Sorry if i go on a bit but I am in two minds about whether to allow people to take images on their cameras and phones at our wedding. The reason i say this is for 2 reasons. 1st reason is that i really dislike my photo being taken and would hate for awful photos taken by non professionals of our wedding to be put up on social networking sites etc. As I think this would make me feel slightly disheartened and I think we should get to see the pics of our wedding first after all it is our day and 2nd we are paying a lot of money for 2 videographers and 2 photographers on the day. The last thing I want is shots of everyone on their smart phones on our day or our professional pictures to be ruined by a smartphone flash or whatever.
Our photographers are happy to take pictures of people at the wedding by request and will happily forward these pictures onto the relevant guests after the wedding so i personally see no reason for people to take their own pics. My OH who loves the camera and always takes a good pic sees no harm in people taking pictures and thinks I am being a bit bridezilla about it. What do you all think? Also I have no idea of how to go about asking people not to take pictures without sounding bad. I am already adding a note to our invites asking that we have an adult only wedding so don't want to add this to invites too as I think it may seem like I have a lot of orders ooopps!
Am I being a bridezilla? Xxx
CommentAuthorKirsty
Personally I think you may be going a bit far. Fair enough you dont want pictures taken during the ceremony, save that for the professionals, but to ban them all day is a little much. Even if the photographer could take photos on request he would charge for people to have them. As a guest I would feel very uncomfortable being told off for taking a few snaps.
Saying that this is just my opinion and its your day after all. What does your oh say?
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
I hate my pic taken too but know how people love taking pics during weddings (I'm one of them lol) Sometimes guests can take pictures that the photographer misses as they are off doing something else with you so I won't be banning them completly as I want to see our wedding through our guests eyes so to speak lol I have asked for no photos to be taken during the service as we have a professional protog and videographer so I don't want people getting in the way of shots or ruining their shots with their flash etc but after the service while we are signing the reg, taking pics outside, during the meal and reception I have no problem with! I'll also ask that there be a fb ban until after our professional pics are back and Ive already got my settings set so I have to approve everything before it goes on my wall ;-) I'll just put in our info cards please do not take any photo's until the relevant times of which you will be told of....or something like that!
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
I think Hails has got it spot on; refrain people from taking photos during certain times but allow them during other times. Plus guests may capture photos that the professional photographers forget about or do not notice :)
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CommentAuthorCatherineR
Personally I think that's going a little bit overboard, I hate my photo being taken too as I'm so body conscious and normally don't allow pics and if I do, I always check before they go onto faceb00k etc BUT on my wedding day, I know that I'm going to have to get over that and just let people take pictures as they want.... At the end of the day, it's only one day and the photographers are never going to get every shot with only 2 of them. They will be shots that your guests get that your photographers won't get too and I'd hate to think that because I 'banned' people from taking any pics, we didn't get the shots. Also, even if you say 'no photo's, people will still take pics I think either forgetting what you say or just thinking 'how amazing does she look' or 'that's such a intimate/funny moment' that I must get a picture of that! I think for one day, you are going to have to be extra lenient on guests as there's no way you can keep track of them all.... Even though I'm terrified about all these pics, I know I'm going to have to embrace it for one day and at the end of it, I don't think I'm really going to mind because for once - I'm going to be all done up prettily, wearing a lovely dress and still going to be the best dressed so really, it's not much of a concession that I'm going to have to make!! :) xxx
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You can request that no pictures go on Facebook, I think that's fair enough as we are doing this because we would rather the ppl that are invited evening only got to see my dress and the wedding first hand than get to see it in pictures before they even get there but I think guests may think you are being a little over the top if you request that they take no pictures at all x
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CommentAuthorMrsL2be
Hi again girls,
I think I should have made myself clearer. I don't mind photos at the reception, it is the ceremony and our family and just the 2 of us shots that are my main concern however I do think that the facebook ban is a good idea as I want to see the professional pictures before I see the not so professional pictures. I understand that people will want to take pictures at the night and have no problem with this. As for the photographer charging for the pictures that our guests ask for, we have paid for a package that includes all pictures taken be that requested photos or standard shots as well as a photobooth and should any guests want a picture from the day they only need to ask and it will be sent via email.
I wouldn't ban people altogether taking photos as i know that is totally unreasonable but I would appreciate the main parts of our wedding to be left to the pro's. Hope this makes it a bit clearer. Xxx
CommentAuthorKirsty
Ah well then that seems fine. Many people say no photos of the ceremony, we are giving people a set window to catch a snap and have requested until that poont keep the phones in the pocket! Our reverand is announcing this qt the start so its quite an informal notice, I didnt want the official photos ruined by a phone sticking into the air for a shot!
