so a few days ago my h2b was saying that although hes happy to be getting married he still feels lonely.
hes 30 years old and its suddenly dawned on him that he really has no friends. His supposed best friend Athol hasnt bothered to be in contact. we left messages through xbox and through his mum but he still hasnt got back to him and hes worried hes not going to have a best man. yesterday at the christening he was IGNORED by a lot of my family members and that has got my goat up very much but im not good at confrontation so i dont know about saying something. he doesnt like family things but made the effort yesterday and no one bothered. i dont know what to do or say to him and its making me doubt now whether we should go ahead and get married. i so want to marry him, we are good for each other.
also his lot are annoying us too. weve asked 2 uncles so far to do a reading and both said no they dont want to do it.
only people excited about our wedding is me, his mum and my mum and its starting to get to me. i really dont know what to do.
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10.11.12
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
ELOPE!!!
If no one can be botered dont invite them, just go somwhere here or abroad, just the two of you and both the mums and get married on your own then have a nice meal or something after!
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CommentAuthorloustew2012
seriously think about it hails but the 2 familes are paying for this wedding. i am really really annoyed at everyone and how they treat him.
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10.11.12
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Say something! If ur h2b is feeling like this and there is something you can do about it then u should hun :) x
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CommentAuthorSazzell23
save up some money yourselves and elope to gretna green or abroad??? Or is it too late for that hun? could your h2b join a footie team, darts, snooker or some other kind of club, or do a college course and meet new friends that way?xx
Dont be too upset by the uncles not wanting to do a reading as im sure it is not personal. I asked my 2 friends and they both said no and i was upset but they both hated the idea of public speaking infront of everyone and wouldnt feel comfartable so i understand why they wouldnt want to do it.
I would talk to your family and maybe get them together with his family for dinner or something to re-light the wedding spark again and make him realise he is loved?! xx
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CommentAuthorJonathanM14
This is something within your control regarding your family. You need to kick them into touch.
CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
I agree with Jonathan. With your family, you need to back your h2b up and fight his corner (of you know what I mean). If it was his family, then I would understand not wanting to, but these are people you know are are related to. I would honestly go mental if my family ignored my h2b. It's just plain rude.
There are some of h2b's family who are complete morons and I can't stand being in the same room as them but I can't really say anything because it's really his job to control his rabid family. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all.
I would screw the lot of them, invite only the people who give a crap and ti hell with everyone else!!!!!!
Jeezo people annoy me!!!!!!!!!!!
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CommentAuthorloustew2012
Im going to suggest taking the parentals along for the taste testing with us and kick it off from there. Ive had a rant at fil bout half an hr ago about sil behavour yesterday and tbh i think a lot may stem from that too. The reading mil will do it she annoyed at her brothers behaviour over the wedding but all my side is coming to his stag which is a good start. I want to do more but he is 30 i cant spoonfeed him forever. X
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Theres no way without you.
10.11.12
CommentAuthorKat
Set him up on a man date with some of your male friends and tell your family that if they can't be civil to your future husband then don't bother coming to the wedding or to expect Christmas cards. You have decided to spend your life with this man so they have to like it or lump it and neither option has a be rude and ignore him clause.
CommentAuthorXbox widow
To be honest no one will really show interest in your wedding until a couple of weeks before, thats what I am finding. My h2b's bestman has let him down so were not having one. None of his family will be at our wedding due to arift that happened before I met him. But if your family come to your wedding and ignore him at his own wedding then there a load of hard faced so and so's. I would just be honest and say to them if thats their plan then dont bother coming cos they wont be missed x
CommentAuthorloustew2012
The bit i dont get is that they spoke to him before and now he being ignored. I have vowed after the wedding thats it it will be me and him cos i dont see the point in bothering if they wont. This is how i discovered what ma family and in a way his is really like. Stuff themall.
All the ways of my life id rather be with you.
Theres no way without you.
10.11.12
CommentAuthorKellyN29
where do you live?? my h2b got no mates either lol i think he gets down about it but he knows that the most important thing is how we feel about each other and our parents are being supported now too, have you told his mother? my mil2b knows just how to talk to my h2b
