Is anyone else facing the 2nd time around dilema? h2b wants to have a wedding somewhere "different" as he has the big do first time ...while i had a village hall no evening reception do ..... Also i now have 4 childeren that i very much wnat to invlove .......i thought 2nd time would be so much easier .....the headache proves otherwise
this is my 2nd time round but future hubbys first time, so he would like the church and i feel bad that i might not be able to give him that due to my previous which is a shame because he's being a dream about the whole thing and really trying to help organise everything etc... i guess with yours and mine (and most things when it comes to marriages) we will have to find a middle ground .. country house with civil service is what im looking at but it does seem very pricey.. have you had much luck since you left this message ???
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CommentAuthorSuzi
Same here ladies, 2nd time for me 1st time for H2B I think a Hotel is a great compromise! And then have the marriage blessed. Or how about going abroad?
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CommentAuthorMRST
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
my 2nd his first (and last for both of us) too. I was all set for a registry office as wasnt sure about church wedding again but apparently it depends on the church so worth looking into ladies. Were now having a hotel wedding as we both fell in love with it and the grounds its set on. Plus everything is all in one place so managed to get discounts because of this (for example our car was half price as only wanted one way and photos after). So again if you decide to do this remeber to haggle, you don't ask you dont know.
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i think its something you both need to meet in the middle on,,he doesnt want a big wedding but you still want your special day,,this is my first wedding but glenns second,he did the whole top hat and tails thing first time around so we agreed to do thing differently,we compromised and meet in the middle
CommentAuthorluci
def feel like i need major differences.. i dont want anything to follow the same as the last one .... OBVIOUSLY ..lol ... but that makes it hard work too .
def last for us to HAILS.. lol ..i said id never do it again last time but this is a def def no no more .. its a bit scarey though dont you think ?? i was soo sure the first time and it still went wrong .. although it does feel different this time still makes me worry x
CommentAuthorHedge
3rd time round for me and on previous occasions had church followed by country house hotel.... meet him in the middle is all you can do, my h2b had registry office last time and feels he would like church this time to keep his mum happy as she missed out with both his previous and his sisters weddings. I'd be happy to elope to Gretna but want nothing more than to see him happy on our special day! 6 kids to consider too 5 girls all clamouring to be bridesmaids will make for an expensive day but hey this ones for keeps and we want to keep everyone happy so have opted for a beautiful country hotel for a civil ceremony where all our friends and loved ones can share our special day followed by a church blessing to us its the best of both worlds and a happy compromise..... goodluck in your decision, I'm sure you'll make the right one x
CommentAuthorluci
awww sounds gorgeous HEDGE wishing you all the best for your day xx
CommentAuthorcatch
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first time around l got married in church, grey suit and no reception just a house celebration, this time l have went all out full monty, and l have three children and gaining 2 step children most are older the youngest is 10, getting married in the venue xx
CommentAuthorshellay
its my second time round, but my h2b's first so he wants church, i would love church as had registrars office last time, but trying to get it sorted out with being divorced x
I have know my soulmate for 27 years and on the 6th August
I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
I love married life !!!!
I've been married before, and the H2B hasn't... finding a church over here to marry us has been difficult - the Methodist church is very supportive and helpful. They will ask you to take classes if you are RC (like my H2B), although if you are CofE, they don't. We decided we were getting married over in Ireland (the majority of the guests are over there) and we thought there would be no chance at all of finding a vicar who would marry us. I was talking to a venue I was interested in, and she told us the local vicar there was willing to marry divorcees... My advice would be if you want a church wedding, there are options out there, but be willing to take some kind of classes if either you or your H2B are RC.
CommentAuthorshellay
we were going to wait for the church to say that we could get married, but we just wanted to get a date set, so have gone for civil ceremony with a blessing later, we are so pleased now that we have booked it and can actually look forward to having an actual date and the registrar being booked and the venue being booked, its a great feeling :)
I have know my soulmate for 27 years and on the 6th August
I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
I love married life !!!!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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i now have things solved .......almost
we are going to get married in America ...45 miles outside of Vegas ,H2b has said about it alot since engagement ....and then we are having a renewal of vows here with all the family ....so a wedding of 2 halves really but covers both of us
It deepends on how far your prepared to travel to get wed , Iv gone a castle wedding in scottland , differnt but still special and we only have a small budget . Good luck xxx
CommentAuthorJilly17
will be second fir h2b and he has already done the hotel/stately home thing (and it was a fab place! grrr! ha) and my first so we are totally confused ha ha
