my Mum is paying for our Photographer (£1,500) which i was so shocked at and very emotional as my Mum can't work (and is divorced from my Dad) and doesn't have a lot of money but she said she's putting £20 each week away to pay for it! I almost cried!!
The thing i hate is that me and my Dad aren't speaking atm because he's married this awful woman (which me and my sisters found out about via text on the day he got married in St Lucia!!), and it's caused a rift between us all. My Dad earns big money and i know he helped my sister out when she got married and my other sister has had money from him in the past too, so i was the last one to be given anything as the youngest, but i don't think that will happen now :-( Would have helped out a lot as well if he'd contribute - i text him when we'd booked our wedding, and he hasn't responded so i think i've given up on him, not just with money for the wedding but in general :-(
xx
CommentAuthorangelsmile
Aw Goldiepostie that sounds like a lot to deal with especially as well as trying to plan your wedding :( It's really sweet that your mom is putting away £20 a week, I think that's a lot of dedication and really lovely.
I think it's really hard when siblings have been involved. I'm the first one to get married in my family, but a daughter. My brother is engaged too but apparently it's the brides father who pays, so I don't know if we will end up falling out over money too. xxx
CommentAuthorMrs.K.Ward
I've been a lucky lady and my parents have paid for my wedding, we have made a small contribution as well mind.
My brother and sister had something to say about them paying for the wedding and keep making snide remarks every now and then. My OH's parents are not well off like my sisters in-laws so they can't afford to help in anyway were my sisters in-laws paid the deposit on their first house which is probably equivalent to our wedding budget. My bro paid for his wedding himself but he only got married coming up 2 years ago and he and his wife are both in well paid jobs so it wasn't a problem for them.
I have been with my OH for 9 years and could pretty much never afford to pay for our own wedding so my parents wanted to make this happen for us, I am so incredibly grateful to them and count my lucky stars everyday as they are making 2012 the best year ever for me and my future hubby.
CommentAuthormelvis
weve been really lucky.... my mum and dad are paying for the entire wedding reception when we come back from kos, venue catering decorations entertainment... so weve won a watch there!! h2b mum has given us some money and his dad (they split up...) gave us £3k but we put it to a new car!! so weve been lucky here xx
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CommentAuthorNikitaL
Angelsmile:
My h2b is fine with it as we have hardly any income between us, he is only working part time at the moment and i am off on the sick waiting for an op, so we are a little overwhelmed with it at the moment. Still waiting for my dad to contact my mum so we know whats happening but anything they can help us with will be amazing!
CommentAuthorNikitaL
Jo:
That is really kind of your mum! I think that amount of money would pay for the majority of our wedding! I think i would pass out if my mum offered that much! I know how you feel about not wanting to ask your dad, as i am the same, thats why i am lucky to have my mum to do it for me :)
aww and bless your nan :) Thats so sweet. I think it is so kind when people offer to help out :)
CommentAuthorNikitaL
Aww Goldie, that is such a shame about you and your dad :( Sounds like you have had it tough hunni. I agree with angelsmile about how lovely it is of your mum putting money away every week, bless her! Even though she is struggling with money she still wants to help out, that is so sweet of her :)
CommentAuthorNikitaL
Mrsward, that is amazing! And so good of your parents. Obviously your brother and sister are just jealous, and let them be! Who cares what they think! You know how greatful you are and i am sure your parents do too, they have offered so its what they want to do. Must be a big relief to know that the money side is taken care of, one less thing to stress about! :)
CommentAuthorNikitaL
Wow!! Melvis! That is very very lucky!! (or jammy! ;) lol) Way to go you :)
CommentAuthorGoldiepostie
thanks ladies! It's nice to have support on here - and i'm so lucky to have a Mum like mine - she means the world to me and i don't know what i'd do without her! I'm a very lucky girl.
I'll still invite my Dad to the wedding (but not his wife), if he doesn't come then that's his loss, not mine as i've got the best Mum in the world (i know we all have!!), and my Step-Dad is amazing and that's why i'm asking him to give me away!
xxx
CommentAuthorNikitaL
Aww Goldie, its good to see your looking at your situation with a positive outlook :) And as you say if your dad doesnt want to come then it is his loss! And after all you still have your mum :) Big hugs! :)
