Wedding Forum - OH first holy communion...

My OH and I are hoping to be married in my nanas church.
I say 'hoping to ' as My nana rang today and has now said the priest will not marry us unless OH does his first holy communion.
I haven't spoken to OH today about it as I don't think he will take it well. My nana asked him a couple months ago and he was pretty against it.
A church wedding means a lot to me and to my family but OH, although having been christened as catholic, isn't really into church and to be honest has so far has been 'going along with it' for me.
I need to ask him to have his holy communion, and hope he doesn't just refuse point blank (which I am99.9%) sure he will do or give up my church wedding. I know it's easy to say. 'If he loved you/wanted the marriage he would make the sacrifice' but I don't want him to hypocritically make a promise in church and do it only to please me, to me you make your first holy communion as a rite of passage into the congregation at church, not as a one off to please your wife.


Gutted!!!

Yes I am a catholic, have been baptised, holy communion and confirmation..
I have spoken to the priest and my nana has spoken to him and he says we have to both have had our first holy communion. Why he couldn't tell us this before I will never know!!

I was talking to a guy this morning who is Methodist, but married in his wife's Catholic church. The only requirement was that he agreed that the children would be raised in the Catholic church. He was slightly taken aback when the priest pulled out a book a couple of weeks before the wedding and asked them which Catholic school they wanted to sign up their future kids for. They weren't really thinking that far ahead.

Speak to the priest, no point going round in circles till you know and speak to him yourself :) so-and-so said such-and-such.... Word of mouth gets confused. You may be able to persuade him otherwise if you say others don't require it. I know my cousin just had to promise to bring the sprogs up in the Catholic faith with no christening, communion or anything. She's completely unreligious and wasn't a problem!

We were looking at the Catholic Church and fiancé even wanted to get baptised so we could start married life and carry on our family as all Catholic, but when we spoke to the priest he was really disinterested in the baptism and especially the wedding, he was more concerned about little one going to the Catholic school :( It's just not do-able for me, they never used to do a breakfast club, but they've started one now, but it only opens at 8 O'Clock which wouldn't give me time to get to my job which starts at 8.15, my sons school at the moment is fab and does an earlier breakfast club which gets me to work on time (and the school is also closer to home and work and has better results and a better ofsted). My fiancé was really upset about it and thinks we should look at Church of England now, I'm in two minds as I am Catholic, but Church of England is still Church and we believe in the same God... :/

I'm sure you'll be fine hun.

Talk to your priest and speak to your fiancé as well, just explain how important it is to you that you get married in the Church, hopefully he'll take it for you. Although I'll be honest I think its wrong him being made to as surely he's doing it for all the wrong reasons if he does :/

My h2b isn't Catholic but you can apply for a dispensation to the diocese. Explain your situation and maybe convince h2b that it doesn't have to be extreme, maybe RICA!?