Wedding Forum - Official 2017 thread!!...

aahaha it is time for us all to be chased for our cash! aha

Lesley you haven't got much longer to wait! It will fly by x

I've had to pay 75% balance of wedding venue, etc and honeymoon in full - all this month!! My poor bank account has been depleted :-( need to start saving again as the next hit will be in September and then we're on the final countdown, oh dear!!

Nicole I'm glad you got your dress (sort of) sorted in the end, it is quite bad of the seamstress as she is bound to know you would be worrying...but I'm pleased it's all worked out!

Unfortunately you're right - people only want our money lol! But apparently it's all worth it in the end ;-)

Evening all,

Really sorry I've not been on.

I had my hen party, it was brilliant. I head that my aunt wanted to get me l plates etc which I didn't want. I didn't know but my mom stepped in and took over that part for me. She gave me her veil to wear. It felt lovely to wear her veil that she wore on her wedding day 30 years ago (almost to he day!). It was just a garden party at home but was really good fun.

lol we haven't had a 3 month meeting.., should I arrange one?

Lovely wundatigga, I didn't want to know OHs but he wanted me to check it was ok. It's everything he wants though so would have been ok but he doesn't trust himself

All I know is that they got opposites, so I am going to guess that Oh has got a blue suit with grey waistcoat and the boy has a grey suit with blue waistcoat.

He also informed me that he bought both him and the boy new shoes to go with them and that they are not black!! He has always insisted he doesn't like and would never buy brown shoes... so I will be blown away if he's gone and bought some!

Making some small evening invites for extra people my dad wants to invite and realised there are a lot of 7s in it
7th October, 2017 at 7 o’clock

No it was only late last night when i was making those i noticed it!!

I have asked to meet with them when we hve our tasting

Emily - judging by the timers I think it's wundatigga! Just looked at mine and it's in weeks now

glad you had a good hen Emily!


I didn't realise the tickers went down to weeks before the 1 month mark, that's quite exciting! x

We've had someone who could not originally attend due to work commitments, now say they can come (which we're pleased about) so I contacted our venue to check this would be okay. Thankfully they were all good so we've managed to get them added to our food order. The best bit was when our co-ordinator sent me the updated invoice - she'd noticed an error (which I had also missed). They had mistakenly included their gold drinks package to our invoice, which she has now rectified, meaning we owe less than we thought!!

I don't know how I missed it on the invoice but I am glad I had to make the addition as it's saved us £300!!! I might have to buy our guest a drink for that!!

Also picked up OH's wedding ring yesterday. So we have everything we actually need, anything else is a bonus!

Wundatigga that is a bonus and with everything sorted you must feel relieved :)

Nicole I totally agree with your comment about the invites, makes it sound better than people dropped out! In regards to your aunt, I think that is a tough one but if she is close I would let her, if she is there because she has to be invited I might say that we can't add to the numbers at this point - even when it is your wedding they will only have been together 2 months! Would you want that person in your pictures?

I am finally getting my reception booked today, fingers crossed it goes to plan and the dates will be available in the next week for the UK reception next week so it is all starting to come together and I can finally get some invites made/ordered :)

Nicole - I've just been looking at last minute ideas for favours for the kids... I came across these and thought of you haha!!

Donnan me and Camila will come we're local :-D lol xx

Donnas, I am inviting 60 people to a room that can fit 160, and I am praying that only 45 will accept lol Talk to your venue and see how empty the room would like with 15 less people. In the end, it is completely up to you. And it is ok to upgrade people's invitation to full day :)

I am having a nightmare finding chair covers! I think I've left it for too late. I am looking for a hooded one, probably with lace and organza. But none of the places I've seen it and like it are available on the date or returning my messages with quotes. I am starting to freak out because I don't like the traditional sashes :( Any ideas? Indications? Help!

