Wedding Forum - Nightmare...

I get married in July 2015 and started to look for dresses.. I took my mum the first time and tried on two dresses and thought they looked nice! this weekend i took my friend/bridemaid and my mum, in total i tried on 4 new dresses and still came away confused. I looked at th pictures again and don't particualrly like either. I had a long chat with my mum and eventually you she told me that herself and my bridesmaid both feel i should loose weight if i'm going to find a dress that i'll look good in and should get down to a dress size 14 in a wedding dress, i'm 5ft 1 and a size 14 (16 in wedding dress) I was totally gutted and haven't really stopped crying since. I'm trying to loose weight but have just been diagnosed with and underactive thyroid and i'm really struggling. I know i need to loose some weight. The dresses seem to hang wrong with the either length, waste is too low. Has anyone got any ideas about weight loss or choosing the right dress??

If you're 5' 1" I would say it's prob your height rather than weight making things hang funny on you as all the waists etc will be in the wrong place on you! I would imagine say if any embellishments are meant to be on the waist or hip it's slightly on the wrong place on you and will throw off the look entirely! Don't forget that when the dress is made for your measure to it will look so much better on you! I know what it's like trying to try on dresses with clips or the lady holding them closed at the back doesn't really give you much imagination how great it could look on you. What type of body shape are you? I'm a pear shape so I know if I try on anything that's really figure hugging past my hips its going to make me look 10 times wider! Maybe look at what dresses are best to compliment your body type and flatter bits you are uncomfortable about. I would say go back and get trying on until you find one that makes you go oh wow I do look good! When you look in the mirror then when it's made to your size it'll look even better! And if you did want to lose a bit if weight do it before your first fittings but I wouldn't say that's the reason they aren't looking right on you, there's so many styles out there just need to find the one for you!

Agree with the above post. It's probably your height that is making the dresses hang funny. You can find a dress to suit any weight and the people in the shops should be able to recommend which styles for you to try on. I think it's a bit rude of your mum and your bridesmaid to come out and say that, although I'm sure they didn't mean to upset you they were just trying to help you find your dream dress and be able to feel a million dollars in it. Don't feel pushed into losing weight if you don't really want to or if you think it will be too hard - planning a wedding is stressful enough without the added stress of trying to lose weight if you are finding it hard. There IS a dress out there for you. :) x

That's just awful for them to say that to u. I'm a size 16 and to be honest I tried loads of dresses on and I was thinking I look huge in all these dresses then I tried one on and it was perfect. U just need to find the right dress. Even if u have to try on 50 then do it. There will be a dress out there that u feel amazing in.
U cud always take someone who u know won't judge u. I first went with my sister and my friend and they helped me so much without judging. Then I went with my mam who had no idea I had been with my sister and friend.
My mam has serious issues with me and my 3 sisters about our weight. It's ridiculous. But we just don't listen as long as we are happy then she can think what she wants.

I think Sprucey has got it nailed on! I think everyone's has that thing they are insecure about and for your mum and bridesmaid to say its your weight will probably make you inclined to agree if you say you already want to loose weight. I think height and the way things hang is it! I'm really tall so I had the same problem but in a different aspect. It doesn't matter whether your a size 16 or 26, there's a dress out there that will make you feel amazing and you'll know why all the others didn't work for you. Pick yourself up, take people who are positive, honest and encouraging (or alone if needs be) and youll find your dress! Good luck x

When youre trying on your dresses, it might be a good idea to wear heels as well.x

for me, sorry that should have been don't work for me. You may be different!

Thank you ladies for all your help and support. I'm going again on Saturday to another bridal shop and will take all your advice with me. I spoke to my fiancé about what was said and he reminded me that it's our opinion that counts and overall he loves me for who I am.

Not to mention that you will still look STUNNING Angela and your OH will definitely think so too! You will wow him in whatever dress you choose to wear xx