Unlikely, I earn around the same as him.

there is a government calculator that tells you what you will get paid. we are saving to cover my loan for the last two months of paying it which is typically the first two months on maternity. Other than that I will just manage to pay my share of the bills and have petrol in my car to get out with baby and the dog.

my SIL spends a fortune on baby classes for her son like baby sensory I think she said was £65 for a 12 week course and she's done baby massage and baby yoga and all sorts. she's never in although now her money isn't as much as she was on before (she's a teacher with a great maternity package) she is starting to struggle to afford to do what she wants

:-( try not to let it get you down hun, onwards and upwards to another cycle that's all

I didn't spend as much at first but depends how prepared u are before because there's the outlay of baby bedroom furniture,pram,clothing, nappies etc xx

Don't worry about that! More than likely friends/family will help. And there is no law that you have to buy the most expensive stuff! My husband and I, altogether are on 17k between us. If we can manage, I'm pretty sure anyone can. We have got a cot bed for £50. It's all about looking for bargains.

N xx

we get 34.5K basic wage plus commission and we have just about managed. i'm putting together a wish list atm. I hit the boxing day sales and got a pram with car seat for £90 and a steriliser kit for £65 down from £140 so its all about bargain hunting. I bought my boob pump from ebay brand new in box and I've been hitting the facebook groups for nearly new stuff so I got a bottle warmers for £5 saving myself £12 brand new in the box.

got my cot for £60 from ikea and just got some other bits to get like my changing table and drawers from there which come to £100. wallpaper is £8.99 per roll for the nursery and the lining paper and paint for the rest of it which is about £15. it can be done on a budget you just have to shop around.

my parents are great as its first grandchild so they've been spoiling it like rotten but she's waiting now to find out what it is before she goes mental. same with jon's parents they are sending us for an early private scan to find out so they can go mad bless em.

Get your BM's to organise a baby shower as well and just put together a small list with stuff sort of under £30 and send it to everyone. You will get some of the stuff off it but not everything and loads of other stuff you don't want but its all stuff you will use.

Tbh most of the mums at my daughters school are well into their fourties x

Thanks Lea.

I wish it would hurry up.

Is there anything I should not be doing whilst I'm trying to get pregnant? I don't drink or smoke anyway.

I started taking it last month but don't really know why.

Thanks, it's just hard not to think about it x

A girl at my work was trying for two years and I said start taking frolic acid as it helps and she said she'd literally been taking it for 3weeks before and she fell pregnant two months later,she fell on holiday,think the destressing worked too,being away from home and not being at work etc ... x

Nooo don't give up,a year trying is classed as normal anyway x

sick to the back teeth of getting every germ going!!!!!! got a cold now and can't take anything for it apart from paracetamol, great but I can't keep them down they make me vom! I've got some halls soothers and some and honey and lemon to make hot drinks but even that is making me want to throw up now. The cough has started today so I've had to get some glycerine lemon and honey cough syrup (which I've read is fine) to have just to help. tastes lovely but doesn't really do much.

Fedup.com!

Hugs Lea, hope you feel better soon.

I am not convinced that it'll happen for us.

Thanks hun, just not feeling very positive at the moment.

Kinda feel like so many things have changed since getting married, don't get me wrong, hubby is great and being married is great, it's just a few friends seem to be less interested in spending time with me since I got married. Plus my sister is going travelling on Monday for a year or more with her hubby, so feel rather down at the moment.

I doubt it. She and my BIL have been wanting to do this for ages, she quit her job to go and he's taken a sabbatical. They were planning a year but maybe longer if they find somewhere they like that they felt that they wanted to stay longer. They're also renting out their flat for a year.

Hugs Nina!
Do you have a job offer in writing? They need to be careful if you were all set to go with a provisional offer then just because you're pregnant they start messing around. You could have a claim for s3x discrimination!

Oh hun, I do hope you have the offer in writing. Try to distract yourself xx

Okay, do you have that as an email?

Hopefully everything falls into place soon for you xx

IDL - i know its easier said than done, and i guess i cant really talk as not going through it personally, so tell me to shut up cause i dont know what im going on about if you want too......but positive mental attitude!!!
You are going through alot at the moment by sounds of it, with friends and family...its a lot of stresses plus the whole TTC... you're putting way too much stress and pressure on yourself. TTC alone can cause so much stress anxiety and pressure let alone life around it.
You need to take a step back, focus on other things... focus on your sister and her husband until they go... have some time out with your hubby, some relaxation. take your mind off the world and just breathe.

BabyDreamland will appear when you least expect it, and when your mind is focused on other things. You've said so yourself you're feeling rather down, and I know it really is easier said than done, but getting yourself upbeat and positive will impact everything and everyone around you, and in turn yourself... in time it will happen. Everyone has their time and their place and your's will come soon enough im sure.


As for you MrsD.... Ignore your MIL... you know i've said it to you before, I won't repeat it, you've heard it all... just know im there for you when you need... as for the job... just keep contacting him as he has asked you too and take it from there. In this day and age formalities and HR just take over...it does feel crummy sitting around waiting, but for the time being you also have MiniD to focus on, and less than 48 hours till you see he/she again so chin up!!

All good things come to those who wait ladies...trust me im an expert... and one day my TTC journey will begin...but for now im your support whenever wherever you need. Really hope you dont mind me commenting in here despite no baby bump..does flabby bump count!?! :p

xx

Thanks Lulu, you're right, like we all say, easier said than done, I'm trying to concentrate on other things like planning things to look forward to, other than hopefully having a baby, I just need friends to give me some time.

Nina, fingers crossed that you get an official start date soon. Maybe just drop the recruiting manager and HR an email to record what has been agreed so far and that you're really keen to start with them ASAP because you're looking forward to working with them xxx

awwww a little sausage :-)

Congratulations how exciting :-)

Is it normal to be bricking it before a scan??