Wedding Forum - Official 2018 thread...

I am leaving hair completely to the hairdresser. I have an Afro so it's going to be my biggest worry I think.

I have long thick hair. I plan on having my hair up, will leave it in the hands of my hairdresser. She's been doing my hair for years so knows how temperamental it can be.

I only have three bridesmaids so not too many for me but my hair and make up artist is doing hair and make up for all of us plus my mom for 300 (not including trials), I asked my bridesmaids what they wanted and they all would prefer their hair down so might find them a nice hair slide to wear.

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We only went and finalised the guest list for the day on Saturday! he actually chipped in and gave opinions and helped!

We weirdly had this exact discussion. We went for the rule that if we do not know the plus ones well or it isn't a solid relationship then we aren't inviting them, yes it will probably ruffle a few feathers but I have sat any single friends with solid friend groups of ours and they can either suck it up or not come. This is a rule for everyone so family and friends get the same treatment!

I am pretty sure our friends should understand and I am quickly coming to realise it is our day not theirs or their plus ones!

Go with your gut and don't feel bad for keeping it as you want it!

And I have gone on the pretence that not everyone will say yes to coming so if closer to the date I have a couple of seats left and by then friends are in relationships we can consider adding their plus one on the basis we know them :)

hope this makes sense
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Most definitely Stacey,

We have just been told because may is considered summer we are allowed up to 150 guests in the evening rather then 120 which gives us a bit of playing space, but I still have to add this to our hog roast costs so it puts the cost up overall. I don't think we will need more then 120 somehow !!

Our venue also only allows 10 children on site but I am finding quite a lot of our friends have asked for the kids not to be invited anyway as they would like to enjoy a child free night so this is working out quite nicely!

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Yeah I think RSVPS will be a massive pain in the bum with my lot! they are so unorganised :(

unlucky for them is that I am not lol, I will be hot on their tails

We have my mobile. My Email and a wedding website with dedicated RSVP sections for the day and evening. if people can not be bothered to use one of 3 options I question them being bothered to come at all lol!

Was that a quote for the 4 tiered cake on your profile Stacey? I'd say that was a great price! We had a quote for 3 tier cake, and it was £350, which we didn't think was bad at all, as she'll have a lot of intricate work to do. But when we asked her how much for 4 tiers, the price nearly doubled!

I got a few cake quotes and they were around the £300 mark so probably sounds right. I have been very lucky and my MOH's mom has offered to make it much cheaper. I don't even like cake but you still get caught up in it all looking really pretty.

We had a 2 tier cake for our engagement party so I said we will have to go bigger for our wedding cake but my OH just doesn't get why lol x

I've had quotes for the cake style we want between £300 and £375, but there's a fair bit of work that will need to go into it as it needs to look like part of it is made of lego, which I imagine would take a while! That's to feed 80 people, 2 square tiers. I'll put a photo of the sort of thing in my profile.

I have to admit that my friend is making our cake for free as a wedding present so this is saving us on costs massively, I think we will go about 4 tier, I keep changing my mind on styles from something super smooth simple and traditional to a more intricate style but I still haven't made my mind up.
I am putting some of the saved money back into a personalised clay topper keepsake, I have found the lady who will be making it on E**y and she is lovely and really open to wacky ideas. If anyone wants her name or details just message me, but its going to cost about £80 for a fully personalised topper with tonnes of detail. Seems a lot but I love a keepsake!

I'm actually leaning a bit towards a cupcake tower with a small cake on top that we can cut. I don't like cake and we had quite a lot leftover from our engagement cake so hoping people will eat the cupcakes.

Me and my fiancé both support different football teams so I like the cake toppers where they have the scarfs on but we will have one each. Hoping it will be a nice keepsake after too :)

Oh wow lots of catching up to do!

Our cake is £340 with free delivery. We have a three tiered cake with lace detailing. I loved the idea of cup cakes but h2b really wanted araditional wedding cake, I relented on this one decision. He's so easy going, let's me get on with my ideas.

