I've tried really hard to make this sooo easy for everyone else and have been on a very strict diet for months and had no luck at all. Every time I lose weight something bad happens and the stress makes me gain it despite me not even giving in to temptation to eat to cheer myself up. When I'm low I don't eat so it doesn't make sense. And my bridesmaids are in no way the sort that are helping at all in the run up to the wedding. It is in just over 3 weeks and after much trouble getting them together decided they can do nothing until it gets to the day then they can just be my bridesmaids. The best men are being super helpful to my fiancee and have met up with him every 2 weeks since christmas to sort out what is planned what needs doing etc. It frustrates me even asking one of them to sort out the hen night then having her pull out of doing everything turned out to reflect badly on myself. I just wanted to change the restaurant because I am struggling with certain foods and the alternative seemed to keep everyone happy...except the chief bridesmaid. She said she won't be there till after the meal I was so hurt as she was meant to be such a huge part of it. Suddenly she says she AND her daughter (the flower girl) won't be involved with the wedding anymore. I've never felt so anxious and worried about anything in my life. I know there is still going to be a wedding and my family are helping loads but I just need things to go my way it's my wedding and I should be excited about it not scared of what else can go wrong
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
aw hun i dont really know what to say apart from big hugs!! but on the part of the chief bm id say if she is being soo silly over something that should be all about you anyway then do you really want the stress of her there on your dbig day? especially if she not helping anyway that he job!! xx sorry that probs not very helpful xx
hope you get it all sorted though hun xx
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
Sorry hun, I didnt quite understand the bit about the chief bridesmaid? How come she's suddenly decided that she's not going to be involved? Sounds a bit mean and uncalled for! xx
CommentAuthornatsahotty
It was. She didn't like where I chose for us to eat. I am getting major indigestion (probably due to stress) with food I'm not used to so thought I'd just go for something a bit easier on my stomach than what she suggested...the only thing she had time to look into... And it's cheaper. She made out I dictated everything and chose the worse dress up theme. However she wanted to dress up as bunny girls so can't talk. And she had promised to just take over completely but said herself she was suddenly too busy and I think she just lost interest in the whole thing. She was putting me down a lot I'm just so upset I can't believe she's done this to me so soon before the wedding.
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
This is going to sound incredibly harsh so apologies in advance, but it sounds to me like you're better off without her! You don't need someone with such a negative attitude anywhere near you on your wedding day! It's supposed to be a happy day all about you and your new husband, and not the kind of event where you want someone like that who you'll be worrying will make a scene etc. If I were you, difficult as it sounds, I'd just try to forget about her (or you'll get even more stressed) and focus on the bridesmaids you are definitely having and all the other positive things about getting married :o) She's probably just jealous or something anyway, you might find that she'll come and apologise next week when she realises what an idiot she's been xxx
Natsahotty, i suggest this......Meet up with her and say you have stuff you want to say, and ask her to say what she wants to say. No shouting/screaming/crying just a subjective meeting really.
Afterwards you need to ask her point blank if she still wants to be your chief B. If she does then ask her to help you by lightening the load from you. I know my CB would do just that! If she kicks off, be the bigger person and just walk away. No-one can say you didnt try.
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CommentAuthornatsahotty
thank you everyone. I've been through more since but it's put it all in perspective. She really has not made an effort even now to apologise or contact me and it just seems the most unfair thing ever. Least my other bridesmaids will be there (fingers crossed I don't have any more problems) xx
CommentAuthorClairebear67
Agreeing with what Sara and MrsWalker2be have said. you definately dont need someone like that on your wedding day. For goodness sake it sounds to me, not only is she jealous she just doesnt like it that you decided to not go with her choices for where to eat, im sorry to say this, but why should you, if my CM was to tell me that she wasnt happy about where i was having the reception I would tell her im sorry but its mine and my H2bs choice, if you dont like it, lump it. I know its harsh but she is being very selfish. : )
CommentAuthorclaireandpete
Oh thats awful, i sort of know how you are feeling i know my wedding is still a long way off, but my MOH has been distancing herself from us a little over the last couple weeks, and last Sunday completely out of the blue told us she is moving out in May.
