HELP! Hi all Brides to be... i'm a newbie to this site and also a first time to be bride... Although i have no idea where to start, i'm in a pickle, as i am going to be doing this whole wedding by myself! You can say i'm the "black sheep" of the family and despite the hints and askings not one person is interested in helping or supporting me... :-( so from hen -do to the honeymoon, i'm trying to do it all by myself, hope someone can help or just "chat" to me :-)
CommentAuthorHannahF54
I could have written this! Feeling a bit despondant about wedding planning at the moment, have you booked your wedding?x
CommentAuthorRachelE118
HI Jess and welcome. You aren't on your own anymore you'll have so much support on here. I would suggest you first work out a date (ish) then a budget. Get the big things like a venue and Registry or Church and lots of other stuff will fall into place. xx
CommentAuthorJessG12
hi ladies, and thanks!
we have a date and budget set... We're outdoorsy ppl (campers) so looking for a field/marquee type thing.
Bit hard when not one person is interested! we've got no MOH, bridesmaids, ushers, the better half is struggling with the choice he has of Best man, lol...
been to a few wedding fairs in my area although on my own, i don't want to go to another one! the bridal dress companies really put me down and said that they didn't cater for large women like me... spent the next week crying and sobbing over girly films and popcorn! :( xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
all you have to do hun is talk to your new family here when ever you wont .
we dont get tired of being shown pictures or asked our opinions
we will happily give advice ,help you source items you are looking for and provide useful links ( however you need to unrestrict your profile to get the links )
You've got a big family on here to answer any questions you have. By the time you have been on here afew times you will be hooked!
CommentAuthorRachelE118
Just a thought have you considered getting married abroad? I so wish my OH had let us do it that way!!!
CommentAuthorJessG
Have thought about a wedding abroad, he's not interested, lol.. it's like role reversal - he wants the big white one, but because of the issues i have, i'm not interested at all... :-S xx
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Hello. Welcome to the UKBride family. We're all here for you. When are you getting married? Whereabouts are you based? If you change your profile from private to public (go to my wedding, then my details), we can see more about you and we'll be better able to support you. Plus you can post photos and links and so can we.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i will bump the bridal checklist for you , it will give you a good starting place
How about a wedding in a festival or something? I didn't/don't want a big wedding (did it before 19 years ago!!) but he's never been married so abroad wasn't an option. We have gone for Afternoon Tea and Pimms though rather than s posh sit down...it works out much cheaper and I like the informality of it.
CommentAuthorRachelE118
Look at me 'get married in a festival' like I spend my days doing festivals and know what I'm talking about!! Never been to one in my life yuck too much mud and overflowing loos!! But I saw one on Don't Tell the poor girl and it looked good xx
CommentAuthorJessG
lol, don't think i'd like the idea of hovering whilst holding all my wedding attire just to pee! lol x
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
Hi Jess, welcome to the group. If you ever needs advice or just even to talk about random stuff then we are all here for you. Out of curiosity what is your OH's reasoning for wanting the big wedding if you're struggling to find people interested in helping? Maybe try floating the abroad idea again or maybe a small intimate ceremony with select people?
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CommentAuthorJessG
HI Victoria, thank you. I honestly don't know his reasonings, i've asked in the past, and his replies are always the same " because it's our special day" i think he's stuck in the past and doesn't know there are a million other ways to say i do, without half the commitments... as previously said, i'm the black sheep of my family, and have never been accepted into his no matter how much i do/try, so i'm really hesitant to pay for a white wedding to put false smiles on peoples faces. i'd rather pay for something more intimate and actually have butterflies in my stomach than the constant "looking over your shoulder" way about things... xx
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
See if he can compromise on a smaller intimate gathering and in essence meet in the middle, it's really what the wedding is about, you and him and if your feeling pushed into something you don't feel comfortable with then it's not going to be feeling equal.
Playing devils advocate though he sounds like he really loves you and want's to give you the biggest best wedding to make a fuss over you but maybe doesn't realise that it can leave the feeling of being in a crowded room and yet being completely alone because you're surrounded by people you don't connect with.
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CommentAuthorJessG
morning ladies... Question - do any of you know what the requirements are to be married in the middle of a field? xx
CommentAuthorRachelE118
Jess- I'm pretty sure to be married legally it needs to be under a registered 'structure', for example where I'm getting married you can wed in the Bandstand which has been licenced (no way I would risk that, we live in Wales and you know what our weather is like!!) But you could do the legal bit beforehand (I'm sure someone has done that on here recently) then have a ceremony of sorts held by whoever you want outdoors- it wont be 'legal' but you'll have already done that bit. I think you'd struggle with a marque or tent official wedding as I'm sure that the 'structure' has to be permanent. Why don't you speak to your local registrar to pick their brains?
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Yes the structure outside does have to be permanent ( not a tent ) and the venue must hold a licence for weddings to be held in the structure ... What you could do is go to registrar office and have your legal wedding there then another ceremony in the field , for this one as it holds no legal basis you can have anyone conduct it