Finished four bunting wreaths now. Won't get to cut any more material until the weekend though. Fingers crossed I can get on with it over the the weekend.

Hey me again going back to the save the date cards Christmas card idea. My son brought home a Christmas gift thing which he drew a picture for. I then got him to write "save the date. 28th JULY 2018' on the bottom. I have now ordered 40 cards so it will be his design, will post picture when I get them back. Excited.

That sounds cool Duostar!

what have you guys got In terms of a Post box etc? My partner and I do medieval re enactments in the summer months so where I can I am trying to tie in our hobbies etc with little touches. My post box is a hand made medieval elm box with traditional iron hinges etc, I will post a pic on my albums when I can find it!
I am still a bit confused on table names and a chart display - originally we had gone with castle names and then just a list of table names and people. But I would love something a bit more creative.. I Am now playing with the idea of using the Map from a game called Skyrim which my OH loves, there are 9 different strongholds and we have 9 tables, but not sure if people will get it or its a bit random lol

love to hear what you ladies have gone for x

well done Stacey!

I cant decide if it is too early to get ours, I am hoping to get them from W3d2B but it means if they change shape etc I will then need to pay for alterations...

the shop are also changing their dress lines atm which is a bit awkward as I don't know what they are getting in as new

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bridesmaids are more stressful to dress then me haha

That is lucky! My MOH is bending over backwards and will do whatever I as, I reckon I could get her in a bin bag! I sort of wish she was more opinionated haha!

My other BM are my 2 sisters who are the same age but very different shapes, I am quite relaxed and happy to go for a mix and match bm dresses as long as the colours match, so we shall see what happens.

I have now uploaded a load of pics to my albums if you ladies are as nosey as I am and fancy a look, any ideas or opinions are much welcome!

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awh thanks Stacey, it was a really odd feeling! this was at the NEC fair and I hadn't even gone to look at dresses but we spotted the lacy bottom of this sticking out of the rack and I had to try it, I felt sick taking it off which I didn't think I would get after trying on about 15 other dresses at shops already!!
I go to give my first measurements and get the dress ordered in August so hoping to shift a little bit of blubber by then :) x

Hey Wiz,
I think your table list idea sounds cool. As long as people can tell what table they are on I say just go with it and do whatever feels right!
I haven't got an idea set for mine yet, but I have pinned some ideas for what to do. I think I'm just going to have a crate or box for our cards. Get something I can use afterward. Hate the idea of ending up with loads of stuff I can't use again after the wedding!

I haven't even touched a wedding dress yet, I am hoping to start looking at the 12-month mark as I'm currently still recovering from my op and need to get back into Slimming World and hopefully lose a bit before I start trying stuff on. But I'm pretty sure I know what style I want it's just a case of finding the right one. Whether it be sleeveless, lacy etc

Same I was thinking May next year too but when I was in the shop and tried it on that was it. It was such a nice moment to have with family and friends.

dont about being ahead Duo, everyone goes at their own rate, I know if I left everything until next year I would be a bit overwhelmed and probably wouldn't be able to enjoy it as much. Don't let the guest list stress you out or become one of those taboo topics for you and H2B!
If you cant get STD out in x-mas cards the world wont end, I would just send the essential cards and save as much on postage for xmas as you can and send STD next year if it is a big issue.
you have plenty of time, don't panic!
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Okay Wiz you make a good point lol. If they don't go out at Christmas it's not the end of the world. I will try and keep myself occupied with other things in the meantime.

Wow Shell, sounds like someone's been busy!

Wedding day pj's are a thing?! That hadn't even crossed my mind!

I'm making the dressing gowns so I might pass on the pjs will have to remember the tops with buttons rule would be rather awkward to pull a normal top off. Just spent a quiet five minutes trying to work out how much card and paper I will need for all the stationary.

We have named our tables after our favourite book series as we are both avid readers, I origianlly wanted a paperfold book with the names in the middle but realised this will cost too much so I'm doing pieces of card with the name and number on then a picture of fan art underneath. It should look OK in the end I think??