I think i actually have the worst MIL2B ever! We've never really seen eye to eye as i'm 5 yearsolder than my H2B and i've taken him away fro her - he is 25 not 15 for gods sake! As most are aware we want to get married on our own somewhere,my parents although not 100% happy respect that its our decision and are happy enough with a party when we're back. Well we found the best place ever for our after party. It's special to my h2b as he worked there for quite a while. Everyone is happy with this except ypu know who - its too far, can't stay away, oooooooooooooo sorry to rant xxx
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Well, tell her if she's getting married, she can through a party where she wants.
Most guests are fine with a bit of travelling. We travelled down from YOrk to Weymouth to go to a wedding this weekend, and had a lovely time xx
My Beating Heart Belongs To You
30 August 2013
The First Day Of My Happily Ever After
CommentAuthorCrawf
I am getting the same issues and I havent even booked! The church is 21 miles away from her house, how will she get there? How will she pay for a taxi? Can it be close to her house? Tell you what love - put your hand in your pocked at you will have a say. :P
Sorry - my rant is over. I feel for you hun, you just have to remember that it is YOUR day and she can like it or lump it. I know how hard it is though, wanting to not fall out with people :( xx
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
end of day its ur wedding n there is always sum1 who int happy im gettin it off every1 lately.as long as u n h2b r happy stuff every1 else thats how im lookin at it now x
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CommentAuthorTeganandRob
You'll never please everyone. Just tell her she is well within her rights to refuse your kind invitation and stay at home!
She rang me last night to ask if id changed venues - erm NO! I spoke to my h2b who said "oh well makes it cheaper if they don't come" typical farmer counting the pennies lol Its not even that far really especially as most of my side are driving 2 + hours. I think its because they don't like driving in the dark so i said id arrange a mini bus for the family - oh i don't like mini buses! So now im just going to book it and its her choice. I do feel sorry for my h2b though x
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
OOoh she sounds like a real pain in the botty! My MIL2B was the same when i said we were going to wales (We live in Liverpool) she couldn't understand why we were going so far out. I said that i wanted it to feel special by going away to get married as i work in the city center and have been to nearly every nice venue for a staff conference over the years so they wouldn't feel 'special'.
She then decided that we should get married abroad as someone from her work's daughter is - wtf? Wales is to far but Valencia isn't??? I told her that my brothers and sister couldn't travel that far as they have young children and it would cost a fortune and my Dad simply doesn't have the money for it. She said well we'll just have a small one??? What? You want me to get married without my father? Bearing in mind that she visited my own mothers death bed three years earlier!
This is all after she told me there would be 'NO WAY' she would come to try dresses in with me!!
Guess what i've done...??
Ignored her! If she wants to be a cow, they she can s0d off in my opinion. My OH gets upset about it but has agreed with me. He knows how important it is to me to have my immediate family there. He also said if we were to go abroad then it would be just him and i! lol!
It's hard but you have just got tot stand your ground. This is your wedding, not hers. I think they get it into their head what they want if they could do it again and then go overboard trying to get their opinions over.
I don't mind listening to my MIL2b's opinion if she gave a s**t the rest of the time lol! xx
CommentAuthorgeorgie
This is it mith my mil2b - all of a sudden she wants to get involved. We had a baby 10 weeks ago so her first comment was do you know how to look after him - um yes i have a 5 year old 2! and that was followed by - at least youl lose your weight by next year! My parents arent 100% happy about us going off but they realise its about us. The venue isnt even that far its because i didnt take her to look at it and i should have done - why!?! Its 12 months away so she can stew on it for a bit. She should be grateful as originally we were looking at getting married abroad and no after party!x
CommentAuthorClareS
oh my god what a pain! I'd leave her to it. Wouldn't even arrange a minibus for her. If she is going to be so inconsiderate when other guests have a longer journey that her then she needs a slap. Thankfully my mil2b hasn't had any moments like that as yet. Come to think of it she's been pretty fab so far x
CommentAuthorgeorgie
I think its because i stole her baby - hes the youngest of 4. I know she was a pain when the oldest got married too. H2b nan who is 93 has no problem with the drive so why has she.
CommentAuthorSelinaK
Tell her where to go, we had people travel from London, Lincolnshire and South Korea to be with us on our day, none of them complained, they were all more than happy to do so. Some were family, some friends, but they understood its important to make an effort for the people you care about, and they know we would do the same for them in a heartbeat. As for not taking her to look around first, monkey nuts!! We didn't take family or friends with us for any of our viewings or appointments, and no one was offended. Just take a deep breath, smile sweetly, and tell her its how you've both always imagined your day will be, and its everything you could ever want. Then walk away, you automatically win the argument by being the better person! I hope she sees sense soon xx
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
I think my SIL said it perfectly, she told me not to do what she did which was everything her mother wanted. Her mother also chose her dress which she hated. (she's very big busted and it had zero support!)
This is our special day and we shouldn't let others opinions hurt although we can take them on board graciously, doesn't mean we have to go down that route ;) xxx
CommentAuthorgeorgie
Ive left the ball in her court now - i'll just plan as though shes there and if not well more food for me xx
