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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 19th 2014
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    Hi all,

    Sorry I'm going to rabble on a bit here...

    I only have a very limited amount of spaces for day guests(my family live 3 hours away from myself and where our wedding will be)
    My intention was initially to just invite aunties and uncles except for where they have passed away and inviting my cousin in there place. I was briught up in a fairly close family.
    I asked my mum 6 months ago to ask who would be interested in attending, and from that I intended to invite all uncles bar one who can't attend due to ilness plus 4 cousins.

    This is fine as I have enough spaces but I'm worried that my one cousin is goin to assume she can bring her children as she has been known to do this before (they are grown up and I've hardly ever met them except for wen they were toddlers)

    Also I don't want to cause hassle because some cousins will be invited and others not. I want to say something like if there are other members of the family that want to attend then to let me know (as I do have a few spaces )but how can I go about this?

    Hope that makes sense and you can give me some advise.

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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 19th 2014
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    You haven't said how old your cousins children are, but we've put a note on our invites to say that due to the nature and small size of the venue we can only accommodate the children of immediate family.

    My cousins are all invited to the full wedding as they live all over the country, but I haven't included a couple of them and one uncle because I never speak to them. H2B's cousins are all invited to the evening, bar one, as they all live locally. The one does his accounts and he asked her to save the date. She has now mentioned that she is excited for coming to the day, so now we've had to add her to the list :o/

    My Mum suggested having a back up list to fill in the spaces if we get no's.

    Good luck!
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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 19th 2014
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    They are grown up I think 20, 18 and 15.

    I'm not expecting anti e to travel 6 hours for an evening so can't just Invite them to the evening.

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 20th 2014
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    I think just be honest. We have something similar. Send the invite to your cousin only then maybe text or send her a fb message and say that due to the size of the venue you can't accommodate for everyone you'd like to be there. If you want say you would love to have them all to the evening but you were thinking of them in Having to travel just for a few hours at the reception and them back again. Something along those Lines.

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 20th 2014
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    we will be putting on our invites that we cant cater for children, its quite common for invites to have that if you aren't having children xx

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    • IrishLion
      CommentAuthorIrishLion
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 20th 2014
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    id say be honest and say your limited numbers and children (regardless of age) cannot attend unless personally invited. as theyre over the age of 'being a child' they mite assume as an adult its fine.. just be honest.
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    • barbie86
      CommentAuthorbarbie86
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Nov 21st 2014
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    Ours was easy to police as we were offering menu choices so each guest had a separate RSVP card which we had printed their names on. I think the best approach is to do something similar eg write the names of the guests yourself on the RSVP card. I don't like the idea of saying who isn't invited on the invitation though (we had a pretty strict 'no kids or plus one's' policy and we just let it be know politely through word of mouth, and then obv through the way we addressed the invitations).

    If she does decide to add extra people in just call her and say you're sorry she was confused but only those named on the invitation are invited and that unfortunately you won't be able to accommodate any extras, and that you hope she understands and can still come, but you understand if she can't.
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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 21st 2014
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    Yes. Think that's what I need to do. I'm only having 2 children at my wedding and they are my page boys. So it's not like ill be inviting some children and not others really x
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    • SydnieH
      CommentAuthorSydnieH
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Nov 21st 2014
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    We're having the same, only kids we're inviting are all in the wedding party. Our 2 sons, page boys. And our 4 nieces, BM and flower girls. Other than that there is no one under 16 invited. My sister is the youngest guest. We're handing out day invites to everyone invited and those with kids will get a separate evening invitation addressed to the kids. Hoping this will get rid of any doubt of whether kids are invited or not. Ours is due to limited numbers, plus it's on a Friday so kids will be at school anyway
 
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