I wrote a week or two ago on here that I wasnt sure if many of h2bs family would be coming with us to cyprus for our wedding...
Well on the post I said about h2bs sister and her partner who he'd spoken to asking if they would be coming-she replied that because shes helping in a school she can only get holidays during term time (she's doing some sort of apprenticeship and goes to college 1 day a week and is in the school for 4) she said that Sam her partner would be in UNI by then so they wouldnt have money to come either-I wasnt happy with the answer as it all seemed to be excuses but thought Oh well if they cant afford to come fair enough
Today while on facebook I notice she's written to family in Australia saying her and Sam are going to come over in SEPTEMEBER this year!!!! Im not impressed at all! I thought she couldnt come because she wouldnt be able to take the time off out of school holidays for our WEDDING but can take time off to go to Australia for 2/3weeks???? Not to mention the cost of the flights!!
Im fuming to be honest, if she didnt want to come she could of just said instead of making up lame excuses!
GRRRRRRR rant over!
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CommentAuthorbrilly
thats terrible hun u would of thought she would want to be there on ur special day for her brother at least, if thats the way shes going to play it hun i would just let them get on with it and maybe just drop it into the convo 1 day saying u'd love to go to australia sometime then ask her how much its costing and how its great she can get time off school i wouldnt be sarcastic or nasty about it but be great to watch her face drop when she realises her excuses are filled with holes that she made herself hope u get it all sorted out hun xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
I would be absolutely raging mad!!! I would have to say something to them! To be able to spend that sort of money is ridiculous especially when saying they couldn't afford to go to your wedding!! I'm with you on if they had just told the truth it wouldn't be so bad, or even if hey had Australia booked or ages and can't afford to do both. Are you going to have it put with them? X
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CommentAuthorSweetchilli
Doesn't she care about how her brother will feel when he finds out she's off to Australia but can't attend his wedding? I would have to ask her what her problem is? Nasty mare.
CommentAuthorB2B2017
I know Im glad im not the only one who thinks its out of order! When we first told everyone we were enagaged she was excited and said to h2b ask if she can be a bridesmaid!!! Of course I said she could but then when h2b asked if she was coming to our wedding in cyrpus she said that-lucky I hadnt got any dresses or anything!
Id find it hard to hold my tongue to be fair if I told her exactly what I thought we would end up not speaking!
we've got the same problem. h2b's sister can't afford to come to our wedding, but she went and booked a holiday to vegas for before our wedding... AFTER she knew where and when we were going!!!!
RAGING!!!!
i don't mind if people can't afford to come or just don't want to, but don't make up some crap excuse!!!!
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CommentAuthorB2B2017
my point exactly!! Im not impressed at all to be honest!
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CommentAuthorkirstyless
I would be feeling the same! I am slightly but on a smaller level. If people cant be bothered with making the effort for a day for someone elses wedding it just proves how selfish they are!
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
That's awful! Round trip flights to Oz, even if you get a good deal, are £1k each! Plus Australia is expensive (their wages are much higher than ours so everything costs more) - cor if my brother did that to me I'd be raging! Has your h2b seen? :( Xx
CommentAuthorJanie
ooooh I would be MAD as heck for sure! That's so incosiderate of youre feelings, i wouldnt possibly be able to hold my tongue if that were me!
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CommentAuthorEMC
I'd be sad, if I wanted her there. It would make me feel like I didn't mean that much to her, and when you go out on a limb and book a wedding abroad, you kind of count on your nearest and dearest making the effort. I think I'd be hurt, but I'd have to ask her why. If I truly believed we were close, or she and her brother were, I'd assume that there'd be a good reason for the lie.
CommentAuthorLeanneW15
well atleast you know where you stand... she doesn't seem to hold your happiness in high regards, try not to loose your rag with her tho... its not worth the stress it'd cause you, she should have been honest with you if she'd already made plans to go away at that time of year... I wouldn't waste your time thinking about it, altho I would be tempted to let her know you are aware that she's going on holiday at the same time xx
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Hmm. I can understand why you're upset, but are you sure you know all the facts here? Maybe the Australia thing had been on the cards for a while, and perhaps she's already cleared in with the school and college? Also, she might not be lying about the money thing; your wedding is next summer, whereas this trip is scheduled for Sept, so perhaps they can afford that, but won't be able to afford to come to your wedding next year? Also, when you say family do you mean distant relatives she isn't close to, or more immediate family? If the latter, I can see why she'd prioritise seeing them over attending your wedding (sorry). I don't know if this is the case, I'm just trying to be devil's advocate.
CommentAuthorHa_x3
I would go absoloutly mental hun!!
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CommentAuthorTattieSoup
Are you sure she is on placement this September? With a lot of those college courses the placement bit is only for a year or half a year, so if she is doing it in September 2013 there's a good chance she is not doing it in September 2012.
I agree that the money thing is nonsense but some people really don't seem to understand the concept of saving. They spend money as it comes in so she may genuinely believe that she can afford a trip now when her husband is working and not next year when he is at uni. The idea of thinking ahead and putting money earned now away for a trip in the future is completely foreign to some people.
We got married in February and I have a friend who said she was coming and then pulled out at the last minute because she had spent all her money on Christmas and couldn't afford it anymore. The idea of budgeting or planning a couple of months in advance apparently didn't occur to her. My home town, where we got married, is also her home town and she went back in July and October so she could have saved that money for a trip in February instead, she just didn't seem to think that was an option. She seemed honestly devastated that she couldn't make my wedding, said she would understand if I didn't want to be friends anymore - but hadn't thought of putting the money she made over the summer to one side!
I think my point is that some people are just not that bright, it doesn't mean they don't love you.
