Ok so H2B's parents are having nothing to do with the wedding, except turning up on the day. They have moaned about everything from where we are getting married to the fact we are not providing transport for them. Basically there are a**e holes.
So me and H2B was chatting about his speech and what he will say and I said he must remember to thank my parents as they are putting alot of money towards the wedding. So he said, well if Im thanking your parents I have to thank mine. So what exactly is he thanking them for? For making my life a misery? I said if he thanks his parents in the speech our married life will be over before its started, lol. Am I being unreasonable?
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthorRoxii
Well, maybe "thank you for having great offspring so I had someone lovely to marry?" But If it's as bad as you say, then they don't really deserve thanks x
CommentAuthorlemondrops
CommentAuthortrustmeimawoman
no your not they dont need any thanks as they not even supporting you on what YOU and H2B want i wouldn t thank them
CommentAuthorDaffy
I think you need to ask him what he is thankinng them for - i know how you feel lol but dont forget they are his mum and dad and have made him the man he's grown up to be :). x
No don't thank them. Why should you. Tell him NO. lmao. Or do a speech yourself to thank EVERYONE who contributed and leave them out. x
CommentAuthorvintage lass
Personally I would let him thank them hun! Smile, be pretty and nod through gritted teeth!!! Yes they may have caused alot of heartache but at the end of the day they have raised him to be the man he is plus wedding speeches are nerve racking enough without putting the added pressure on H2B not to mention them. You may not love them hun but he probably does! I do understand how annoyed your probably feeling right now but at the end of the day...be the bigger person and dont give them anymore ammunition to use aginst u xxxx
CommentAuthorPuddleduck87
............Actually. Vintage Lass has changed my mind. A very wise thing to say actually. Yeah I agree with her now I think about it a bit more. x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
well said vintage .....that way it can never be held againest you both ...he can thank them for giving him good taste ( he choose you !!)
you could make sure he thanks your parents for doing so much to make the day such a success and of course he could then say thank you to his parents for meeting and having him as if they had not he would never have met you. dont forget traditionally it would be the brides parents who paid for the wedding anyway.
CommentAuthorCeCe
I would let H2B to say whatever he chooses in the speech and I would say a special thanks to my parents in my speech if they had helped and I wanted to make them feel appreciated.
I do not believe you should thank folk whom have done *nothing* when others have done *something* ... not necessarily either just contributing cash either..help comes in all shapes and forms! I believe it detracts from those whom have put in effort/given kindness etc.
CommentAuthorMrs Steph Lapworth
I think u should thank them cos at the end of the day if it wasnt for them your h2b wouldnt be here today and u wouldnt be marrying him so u need to thank them for bringing the man u love into this world. However hard it may be they do deserve to be thanked x
Love Steph xxx
28th May 2011
Is Now Mrs Lapworth xxx
CommentAuthorfoolsapprentice
I understand where you are comming from, but it may make your h2b's life easier if he does thank them. you can get your point across by thanking your parents for all their support, help and love and then thank his for turning up. I'm sure it must be embarrassing or disheartening for your chap,that his parents haven't helped as much as yours have. I personally would let him say it. As others said at least you'll still look gracious, and they can't start your marriage off by complaining.
Cx
CommentAuthorSuzi
LMAO Puddle... Me and you are SOOOO on the same wavelength today... my initial reaction was "stuff them" lol then I read Vintage lass's post and changed my mind....!!!
Although I will be making damn sure that my MIL is NOT thanked, all she did was bring him into this world then she let him go whilst she had a life of drugs, lesbian sex and god know's what else!!! She put him up for fostering as she couldn't be "bothered" to look after him and at 14 he found his dad and stayed with him ever since...!!
Not much to thank her for really cos she didn't make him the man he is today, he did that all by himself...!!!
*rant over*
Do not disturb... Already disturbed enough!
CommentAuthorsbride
OH I DONT KNOW!!!! I really dont want them thanked for anything. They are such horrible people and have really made my life a misery since we announced we were getting married. I think I need to sit down and have a long think. At the mo the anger is still very raw. Maybe I will feel different nearer the time.
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthorskitty666
thats a tough one! my dad isnt welcome so that fine i and get on really well with h2b parents so i dont no what i would do to be onest! try leaving it for a bit and se if they change their mind and help a little. xx
