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    • JadeM822
      CommentAuthorJadeM822
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
     
    So basically were getting married 29 may 2015, ive never really been a girly girl with best friends or even close friends. i only ever really talk about problems etc with my mum or my fiance. i was going to have my brothers fiance and one of my friends as bridemaids but it just doesnt feel right. My friend is very self centered and cares more about herself than the fact its our big day and my brothrs gf barely contacts or sees me. I think i picked them because i felt like i had to. So now im thinking i wont have bridesmaids...i have my 2 sons as page boys and im really close to my mum so was thinking maybe she could walk them down the aisle followed by me and my dad? anyone have any other ideas...or think that having no bridemaids is totally insane? help!
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    You should have whatever you want for your day and whatever makes you happy :) there is nothing wrong with having no bridesmaids. I would rather have no bridesmaids than choose people just for the sake of having them. Have you already asked them to be your bridesmaids though? As it may be tricky taking that back if you have already asked x

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    You don't have to have bridesmaids if you don't want to! I think people get caught up in doing what they think they 'supposed' to do/have that they don't have what they want on their wedding day.

    What if your mum and dad both walk you down one arm in each? Or if you still want the tradition, do as you said with your mum going first followed by you and your dad.

    Now I do have3 bridesmaids, BUT I don't have a maid of honour and I don't want one. I don't have page boys or flower girls, and my fiancé has two best men! Do whatever you want that will give you and your OH the perfect wedding day! x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    I don't have a MOH either and my OH is also having 2 best men :)

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    • JadeM822
      CommentAuthorJadeM822
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
     
    My friend assumed she would be a bridesmaid, but i never actually asked her to be. Shes really not been a great friend since she got with her latest boyfriend so its a no brainer for me really.
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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    Don't feel pressured into having bridesmaids if you don't want any. It should be a privilege not a 'right' if people are assuming.

    If you feel awkward about approaching her you could say you don't have a big enough budget for bridesmaids, and if she offers to pay for her own dress and accessories (which 50% probably wouldn't offer outright), just say you don't like the idea of her funding herself or something along the lines of... so you would prefer to have none.

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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    There's nothing wrong with not having bridesmaids. If you don't feel like they'll be helpful and keep you calm then I wouldn't have them xxx

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    • Mrs M Wade
      CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    My OH is having 2 best men also. Have what ever you want it's your day

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    • sALLY
      CommentAuthorsALLY
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
     
    Im not having any bridesmaids purely for similar reasons, if i picked one of my friends the other would be very annoyed and vice versa.

    one of my friends other half is our bestman so looks like she will have to look after his son on the day and my other friend has a little boy as well so they both have kids to look after as well. im kind of glad ive not picked them as well because as times gone on one of them just isnt interested in my wedding at all.
    i also wanted my oldest niece to be bridesmaid but it then became unfair on my other niece and my h2b's niece so i have i just came to the conclusion no bridesmaids is better
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    • AmandaK74
      CommentAuthorAmandaK74
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    My friend didnt have bridesmaids at her wedding and it had no impact on the day what so ever, do whatever feels right for you x

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    You don't need bridesmaids, although you need to make sure there is someone with you in the morning to help you get ready. That can be your mum. My aunt had my brothers as ushers and they followed her down the aisle. The vicar led her, and she wasn't walked in by anyone. She was in her late forties and it was second time round. You could just have your page boys followed by you and your father, and maybe have your brother walk your mum in ahead of the procession.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    You don't have to have bridesmaids if you are not close enough to any girls to have any. There are plenty of brides who don't have grown up bridesmaids or any at all x

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    • sarah
      CommentAuthorsarah
      Got married 17 months ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    I agree with the other ladies, you don't need to have bridesmaids if you don't want to.




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    • LindseyW58
      CommentAuthorLindseyW58
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
     
    Do what YOU want to do, forget what anyone else thinks :D
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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    I didn't have any bridesmaids. I did worry that it might affect my photo's, but the day was perfect and couldn't have been any better. I certainly don't regret not having them.
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    • JenW52
      CommentAuthorJenW52
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
     
    I've got a bridesman- my best mate from uni. He's not gay or anything, just my best friend.
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    • Mrs T Hurley!
      CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    I'm glad you've asked this. I'm in a similar situation. I don't have any girl friends that I feel I can ask. Was gonna ask oh's sister but not sure. Gonna see closer to the time! x

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    • Car0line
      CommentAuthorCar0line
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 23rd 2014
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    I'm having two flower girls/junior bridesmaids, my H2B is having two best men. My H2B for a long time kept insisting I had to have a bridesmaid because who was going to organise my hen party (errrr, I am!) and who was going to help me get into my dress (errrr, I am, I've successfully been managing to dress myself for many years!).
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    • NikkiE58
      CommentAuthorNikkiE58
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Oct 11th 2014
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    I was originally supposed to be asking my FSIL to be a BM, but she commented on the day of our Engagement that she didn't want to be a BM as she has done it so many times before, which upset me on the day, but, as we're in the middle of jointly organising a party, and I realise that she is so different from me, I think I had a lucky escape! I'm having 6 BM's, and all but one I reckon will be the best BM's ever, and are all trying to get really involved with helping, which is great! BUT, if I was like you, and wasn't sure how much they would ease the stress of planning, and actually create the stress, then I would 100% not have any BM's! You could maybe ask your mum to be an honourary MOH or something, as sometimes I've known other Brides to at least give their mums a title! It might be nice for your mum, but if you do go down that route, maybe give some extra responsibility to your FMIL too, to stop jealousy!
    But yer, if you don't want any BM's do whatever you want, it's your decision to make, and shouldn't ask people just because it's 'expected' of you. If anyone asks, just say that you and FH made the decision long before not to complicate things with the budget and relationships with your friends, so aren't having a Bridal party? Hope that helps! Good luck X
 
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