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    • MrsS2b
      CommentAuthorMrsS2b
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    I get married in July 2015 and started to look for dresses.. I took my mum the first time and tried on two dresses and thought they looked nice! this weekend i took my friend/bridemaid and my mum, in total i tried on 4 new dresses and still came away confused. I looked at th pictures again and don't particualrly like either. I had a long chat with my mum and eventually you she told me that herself and my bridesmaid both feel i should loose weight if i'm going to find a dress that i'll look good in and should get down to a dress size 14 in a wedding dress, i'm 5ft 1 and a size 14 (16 in wedding dress) I was totally gutted and haven't really stopped crying since. I'm trying to loose weight but have just been diagnosed with and underactive thyroid and i'm really struggling. I know i need to loose some weight. The dresses seem to hang wrong with the either length, waste is too low. Has anyone got any ideas about weight loss or choosing the right dress??
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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    There is a weight loss thread if you choose to do that, but in my opinion they were wrong for even saying that to you. Nobody needs to tell someone they need to lose weight. If you feel you need to, then you don't need telling, that to me is rude, not caring. Wedding dresses can sometimes be the most unflattering things you will ever wear if you are more than a size 10. I found it was more about finding the right style of dress (and colour) to flatter you. I had an ivory v neck dress.
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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    If you're 5' 1" I would say it's prob your height rather than weight making things hang funny on you as all the waists etc will be in the wrong place on you! I would imagine say if any embellishments are meant to be on the waist or hip it's slightly on the wrong place on you and will throw off the look entirely! Don't forget that when the dress is made for your measure to it will look so much better on you! I know what it's like trying to try on dresses with clips or the lady holding them closed at the back doesn't really give you much imagination how great it could look on you. What type of body shape are you? I'm a pear shape so I know if I try on anything that's really figure hugging past my hips its going to make me look 10 times wider! Maybe look at what dresses are best to compliment your body type and flatter bits you are uncomfortable about. I would say go back and get trying on until you find one that makes you go oh wow I do look good! When you look in the mirror then when it's made to your size it'll look even better! And if you did want to lose a bit if weight do it before your first fittings but I wouldn't say that's the reason they aren't looking right on you, there's so many styles out there just need to find the one for you!

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    • MrsS2b
      CommentAuthorMrsS2b
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    i think you may be right, i'd say im an hour glass figure (big bust and large hips and bottom - all the things my partner loves about me). i think i need an empire line dress,so far i've tried A line dresses on.
    The weight issue still bothers me and that along with the dress issue it is making me want to give up
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    Agree with the above post. It's probably your height that is making the dresses hang funny. You can find a dress to suit any weight and the people in the shops should be able to recommend which styles for you to try on. I think it's a bit rude of your mum and your bridesmaid to come out and say that, although I'm sure they didn't mean to upset you they were just trying to help you find your dream dress and be able to feel a million dollars in it. Don't feel pushed into losing weight if you don't really want to or if you think it will be too hard - planning a wedding is stressful enough without the added stress of trying to lose weight if you are finding it hard. There IS a dress out there for you. :) x

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    • CommentAuthorJessica29792
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    That seems to be a bit of a nasty thing for your mum and bridesmaid to say, if you don't mind me pointing out. They should understand the issues that you have and try to help you find a way around that. I would just like to say though, you have less than a year to find a dress. In the time that it could take for you to drop a dress size (my mum also has an underactive thyroid and has been the same size for years), you could run out of time. You don't want to wait for another couple of months to get down to the size that somebody else says you should be and then to still not find a dress that YOU like or for you to find a dress but then for the shop to not get it in stock in time for your wedding day. Keep your chin up :) You won't find your dress straight away but you will find it :) Go to a number of different shops, travel a bit further out if need be, and try on dresses until your heart is content. You will find something :) Also, maybe search for tips and tricks for dresses. I have seen something where it says what kind of dress would go best with what figure and height etc. Have a look on p1nterest, I am positive that is where I saw it. I could send you a link through message if you would like? x
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    • LeanneS91
      CommentAuthorLeanneS91
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    That's just awful for them to say that to u. I'm a size 16 and to be honest I tried loads of dresses on and I was thinking I look huge in all these dresses then I tried one on and it was perfect. U just need to find the right dress. Even if u have to try on 50 then do it. There will be a dress out there that u feel amazing in.
    U cud always take someone who u know won't judge u. I first went with my sister and my friend and they helped me so much without judging. Then I went with my mam who had no idea I had been with my sister and friend.
    My mam has serious issues with me and my 3 sisters about our weight. It's ridiculous. But we just don't listen as long as we are happy then she can think what she wants.

