Wedding Forum - No will power :-(...

Hi ladies, im starting to worry that im not going to be the size I want for the wedding. Im am currently a size 16-18, would be happy to be a size 14 but ideally like to be a 12. I have no will power I like sweet things too much. I work mon-fri 2pm-6pm and have a 16 month old little boy so I like coming home from work chilling out on sofa with a coffee and a bit of chocolate (and everything else unhealthy). I would love to join slimming w but all the classes in my area are the wrong times for me as I dont get in from work till 7:30pm. The gym wouldnt work either, I dont drive and to walk to the gym would take about 30 mins dont fancy doing it in the dark and cant do mornings as h2b works most mornings aswell as either all day sat or sun so will have no one to watch callum. Any advice or ladies in a similar situation?

Honey I completely understand. I had such good intentions and lost bits here and there but inevitably put it back on. I think some of the problem was that I had the attitude 'I have no will power' and just gave in to everything.
Actually, with 2 weeks to go, I'm finally looking at every bit of food and visualising how I want to look in my wedding dress and it makes me want it less. Start doing some gentle exercise, even at home in front of the telly is good enough.
Why not join an online slimming club? All the benefits without the commitments!
And a few tips... if you feel hungy, drink a pint of water first, wait 20mins and see if you're still hungry. Eat slowly and stop when you're full. Put smaller portions on your plate and don't let yourself have seconds.
If you get into a habit of eating less and eating healthier, you'll feel hungry for the first few days but work through it and it gets much easier.
Keep a positive attitude and keep reminding yourself you CAN do it! Best of luck! xx

Getting started and geeting into a routine is the hardest thing. I work shift work and am up at 4:30 most days and often not home until 9pm but have forced myself to just spend 15 mins a day doing weights on my arms or sit ups or lunges. Keeping a diary helps- if you write in each day how many calories you've eaten and what exercise you've done, you'll find that knowing you have to write it down and be honest with yourself makes you less likely to cheat. xx

i completley sympathise with everyone! we all want to look great on the day but the hardest part is having the will power! i started slimming world 3 weeks ago and i have already fallen off the wagon twice! its a really good diet but its just having the time to cook and prepare everything when youve had a long day at work etc. i tried making things and freezing them but still its a hassle i find! i used to be a size 14 then got down to a 10 and now im the biggest ive ever been (size 16-18). i am determined to loose weight for the wedding but i do think the will power will come eventually! try not to stress too much and try and make little adjustments to your diet rather than go completley on a diet and deprive yourself. im sure you will find the will power eventually as i hope we all do. xx

beclou77 when i have days like that i just chop everything up and chuck it in the slow cooker and make a cassorle its always free and goes down a treat and once you have prepared it and put it on theres nothing to do but pop on some veg when its dinner time.

i first did slimming w 5 years ago when i was living in germany with my first husband was no classes so i joined online you still need the will power of course, but it does help you with meals and tips and stuff i found it really good. l lost over 3 stone in about 10 months. it did all go back on though as i stopped doing it and went back to my old weighs the thhing with slimming wolrd is its really not about dieting its about teaching yourself to eat more healthly and its ment to be done for live you can still have the choclate or slice of cake if thats what you want you just give your self extra syns that day and cut back a few for the rest of the week x

I joined slimming world about 8 weeks ago and Have fallen off a few times. I now have a 'motivation door' in My kitchen. I Have stuck before and after pics on of people who have lost lots of weight and little motivational quotes like 'nothing tastes as good as losing weight feels' and 'don't treat yourself with food, your not a dog!' 'I will NOT be a fat bride! Etc. This does help me stay motivated. If you could get the slimming world books and just do it from home it may help, I do find that going every Monday and getting weighed helps but maybe you could set a time once a week to weigh yourself at home and maybe 'weigh in' on the book of faces or something, I find that when I know people know how I Have done it motivates me more as I Am embarrassed if I don't lose or put on.
I also agree that writing down everything that passes your lips really does help, you Just have to be honest with yourself! I lost 5 and 1/2 lbs in My first week by doing this :)

Hope this helps and remember when you think about giving up just remind yourself of why you started :)

you can join slimming w online and download apps to your phone, the fitness pals really good too dont forget you have 11 months so slow progress is always good progress good luck xx

You can do it Kirsty! When I lose weight I never 'Diet'. That word just makes me hungry!

Why not try walking/jogging? Thats how I started with exercise and I can honestly say I still don't love it but I can see and feel the benefits. Its cheap, easy, and once you've got your trainers (and sports bra) on you start - no journey to the gym! After a few goes you don't even think about people looking at you, and if you psych yourself up for it, in the week beforehand you'll see all manner of people running the streets!

I also try to make smaller portions, even getting myself a special plate to eat off! And I know for sure the best way to lose an inch is to cut out bread and wheat - VERY DIFFICULT! But it can be done, especially if you have a planned treat on day or at the weekend, like a pizza or sausage butty!

Losing weight takes time, it won't happen overnight so don't be put off when you only lose a couple of pounds here n there.

I would also surround yourself with friends and people who will totally encourage you! I like to support my MIL2B - she is on SW and doing well though its slow and she can get disheartened. I text her every week to see how she is getting on and if she feels low I drag her out for a brisk walk or make her use the treadmill whilst I do sit ups! Get a network around you to help you!

Good luck ladies! xx

Have you thought about buying a slimming world magazine and putting your son in a pram and setting off for a walk!! I've been walking everyday and it's amazing what a difference it makes to weight loss, good luck xx

bridal dresses are normally smaller than the high street. I was lucky with mine as I still managed to get my normal size (just hope it fits) however my friend got married and she is an 8 but had to order a 12, for her BM dress for my wedding shes in a 12 again, and one BM who is size 14 has had to order an 18-20 so its just the way a lot of the dresses are. Dont let is put you down. The latter bm is threatening to cut out the label,... she said she wouldn't mind if she was a size 20 as she is happy and would stay happy at size 20, but its the fact that she is not that is getting her down. We have made her realize now that it is just awkward sizing and she feels better about it. She is not dieting as she is happy in her own skin she was just upset at the increase but dont worry about it.... it is just their dodgy sizing guidelines, not you x

If you want to diet as I have just had another look at your post, I found WW brilliant.

Thanks for the comments, made me feel alot better and motivated again. x

i've heard about body combat, one of my friends who goes to the gym suggested it. I would like to try it, could definately use the stress release if it does nothing else lol. Do you think you'll continue with it? x

if you have a computer at home why dont you you tube fitness and pop in body combat and body attack step and so on and just follow it from the video its the same but with no company and no monthy fees x

i do them in the gym and iv lost so much weigh its just getting into it and sticking to it thats the hard part xx

I think it is wrong they shouldn't make them small sizes you are supposed to enjoy wedding dress shopping but when you are given a dress in the size above what you are and you are more than a 10 it's just depressing!
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That's a really great idea about doing the body combat online and it stops you from feeling self conscious going into new classes :) Hopefully I can get my dress size down to an 18 before december fingers crossed x

Yes ill definietly be carrying on with body combat but also gonna try different classes.
I wouldnt be able to do it from watching it online as i wouldnt have the motivation to do it, where as in a class you will automatically do it.
With the life centre its quite good as you can book and pay online, if you dont scan your everyone active card or you dont go you get charged! lol
I pay as i go & not monthly!

Also people at the classes are there for a reason not to take the mick out of other people, i did feel self concious but you just get on with it :) you concentrate on the instructor and yourself no 1 else.