Basically, me and h2b created an event for our wedding on fb. Not giving away any details or anything but just so that we could group all the people on our profiles that we wanted to invite and message them all asking them to send us postal addresses for us to send save the dates and invites to. It proved really successful and we got a whole load of addresses which is what we set out to do. Although we had no intention of using the fb for official rsvps obviously, quite a lot have said on there that they are coming, some have put maybe which is understandable as we didnt put date time or location on the even page..... but there is one person, who is a friend of h2bs who has said no.
Am i being picky or is it a bit much to put an out right no when you dont know the date or time etc so you cant possibly know that you wouldnt be able to attend. I know he is friends with h2bs ex so maybe he disapproves of me? I honestly cant think of any other reason why he would put an outright no without knowing the details. He was even the one who sprayed h2bs motor bike that he will be riding to the wedding.
CommentAuthorKat
I think this is definitely one for your h2b to handle. Maybe its men having banter or maybe there is a reason you are unaware of or even he just clicked the wrong button and hasn't noticed yet. As it is your h2b's friend I think you should let him talk to him. However if you have the same relationship as I do with one of my h2b's friends I would tell him to f off and stop trying to wind me up.
CommentAuthorIgnition
I think the H2B should ask the person, what is going on, why he put an outright no. If he gives a valid reason, then fair enough, if not, then he ain't much of a friend. xx
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CommentAuthorMrsMcleish2B
Have you sent your offical invites out as yet? Maybe wait until then if you havent and if he declines again get your h2b to have a word with him in person xxxx
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CommentAuthorFaeth
Personally I wouldn't rely on Facebook. I setup a save the date event for my wedding on facebook, and my bridesmaid replied as a "Maybe" as a joke, so I've pretty much ignored what people put on there, and relied on the RSVP's I've had by post, or email, or the wedding website I setup.
if im honest i have to say that without all the information like date time location its hard to expect anyone to commit to it
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
That was my point! That it wasnt an invite as such just a method to message and gather up addresses, i am not counting on it to get rsvps or anything and i didnt want to post details of the wedding on facebook. I was expecting people to put maybe as i hadnt included the details but thats why i was confused by this one person putting an outright no. I wasnt expecting anyone to commit, i was after addresses and it proved very successful for this.
I am not to worried as its not a huge big concern to me, but just thought it was a bit off to say no when you dont even know date or time so cant possibly know if you have got something else planned, i would have expected maybes and then to inbox me their address so that i could post official STDs and invites for people to RSVP to.
CommentAuthor~ஜ~Tiggs Daltry~ஜ~
maybe add a note to the group saying that this isnt the official date and real invites are being sent out with date and time once all addresses are collected
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I think we will just send him an invite when the time comes and see what happens then.
CommentAuthorsam73
I think you shouldn't worry as your not accepting these as official replies get the invites out and see what happens
CommentAuthorSazzell23
Could he be mucking about thinking he's funny?? You know what lads are like! He could have been thinking oh haha i'll say no but they'll know i'm kidding type of thing. That's the sort of thing lads do not realising how it would pee us girls off ;)
CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
yeah it is strange esp without him knowing the date and could be a reason for him saying no but think h2b would have to sort it hun and see what happens once official invites have gone out xx
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CommentAuthorjo Santa
Send a paper invite anyway as my h2b always puts "no" to every event to prevent getting the pop ups. And if I were you, I'd suggest to h2b that he says to his friend "u not coming to my wedding then mate?" - friendly conversation just to sound him out. At least then you won't be wondering xx
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CommentAuthorada
I would do what has allready been suggested and send him an invite and see what happenes then, may be he was just trying to be funny and it did not work. If his reply to the invite is no then I think its up to h2b to ask the question why xx
CommentAuthorjo Santa
I think so. You have enough to worry about with wedding preparations - you don't want to be bothering over upsetting things like that
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CommentAuthorMrsV2b
I think it was meant as a joke cause you didnt put a date or time, he probably assumed you would no it was a joke, or at least your h2b would now. It is also possible he hit the wrong button or read it wrong. Or a joke to say no he couldnt give you his address, as in you already no it so saying no would be seen as funny.
I wouldnt worry about it until h2b speaks to him and see whether it was a joke or not.
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I think i am just being paraniod as he is one of the very few still friends with h2b ex and, well thats a whole other thread, she is really not a very nice person.
