could you not have the band come on for an hour or two? disco/band/disco ?
second of all its up to you on the flowers and it YOU want to add pink into it
it is your wedding day after all hun so just go with what you want :) x

It is tricky
I don't want to offend her and i don't want her to feel she cant say her opinion, Its just the way she comes pout with it is more patronising and i suppose dismissive of what we have chosen.

As silly as it sounds im finding it quite hurtful as these are choices we started to make (might well change in the coming months i know and the florist im sure will give her professional opinion)

If it was wallpaper, or a car or a top then i would prob take it much better but these are our touches for one of the best days of our lives

I do like the pale pink's in with the green but the flowers i like are not traditionally bridal.
H2B does not want to add pink and most def not to dresses, cravats etc.

My dress will be ivory, the little ones flowers are white headed and there will be some white in my bouquet.
All the table linen is white and we are going with fish bowls and mirror plates for the centre pieces.

Im not sure how it will look "Too green?!"

The band thing, its likely they are coming from down south so to have them only for an hour would not be worth their time to come i don't think. Plus its the setting up and dismantling the set.

I think H2B may be coming round to the idea but i need to check with him its because he would like a band and he's not just saying yes for an easy life!!!

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I'm not really a flower fan, but if I was to have them then I would like just white and green, simple yet they make a statement.

no agree with you theres no need for the pink and think it will look lovely the way your going ignore you mum on that one lol i think we have very similar tastes elle as we both seem to like the same bits when we comment on posts lol my theme is going quite garden party/vintage with a bird theme running through it with pink, green and ivory as my colours i got the theme totally buy accident as i just picked things i like and it all tied together really nicely.

i think pink use to be quite a traditional wedding colour been to a lot of wedding in my time and most had pink or peach in there some were.

i quiet like these but cant decide between fresh or artificial flowers

think you need to get your bridzilla on elle at the end of the day its what you and h2b want so if your both happy then thats what you should do.

Awww i LOVE this forum!!!
Thanks girls xx

i love the green and white. Had we not been going for bright flowers (fuschia, bright orange and yellow! lol) I probably would have gone for something similar. Very classy and tasteful :o) It definitely doesn't need pink, and if you don't want it then put your foot down - politely of course, she is going to be your MiL after all ;o)

Ha ha ha Who voted Yes but never explained why?

No probs hun
I dont think MIL would query anything we have chosen
Im thinking of taking mum to the florist with me so they can tell her they are classic like all you lovely ladies have said.
Also thinking of showing her this thread maybe!

Bless ya!

Nope my MIL has shown minimum interest so far.
Would rather tell me about a cousin twice removed that has got engaged and will be getting married next year.
WHO CARES?!

OR another good one was flicking through the paper on sunday as soon as we walked through the door, thrusting it in my face to show me Amanda Holdens baby (who is SOOOOO cute, seriously) and Harper Beckham
She was harping on for 15 mins how lovely they were and cooing...........
This is the same woman that tells me in the same breath "You dont NEED anymore babies!"

Arggggggghhhhh
No-one needs them love but we might WANT them!

I love the green flowers, then again I am slightly bias as it's my favourite colour!

Green and white is incredibly classic and as a wedding planner I did quite a few weddings including the one in my album in the marquee with the lanterns..... stick to your guns and I would tell your mum that while you appreciate her input, you and your h2b have final say!

I love your flowers. If I was you I would keep to green and white and if that's been your fab colour for awhile then keep it.
I would just tell your mum that you don't like pink and that it is staying the way you and your H2B wants it. Just remember its your day so you want it perfect.

Our colour is burnt orange so we have got a lot of green in our flowers.

I think the green and white looks great but I know where your mum's coming from, I'd probably add the pink to that as I think it's beautiful. The issue though isnt the colour is it, it's your mum not respecting your wishes. Opinions are fine as long as they're not pushed on you... my mum doesnt take no for an answer, even when I've politely said no a couple of times it gets to the point I have to be quite abrupt. It's become a running joke in our family so I generally throw in the old example of when she's being pushy - she once got quite upset I wouldnt finish a glass of milk she didnt want - that example works a treat lol There's only so many times you can be polite before you put it straight x

Thanks Ladies,
I will be taking some advice from your posts and trying to respectively tell her thank you for your opinion but this is how we (and most of the lovely ladies on ukbride!) like it!

Thanks Madhen x

OMG my mum is the same... she doesn't seem bothered thats one of the reasons i joined this site to chat to people that actually wanna talk about wedding because my mum and family keep saying is this all we're gonna hear for the next 14 months.

And my mum has friends in a band and she's trying to push them onto us also saying she'll pay for it... and although i don't wanna sound ungrateful because its the only thing about my wedding she's paid an interest in... they are bout our cup of tea at all.

So i can relate to your situation xx

not sure if this is something yuor florst offers but mine are quite plain flowers and the florist are putting coloured pins in the middle of the flower to bring the colour through - this mightr be a bit of a compromise you get exactly what you want and your can say to your mum i took youre idea on board and came up with this what do you think

good luck xx