They can, but they're ugly and pricey lol If there's no other alternative, we're gonna have to go for the venue's covers. Soooo ugly lol

So, we have a venue meeting and taster booked for wed 2nd

Going to try my sisters dress sun 6/8

Getting excited now

That's lovely that they are planning a surprise

Haha sure they wouldn't do that if you have a lovely day out planned

Sounds good Donna :) Glad you had a grand time.

I've just realised I hadn't finished my best girls gifts, so I have been finding things for that this morning - just need to get some chocolates now.

I subtly suggested to OH he should get something for his best man as I knew he would not have thought to do it. We're not doing gifts for anyone else - might seem harsh but to be honest I've hardly had any help from anyone in organising it and I am not doing it just because it's expected!

So once these things have arrived we should be ready!!

Yeah I'm getting nervous now - but more from hoping things go to plan and that people don't get bored

Oh Emily - I just want to run over and give you a big squish x

How much help has your OH been in the organising of things, because frankly if he wanted it a certain way - then he should have done it basically. It's not right that you're not looking forward to the day due to it not being the day you wanted. And its' really bad of your parents to make you feel that you are wrong or feel guilty over things that you want - and although it might feel too late now (especially with some of the things like invites and stuff) you still have time to at lease get something you want - like not having your Aunt around that morning. If she HAS to stay at your parents then at least insist that you don;t want to share your room with her! If its what you want you need to be firm about it.

This sort of happened to me the first time i got married. I was 19, naive and very much a "Yes man" as I only ever wanted to make everyone happy . My (ex)MIL basically bullied me into lots of things I didn't want by making me feel guilty about it, and due to time and money constraints I had to compromise on a lot of other things too. Yes it was a lovely day but it really was not how I'd imagined getting married and it ate at me for years about how I let everyone tell me what to do.

That's why this time I've done things how I (and OH) want it.

At the end of the day though it is just ONE day- and a wedding does not make a marriage. Definitely speak to your OH about it and tell him how you feel - and that you would like his support in getting things right/ or at least getting through the big day.

Big hugs xx

Thank you ladies.

I showed OH my post last night and just sobbed my heart out to him. He knows that I have been worried about the wedding but it wasn't until my sister said that that i realised it was because I didn't want my wedding. OH just said that on the day I will enjoy it and that he feels what I wanted would be an anticlimax and not big enough. (My response was not big enough for who!!). I have always been the same, trying to make everyone happy and he said that I need to start doing things for me again - going to my knitting groups etc. Its too late to change anything for the wedding now :(

Wundatigga, in fairness he has been a big help. He has helped with every decision. I have got a few suppliers then he has chosen between them. When his mom said she wouldn't make the cake but would pay for it he discussed it with her how much it was etc. He has been at EVERY appointment other than my outfit and my sisters and the flower which he wasn't too fussed about. All the decorations and stationary, he has had sign off on then I have just put it together.

I haven't been bullied into any decision but they haven't been my decisions. It really is OHs wedding of his dreams but it should be the brides surely. Sorry to sound like a bridezilla with that but I would change the reception venue, the centrepieces, the whole having a big wedding breakfast and disco, the favours, the cars (which i do love but feel an unnecessary £600), one of the church readings. I could list on one hand the things that I am having exactly how I want. Dress, hymns, ice cream cart (which i had to fight for), flowers. I think that's it.

My mom is on holiday at the moment but i will be speaking to her and saying that this is the one thing I want for the morning of my wedding. It wouldn't feel right to wake up next to my aunt. If it was my mom or sister then it wouldn't be so bad but i just don't want it to be my aunt.

I do like our plans but to have it how i would love it OH would have hated it. Which is why we have had it his way. I don't like being centre of attention and with a big wedding breakfast and a first dance.. it petrifies me! I know on the day I will go along with it and enjoy it, I have just come to the realisation that it is not my wedding day.

I am so desperate to be married. If i could swap our wedding day to be married right now then I would in a heart beat.

She's got another week before getting back. I am texting her now and having to hold it back and not scream it at her.

Thank you both for letting me just moan this out.. it helps to know I'm not alone in wanting things a certain way