We had the vicar come round last night to discuss the service, he said that he doesn't allow photos in the church, when i'm walking down the aisle is fine but that is it, i'm quite upset as i really wanted some lovely pics of us saying vows, exchanging rings, the kiss. I asked why and he said 'i just won't tolerate it and if anyone takes a photo or anyones mobile phone goes off i shall stop the service and embarrass the person in question.' I can completely understand the mobile phone thing but Photos??? This is going to be one of the most special days in my life and i won't have any photos of the church part.
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CommentAuthorlollilou
Oh that's a shame. Our vicar won't allow photos till we are married and walking back down the aisle. Are you having your service videoed? xx
CommentAuthorWonderwoman mad!!!
thats a real bummer, wot difference does it make if someone takes photos, is it an older vicar? ive never bin to a wedding were they dont allow you to have photos through the service!! wot a misery!!! i would be gutted too.x
CommentAuthordee
Yes he is an older vicar, he is retired, just stepping in as our usual vicar is busy on the day of our wedding. We weren't having it videoed but i may reconsider now.
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CommentAuthorlollilou
I would video it if you can't take photo's. At least then you will have a record of your vows and everything. I think the idea is that if all your guests were snapping away it would detract from the service. Oh if you do decide to video it check you if you have to pay, we are being charged £25 by the church.
No wonder lots of people are choosing to get married in places other than a church, there not very welcoming and you would think they would be doin all they could to attract couples to use a church. its these old school vicars that need to lighten up and get with the times!
CommentAuthormcewan07
we are only allowed a phtot as i walk down the aisle , one one during the first hymn and thats it as its a solemn ceremony ......... rolls eyes. If we have video (which i dont think we are) its another 60 due to music laws or whatever.
Real pain
CommentAuthorSophie Sherwood to b
Hi Dee
Thats a shame that photos are not allowed during the vow reading and such
But it is possible to get stills from Videos esp if its a digital video camera as they are easier to manipulate via free programs off the internet I know its not the same and more of a hassle, but its an option
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CommentAuthorTinsel
Can't you ask your regular vicar to have a word? Or ask him to find another replacement? Sounds rather ludicrous to me! If he won't allow photos, will he actually allow a videographer?
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
My friends wedding was like that but at least he let us take a photo during the signing of the register. I suppose it would distract from the vows if there were flashes going off! However priests would normally allow for a photographer to be snap happy throughout! x
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CommentAuthorClareS
We're not having a church ceremony but I've been warned by our photographer about the registrars. He said some are lovely and will the the photographer take pictures throughout. Some will allow pictures of you walking in then nothing until signing of the register. We'll get to know who our registrar is when we do all the official stuff 12 months before the big day. Hopefully it's a nice one and if not we'll have a bit of time to work some charm on them lol My friends wedding a couple of weeks ago there were 2 photographers snapping away through most of the ceremony and I've got to say there was a bit of distraction by clicking and shutters going. They did however leave the room when the actual vows were being spoken.
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Our photographer had to remain in one position for the entire service (at the back).
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CommentAuthorJane
Thats shocking. Surely he must understand you want photos of the exchanging of rings etc?? I would approach him again and ask if you can just have one official photographer take pictures, and make sure there is a sign up for everyone else (or printed on the order of service) saying regretfully no church photos. I would also check the church policy, it might just be that particular vicar who is being ridiculous. It might not be church policy to refuse photos and he might need reminding of this. Or ask him if you could do a few 'staged shots' after the ceremony.
CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
aww hun im sorry i think thats so silly and some churches take the pee im afraid i cant see the problem with a few photos of the beautiful moments that will happen prob only once in a lifetime id be very upset if that was me hugs hun xx
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
Mock up afterwards - ask if you can spend a few mins afterwards at the alter
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CommentAuthorsar
Can u ask for a different vicar. Most weddings I have photographed you have not been allowed to use flash during the ceremony but none have banned photography all together during the ceremony!
CommentAuthorVicky
that really surprises me.. I would tell him how you feel and say its your special day and you want to capture it. after all you are paying the church!!!