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    • JennK
      CommentAuthorJennK
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    I'm 5ft 3 and an 18, it took me lots of dresses and 3 different shops until I found the one. The last shop I went to I straight away found 3 dresses that felt amazing when I tried them on. Maybe try going on your own or with a friend who understands a bit better? I have found all shops do things slightly differently as well so you need one who can hold the dresses on you how they would look once altered to fit :)

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    I think Sprucey has got it nailed on! I think everyone's has that thing they are insecure about and for your mum and bridesmaid to say its your weight will probably make you inclined to agree if you say you already want to loose weight. I think height and the way things hang is it! I'm really tall so I had the same problem but in a different aspect. It doesn't matter whether your a size 16 or 26, there's a dress out there that will make you feel amazing and you'll know why all the others didn't work for you. Pick yourself up, take people who are positive, honest and encouraging (or alone if needs be) and youll find your dress! Good luck x

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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    Yeah for hourglass you deffo want something that's going to make the most of your b00bies! And nip in at your lil waist, if you go big and puffy it could make you look much bigger but then if you find the right dress to enhance your best bits not cover them up. Materials also at a big part in how they fall etc. I think you need to get out there and try try try!

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    • Mrs T Hurley!
      CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
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    When youre trying on your dresses, it might be a good idea to wear heels as well.x

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    • JenW52
      CommentAuthorJenW52
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
     
    Ok. I think that your mum was a little harsh and I sympathise, I too have an underactive thyroid- losing weight is a pain. I've got 11 weeks until my wedding and fewer until my dress fitting. I found an A line dress with a veil to hide my bingo wings and I love it. I have also had success with a VLCD (google it) to lose weight- I lose at a rate of about half a stone per month on it. I tried all sorts- diet clubs made me gain weight! An underactive thyroid is a very difficult thing and conventional weight loss techniques do not work!
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    • JenW52
      CommentAuthorJenW52
      Posted: Sep 22nd 2014
     
    for me, sorry that should have been don't work for me. You may be different!
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 23rd 2014
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    It's all very well your mum and sister saying lose weight, they're not the ones that have to do it. It was really unfair of them to do that. Any bride can find the right dress, regardless of size. Spend lots of time talking to the ladies in the shops, they know their stuff. You'll find the right dress, and then if you lose weight you'll look even better. You could try talking to a dietitian if you really do want to lose weight, but do it because you want to not because someone else wants you to.

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    • MrsS2b
      CommentAuthorMrsS2b
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 24th 2014
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    Thank you ladies for all your help and support. I'm going again on Saturday to another bridal shop and will take all your advice with me. I spoke to my fiancé about what was said and he reminded me that it's our opinion that counts and overall he loves me for who I am.
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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 24th 2014
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    I agree with everyone on here, I can't believe that that they said that! I have seen plenty of brides size 14 and above who look stunning in their dresses. It's all about finding the right dress to suit you.

    If you want to lose weight you need to do it for yourself and people saying things like that will only make you stressed and upset which will actually make weight loss harder.




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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 24th 2014
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    Not to mention that you will still look STUNNING Angela and your OH will definitely think so too! You will wow him in whatever dress you choose to wear xx

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