Every now and then i get very overwhelmed and think " I cant do this" I mean in regards to organising this and pulling it all off as to how it is in my mind. I have no doubts about marrying H2B Every now and then (usually when i look at wedding photos) I get a very strange/emotional/nervy feeling and i just think shall we stay as we are?
Does anyone else ever feel this way?
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
the only time I feel like that is when I think about what other people may think of the wedding - I've planned and organised the whole thing myself so anything they don't like is down to me, and I don't want people judging things I've done and deciding they don't like them. I generally don't really care what people think of me, but I really do care about this, I just want everyone to like everything! I guess its because we had a family wedding 2 years ago, now ours, then another one at christmas and I just know people will compare :o( Don't worry though, I'm sure its completely normal :o)
CommentAuthorKATG
oooh, I feel sad that you both feel like this. There are your friends and family, they love you. Anyone that judges you simply be discounted as important in your life. Enjoy the planning, and the day!!
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CommentAuthorKellyD
i agree with kat, you shouldnt be thinking about what other people will think of your day as you should be thinking about what you will like more than what others will. it is overwhelming when you think about the full picture. the best thing to do is break things down into chunks. make lists. concentrate on a few things at a time and it will eventually all fall together. i found that making a list of everything i needed to do and organising everything into like a wedding file/planner helped a lot. x
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
for me its just that there are some members of Adam's family who are lovely on the surface but really bitchy behind your back. I like them, we get on really well but we all know that when we're not there, they b!tch about stuff. One of them got married 2 years ago, the other is getting married at Christmas, and their mum is just as bad as they are. MIL2B is bitchy too. I guess I want everyone to think I've done a good job, and yet I know these few will have a whale of a time slagging it all off behind my back later. I know what they'll say already: We're having a string quartet which will be seen as pretentious, Aqua and fuschia is the colour scheme, with bright orange thrown in to the bouquets - that'll be too bright and tacky We're having champagne and canapes - again will be seen as pretentious (because the previous wedding didn't do it) Adam and Chris are wearing morning suits - it'll look silly with just the two of them
It is overwhelming, and it is difficult not to care about what other people think, we're all only human after all...and I know what I'm like myself when I go to weddings - I do notice colours of things, food on offer, decor etc., and I'm sure I can have my critical moments, ahem!! We're getting the same feeling Elle, at some point it's gone from being about us to being about what will keep such and such a family member happy, what food and music guests will want, whether it'll be convenient for them to get there....argh!
CommentAuthorElle23
Glad im not the only one although its not a nice feeling and would not wish it on anyone I think it does not help that there is a lot of stress in general at the moment with one thing and another. They all tend to morph into each other and its getting on top of me!
I have plenty of time (as everyone likes to keep telling me, they clearly dont realise money does not grow on tree's and that suppliers get booked up!) so i think i will take a step back for a wee while and let the dust settle
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorCupCake
It IS overwhelming planning your wedding, and you have every right to feel like it's too much at times, I know I did. It does all come together in the end and I don't know many brides that have said "my wedding day was total rubbish" EVERYONE hated it! Think of it like this .... planning your wedding is like picking a huge bunch of your favourite flowers, every time you complete something you have added to your bouquet ..... on your wedding day you tie the ribbon around your perfect bunch of flowers that holds all your hand picked flowers .... and everything comes together perfectly because you have worked so hard.
take a few days off every now and again and reflect on what you're doing and why ... not to please others but to marry that special man in your life ... it should all be about the 2 of you. x
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorElle23
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorKaz
The only people that need to find it perfect are the two of you!
If you both like and enjoy the day that you have put together then stuff everyone else! xx
WARNING:
I say the first thing I think of!
CommentAuthorsussie
It is overwhelming, i found it best to write a list, and do it that way.
and as long its what you 2 want, then its gonna be the best day for you ever.
CommentAuthorvicandsimon
Oh bless, I remember that feeling! As the day draws closer it somehow got easier for me, I felt more organised as I put down deposits and made a final decision on dress, cake, centrepieces etc. now only 5 weeks left I feel abit of the panic start to set back in but Im confident it will fade when I pick up dress and pay final balances (i hope x
