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    • celi
      CommentAuthorceli
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    I'm thinking about just having friends (bridesmaids/best man etc) on the top table and having parents on separate tables with their friends. Does anyone think this is a good/bad idea or thinking about doing something similar? x
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    • Nuttytart
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    Its you wedding have whatever you want. Try disscussing it with them, see what they think and explain why!




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    • Mrs Alsbetty
      CommentAuthorMrs Alsbetty
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    yeah whatever you want really, yeah as nuttytart says just have a chat with them we haven't got tables.

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    • kem
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    im not having parents on top table as mine and h2b are all seperated and with new people.
    We are having a parent table which is going to be the 1st table from the top table that way no aruments and keeps them all happy and get them talking. :D x
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    • Mrs Alsbetty
      CommentAuthorMrs Alsbetty
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    mine and his are seperated too all remarried apart from my mum

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    • mrsjones
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    Its your wedding hun, there is no right or wrong way to do things, just go with whatever everyone feels comfortable with, i agree with nuttytart, chat with them and see what they think. x
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    • celi
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    Thanks Girlies. h2b parents are separated and both remarried so i could see problems so i'll think i'll just talk to them and hopefully it should be fine! x
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    • LisaB
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    my friend was in a similar position, so they went for the following plan for the top table:

    Groom Step-Dad, Groom Mum, Best Man, Mother of Bride, Groom, Bride, Father of Bride, MOH, Groom Dad, Groom Step-Mum.

    It worked out well and everyone was happy! I guess it depends if any of the parents are contirbuting to the Wedding? Sadly I don't have parents to sit at the top table, so have been thinking about having friends, but now I am going for my Aunt, Uncle and Godmother!

    It's your day, people should respect that!
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    • CeCe
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    I think it is a great idea if your parents are relaxed chilled type of folk whom would not see it as a 'dig' at their importance!

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    • Kizzy81
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    The other option is to not have an obvious top table, i.e. if all your tables are round you can have a round top table too. We're not having the traditional long table even though the standard people will be on it... You really can do whatever you want these days!
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    • mitch2509
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    i went to a wedding and on there top table, there was. the bridesmaid best man bride and groom and brides parents, the grooms parents sat on the table with there family




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    • Suzi
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    We are having my parents and H2B's dad but not his mum!

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    • CupCake
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    I'm only having me & hubby on the top table so we can have a nice first meal together as a married couple ... I'm letting people sit more or less where they want really as there is only 50 for the meal ... I think you should have what you want hun, if you don't want them at the top table, don't :D do what feels right and makes you happy xx

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    • mrsmada
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    i think its a nice idea. i dont no wot i doin yet cos carl want our 2 kids on top table cos they just babies and its not fair 2 expect sum1 else 2 look after them but i also hav 2 older kids 11 and 9 and i said if babies sit wif us then the big uns wil hav 2 as well. so that wil make me and carl, both sets of parents, MOH, best man and 4 kids. thats 12 ppl on 1 table and we only having around 20 ppl includin me and carl for the wedding breakfast so i dont really no yet xx
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    • CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
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    I've been having a little dilemma with the top table arrangements too, My H2B mum wont be at the wedding he doesnt want her there (She's an alcoholic), He doesn't know his dad so in turn he wont have either of his parents at the wedding :0( (i feel really sorry for H2B actually as only 1 member of his family IS coming all the rest is my family and our friends) My mum will be at the wedding and so will my dad (dad walked out on mum and is now re-married and his new wife is a B**ch) So im not really sure what to do either x
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    • Nicci
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    Were only having us and our imediate wedding party on our top table. My h2bs parents are divorced and sadly my mam and dad passed when i was younger, none of my family will be there either so it just seemed right :) x
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    • Juicy Lucy
      CommentAuthorJuicy Lucy
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    After reading this thread I think I'm going to just have me and my man on the top table. It may well be a really good chance to be with each other as wedding days do tend to pull the couple apart quite alot (meeting and greeting etc) So there! And if the family don't like it they can lump it! Thanks for the inspiration ladies!

    Lucy x
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    • Nicci
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    I dont blame you Lucy! :) x
 

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