Just lately I feel a bit deflated. I am so excited about planning my wedding and really want imput from the people I care about (MIL,Mum and Maids). I just feel I am the only one who is excited about this wedding. Mark said he is and he will get more involved when we reach the 365 days count down. Which is fair enough we do have a rather expensive sofa to pay off and he is stressed about that. I keep telling there is nothing to worry about it will be paid off by August.
Back to the subject. I tried to talk to my mum about things and she is adement this wedding wont happen; keeps saying IF it happens. I have no idea what she expects will happen. The other day I tried to mension some colours to my MIL and she just pulled her face and ignored me.
I might just be a little over sensitive but I dont understand why no one else is excited. The only wedding converstation I get is here everyone else is not interested....
Sorry moan over!!!
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthorKayteeG
Sorry you're feeling a bit down about it hun, but I'm sure as it draws closer people will get more involved and more excited! Keep your chin up xxx
CommentAuthorKayteeG
And as for MIL - sod her! Mine is the opposite - she seems to think it revolves around her!!! x
CommentAuthorKatie
I have had that the whole way through mine. My Mum refuses to buy her MOB outfit and up until this last week MIL2b wasnt interested at all. My H2B and I have done it all with no help from anyone. My parents paid for our honeymoon though so credit to them for that. I have found the whole thing very depressing that oneone wants to help or get excited about it at all. My sister is my 1 and only bridesmaid and she wont even try on her bridesmaid dress. I can therefore completely sympathise with you
xxx
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CommentAuthorJilly17
I feel exactly the same! H2b and I are excited and enthusiastic (he even more than me!) but absolutley no one else is! I am pleased we did not rush with asking friends to be MOH, BM etc as some people have been so disinterested that we are reconsidering our original plans. My mum offered to take me to some crappy shop today for some summer clothes but has not once asked about wedding dresses etc. My in laws have not even seen the engagement album as have no interest at all. People on here are far more interested in our wedding and at this rate I will fulfill h2b dream of beggaring off to Vegas!!! Well, if I could travel I would!!!
Try not to worry, although your wedding is very important to you it is still quite a long way off and people unfortunately wont feel excited until nearer the time. It WILL change. And if it doesnt then that is just a reflection on them, not you. And shame on them. No-one in our families were very interested at the start for us either, and we had 13 months to go, they were happy for us, but not excited about the wedding. Now, its crazy! They are all very excited - whereas I'm just exhausted by it all! x
CommentAuthorMrs b to be
I feel exactly the same! Me and h2b are sooooooo excited, Even though we have a few years noone has a good word to say yet! talk about driving us crazy! h2bs parents dont even think its going to happen because apparetly we cant afford it just because we have a daughter and h2b works part time. I wish we had the guts to go abroad and have a wedding but h2b is not overkeen on the idea as he wants his grandma and grandad there!x
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I have asked one of the maids (SIL2B) and my MIL to think of some autumn colours. They haven't even bothered. Mybe they just think its 17months away so there is plenty of time. I could really do with finalising my colour scheme so I can crack on with making the invitations. I have 40 to make and I am guessing that will take some time.
I am this close to hiring a wedding planner to help....
ry travelling seems like a great idea. My step dad cant fly tho so thats out of the qustion. We are getting married 150 miles from where I live so I am just waiting for the moaning to start....
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
same here hun.... i dont know why i bother trying to talk to them about it x
CommentAuthorKatie
I hope our families get more excited :-(
xx
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CommentAuthorMrs b to be
Family love a moan when it comes to wedding! Thay become a pain in the backside. We have decided not to talk about it and get on with what we want and blow anyone else, Im glad my bridesmaid will wear anything within reason she has only asked to wear a long dress :) Maybe ask some of the girls on here about autum colours thay might be able to help you and come up with some ideas as long as you and h2b likes it thats all that matters your the ones who will be looking at the photos later on :) 40 invites shouldnt take that long you could do a few a day thats what were doing, its quite nice havent got to rush them then :) x
CommentAuthorKatie
We made our invitations we had about 80 and it didnt take long at all even though they were fiddly :-) We only made them last month so you have plenty of time for that. xxx
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
I think it's easy to get caught up in the excitement and forget that others won't be as excited as you; after all, it isn't their wedding. I think also people can get a bit fed-up of hearing about wedding-related things, esp when it's a long way away. I've been realy conscious of this, esp as ours isn't until 2014, and I'm not expecting people to get involved or get excited TBH, because at the end of the day, it isn't their day and I think there's a limit to how excited you can get about someone else's.. If my friends do get involved, that will be a bonus, but I'm not expecting anything.
If it's really bothering you, and you really do want other people's opinions, could you maybe get everyone together, do some dinner/lunch, open a couple of bottles of wine, and get out some scrap-books/magazines and ask their advice?.. That might be a way of getting them involved in a fun way. Otherwise, you could maybe talk to them and mention how stressful it is and how you would really value their opinion
CommentAuthorMrs b to be
Thats a great idea barbie86 :)
CommentAuthorreilykit
I feel the same....im so angry with it.....when my little sis was getting married its all they talked about, now its my turn its hard to get a conversation out of anyone! Ive got 114 days to go and loads of stuff hasnt been sorted!
CommentAuthorJilly17
Getting everyone together sounds a nice idea Barbie! Unfortunately would not work for us. I just wish my mum was abit more enthusiastic but she is not well and old so I have to let her off. It is a shame she sees everything as a hassle these days!
CommentAuthorJill
Dont worry about it hun, it's the same for most of us... for a while I had trouble getting h2b involved in anything wedding, now he talks about it much more. I stopped talking to other people about it though and find the less I talk about it the more they do hahaha I'm the same piglet... just going for what we want, sod everyone else! x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorMrs b to be
I wish my h2b was abit more enthusiastic :) Your very lucky! Hopefully it might change later on.x
CommentAuthorJilly17
My h2b is actually a forum member on here so shows you how enthusiastic he is! ha ha
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I was thinking of doing the invitation at weekends only because I work in the week and have to study for this exam. Plus having the kids running about I doubt I will be able to do much when I do get started.
I was thinking of having a wedding themed get a away to the Hotel we are geting married in so we can go shopping up there and look around at suppliers and attend a wedding fair. I was thinking of doing this in October, when there will be 365 days left lol. What do you think????
I dont expect hubby 2 be to get too involoved yet. The fact I got him looking in a suit shop the other day was amazing. He enjoyed it too...
I decided on 3 colours of ivory brown and orange but MIL pulled her face and ignored me. Dont think she like the idea of brown BM dresses....
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthorJill
I was originally going with they colours too hun, but so far it's at gold ivory and brown (may still throw some orange in for flowers). Dont let anyone else get to you, enjoy it whether they do or not! x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorJilly17
I think the wedding themed get away sounds lovely and so romantic! Ivory, brown and orange sounds fab for a autumn wedding and at the end of the day mil2b does not have to like the idea of brown dresses as it is your choice!
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I just thought orange flowers and brown dressed looked petty.... Could have white flowers tho... they dont have to match mine do the????
I just love orange flowers they look so pretty...
Me and my H2B are going in october reguardless, it will be up to them if they want to come...
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthorJilly17
no your flowers do not have to match the bm and brown dresses and orange flowers looks fab. I would be going to the veue just the two of you anyway, just for the romance of it all! Other family members do not have to agree to your choices, in fact some would say the more opinions you ask for the more people tend to give which can then become a problem in its own right!
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
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I think this is so pretty!
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthorKaya
I've got 10 weeks and people don't seem excited still really! x