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Ah I see... Then in that case I can understand! Just say, no photo's put up on fb etc and you should be fine :) xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsL2be
This is my thought entirely I obviously didn't word it right lol. I just don't want to be overwhelmed with people trying to take pics or like u say with their smart phones in the way on the pro pics. The evening reception is a party in my eyes so that is why we are choosing to have request pics and the photobooth so everyone can enjoy the night and not be asking Uncle Jim every two minutes to take a picture. If people choose to take their own pics at the night then this is fine.
I think we will go with the idea of getting the registrar to request no pics and that way my invites don't look like I am barking orders. Xxx
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Yes, that sounds good :) If people want to take pics of the main bits eg signing of registers, cake cutting etc and you don't mind say to them that yes but please can you wait until the professionals have got the shots you both want? xxx
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
I would ban photos being uploaded onto social networking sites but allow free photography during the evening reception. Also have a ban in place during the ceremony as u don't want a constant lit of flashes going off etc xx
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
You could always say to your guests that you would appreciate it if the pics that were being posed for, could they refrain from taking pics then as the professional photographer is taking them, however feel free to take non posed pics after this. If that makes sense!
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CommentAuthorclairenina
We have had the same conversation over the weekend. We won't be banning photo's, but we don't want our wedding photo's uploaded on to social medial that we have no control over. Not sure how we are going to approach it without sounding that we are policing our wedding. Most of our guests aren't very young, so I might just mention it in passing to the people I think are likely to do it.
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
i dont think you can ban photos altogether thats taking it a bit far. at a wedding i just went to, photos were banned in the church and the vicar said at the beginning that people werent allowed to take photos until they got outside. it meant that people would enjoy the ceremony and not stand behind a camera - also no flashes going off and ruining the professional photos. personally i would love to see some pics before the professional pics come out as you sometimes have to wait a while and people will get pics of other bits of the day that you might miss.
if you are worried about facebook etc there is a setting where you can stop people automatically tagging you in pics and you have to approve each tag. if you dont like the pic dont approve it and it wont appear on your wall x
CommentAuthorAmyK
There are plenty of rhymes and 'nice wordings' knocking about on the internet, telling people you'd rather be looking at them during the ceremony, not their cameras, smartphones etc. There are several blog threads aroun about how a flash from uncle bobs camera can ruin an unmissable moment - something that not even the most professional photog can fix. So perhaps having the pro photos, followed by an invitation for the guests to take theirs, would be appropriate during the ceremony. Also, having to stand smiling for ages while all the guest vie for your attention, competing against the pro, could make it a rather draining and long task, and end up with pictures of everyone looking in all directions!
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Will bump previous "is it rude" thread reguarding this! I say no camera during ceremony!
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Yeh I guess all that sounds ok then, most conductees of the ceremony say no photos anyway, I know in church they do and also most registrars do, but if you're not sure bring it up and I'm sure they would add it in at the beginning for you x
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
People are always gonna take photos... U can only control so much... Personally for more the merrier... I think it's a little petty tbh to ban from social sites
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CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
I don't like ym photo taken either but I will let other take photos of us but I will ask them not to upload them on facebook on the day maybe after or after the honeymoon put them on One of my bff is going to be my videoographer and she loves taking photos all the time she like our own personal paparazzi If i told her not to take photos she still will she just ignore me as she always does But I'm fine with that I have gotten used to it!!
All you have to do is ask them to not take photos while the photographer is taken certain photos you requested for and the rest is history everyone at the wedding is their to help send you into the world as Husband and wife as they care for you and want to celebrate your day with you!!
Allow them to pap away but when you are having certain photos with your husband or family or even them ask them to put their camera away just for the mean time and bring them out later =D <3 X
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CommentAuthorNicky2988
I don't think that's really something you can control. Especially if guests have travelled a long way to share the day with you, they're going to want to take photo's of you, the venue, each other etc.
If you really want to try and control it, maybe you could ask everyone not to put their photo's on any websites but send them all to you- that way you can vet them all. You could group them all together on a website so people can take copies of the ones they like or add their own photo's, while only being ones you approve of xx
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Asking at the ceremony to respect wishes is fine. The rest of the time is quite off and will put guests noses out of joint. Their will be guests taking pictures for people who cannot attend. You ccould ask guests however, to refrain putting pics on social media until you have released some of the pro ones though!!!
