will she be having the same guests as you?

I'm pretty sure no one will notice. And it's unlikely your weddings will be compared as they are different and yours is a higher priority since I assume it isn't your 3rd ;)

thats rather rude then, if i knew someone was certain colours and i started planning mine i would never ever steal someone elses idea and steal their thunder aswell with their date being sooner.

I'd be very miffed!
My bestie, whom I still love dearly haha, booked her wedding for 8days before mine and proceeded to almost steal half my wedding theme. I am grey and orange and she wanted grey and yellow!
Luckily within days she had changed to navy and yellow so it will look a lot different! But I was livid for the 3 days hahaha

Xxxx

I'm not jealous!!!
Did u even read my post???

I love her to bits and I'm made up she's found happiness but yeah I do feel p!ssed off because its something that I would not do to someone I care about...

As I've already said I can't claim a colour and believe me I know exactly that many weddings are 'the same' but I am having special touches that no one knows about and I am not sharing with anyone around me... Y should I? I completely understand everyone is entitled to the day that they want but to if that was me I'd be having a very quiet affair

it does not seem to be irrational to me, if she had picked it without knowing its the colour your haing would be one thing, but its like she's copying you but because yours is after it will look like you copied her

I thought she said she had kept her wedding details to herself so how can she have copied? Maybe she just liked the colour too and decided she wasn't going to be put off just cos somebody else was having that colour at their wedding!!?!?!

So it's her friend and not her friends mother she should be miffed with? Mother of friend probably thought it was OK because they're completely different? It is just a colour and colours tend to go in and out of fashion... so maybe the colour you've chosen was in fashion then too or she found a good deal on something and decided to base it on that? Or maybe she didn't want to be reminded of colours of her previous weddings? Or maybe, just maybe she thought you had good taste and wasn't doing it to copy per se, but was inspired... I'm sure whatever reason, it wasn;t malicious or meant to offend.

I re-read my posts... and yours... Just wanted to let you know, I can see you're frustrated, but maybe just to me, as an outsider I see a different point of view. Looking at your phot albums, your stuff is stunning and you will have nothing to worry about... plus every wedding is different for the people there, not the colour, which is a superficial part of your day in reality. People will be looking at you and on the day, I swear, the last thing you will stress about is the colour! You will be too busy thinking about the exciting bits of the day like the ceremony and worrying about slipping up on your vows... I'm sorry if I made you feel more anxious or anything like that. It wasn't intended. I was trying in a very roundabout way to reassure you that the colour you and her chose don't matter in the grand scheme of things and that none of it will have been done with bad intent and could, just be coincedental or because you have great taste, or that it's very popular. x

Can imagine genuine copying is horrible, but if you keep most things to yourself, they can't copy. Copying is the highest form of flattery though!

I can see where you're coming from and yeah i'd be miffed, but I wouldnt get too bugged down about it. The colour you've picked is actually a really popular colour now, I had it too. Its classy and elegant and doesnt look dated on the photos like some colours can. Everyone can put their own spin on the wedding so what she has in December will be different to what you have a few months later. I wouldnt worry too much xx

I understand why you feel a little miffed, you want your day to be special and unique to you. I really don't think you need to worry though. Unless its a really unique colour scheme that you've chosen, then its the last thing that many people will remember. The venue will be more memorable, as will the general style of your wedding, and your personal touches. Two weddings with the same colour scheme can look so different. I've been to so many weddings with red, and not once during the weddings was I thinking, so and so also had red, I was just enjoying the day. If I had to choose one aspect of my wedding for someone else to 'copy' then I think it'd be the colours, as they're just colours rather than anything that's personal to us.