CommentAuthorVix
Every wedding ive been to its only been pic as bride walks in then signing registar and walking out!! But mine doesnt make a noise and i take flash off and if im on the end i take pics anyway hehe xx
CommentAuthor*Layls*
Can you not get friends with mobiles to take sly ones? lol x
CommentAuthorAbbey
Could you ask if it is okay for just your wedding photographer to take photographs without a flash. It is possible to do and wont detract from the ceremony if the photographer does remain in one position. Then you can get the photographs you want. This is a good compromise so hopefully the miserable old vicar wont complain. Don't forget to tell him you have warned all your guests that they can't take photos! Good luck Dee x
CommentAuthorkimi1987
im kinda in the same boat as u luv. our vicar wont allow photogrpahs being taken during ceremony but will allow them for entrance and exit of the church and signing of the register. im thinking of having a videographer as he will allow this but i have to pay extra to the church.
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I think its crazy how they can charge you to have someone stand there. How they can sleep at night I don't know. I can understand not having the congregation taking pics but if the pro photographer is in a discreet place then they should be allowed to take them without using a flash.
Dee wasn't it your church that wouldn't let you have your hymns etc as well or was that someone else?
CommentAuthorChantelleR
i am having the same problem now!
starting to question this 'god' thing - his messengers seem to do naything for extra money!
CommentAuthorJODY
Maybe you could stage it after?xx
CommentAuthorRennie1989
I find that a bit off. I've been to church and registry weddings and the only time we were not allowed to take photos was when the couple were signing the register, but the couple would pose as if they were for photos afterwards. Is it possible to swing him over or to find another church?
CommentAuthorChantelleR
its the Church my parents got married in and where i was christened -
but i cant understand why? she said we can take photo walking in and signing and leaving.
but nothing at all of the ceremony- i have asked just for a kiss and exchange of rings to be photgraphed but they said if they see anyone taking photos they will stop the service- its just not very kind to be honest - wanted the church so bad but I just dont get why not -:(
CommentAuthorChantelleR
Staging it after isnt going to capture the actual moment though :s
mega upset and annoyed - its the 2 shots that would be cherished the most - especially the rings!
CommentAuthorChantelleR
i think i might go to the church and sweet talk the vicar - 9 months away i know but feel in a bit of a limbo!
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Sometimes it is to do with the building, quite often they are old and can't take all that photography.. Heartbreaking that you can't have the shots you want though :( xx
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CommentAuthorChantelleR
I only have 1 photographer- who has already said he will tend to hide away so he can get 'natural shots' lol.
we are paying almost £800 for the church so i might just risk it and tell our photographer to carry on. lol
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Yeah I would but just make sure he takes his flash off and is discreet lol mind you, I would be careful about it as if the vicar sees, he may refuse to continue the service!!
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
The first time I got married our vicar said this too (was way back in 1996) so my uncle (the photographer) and my god father (the videographer) did them both on the sly lol
One reason I'm thankful that we are having a civil service this time as theres no restrictions like this!
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O this is rediculous these blo@dy vicars wanna get a grip! There's so much sh!t going on in the world and there they are getting all high and mighty about blooming photos?!?!? I'm sure Gods not sat up there saying "please no press!"
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CommentAuthorFernP61
Many churches are the same until the end of the service ( signing of register ) x
CommentAuthorChantelleR
lol thats the best bit - to have it videod we need to apply for a copyright licence! x
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
The copyright to allow a video is the same in all churches I am afraid hun because of the readings and the hymns. I don't think it is fair what he is doing about the photos though xxx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
i kinda understand him not wanting your guests taking pics and i think everyone watching the service though a screen, be it on a camera or phone ruins the atmoshpere, but the photographer should be allowed to take pics
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CommentAuthorSJJ
Im afraid this is quite usual - every church wedding I have attended this has been the case, at one he even stopped the ceremony and shouted at the photographer as he was trying to sneak some photos in, was sooo cringeworthy, so if ur vicar says he will embarrass them make sure u tell people really strictly dont try to take photos cos u wouldnt want ur vows being interrupted! Some vicars have said if no flash they are ok with just the photographer taking them, which I can understand as its probably a bit distracting with the flashes going off in his eyes. I think as other brides have said, do some mock ups afterwards once you have finished , im sure he'd be fine with that?xx
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Maybe if you have a professional photographer; they will take the exchanging of the rings e.t.c and other guests can just take super sneaky other photos, I did at my cousin's, got some of her walking down the aisle then some of them signing the papers when we weren't supposed to. :P
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